30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: PSPF (7/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: PSPF  (7/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I share four things to remember as your household dynamic changes in the empty nest years. 

"The empty nest years can sometimes be a not-so-empty nest."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 175

Challenge: PSPF  (7/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Four things to remember as you enter the empty nest years is our topic for today (Day 7) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

Inspiring music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:44

Hello, amazing human and beautiful soul! One of the most surprising things about the empty nest transition, I have found, is that there isn’t one singular transition period for all of us:

  • If you have more than one child, each child leaving mixes things up. 

  • Many children end up returning home for- ever, or, some period of time down the road. 

  • Just as your nest is becoming empty, you may become a caregiver to your parent and you may move in with them or they move in with you.

  • The empty nest years can sometimes be a not-so-empty nest.

The four things I’m mentioning today are great for each time your household dynamic changes for any reason, really, even if it is a return home from college break. Remember these four things as you adjust: PSPF. 

The first P? Is Patience for Self. S is for Self-love - more on that back in Day 5. The second P is Patience for Others; and finally F: for Fun! So we have patience, patience, love, and fun - what else do we really need in life?  (okay, outside of water, food, shelter and air). [giggle]

While these four things are fairly self-explanatory, I’ll say a little bit more. The Patience for Self is in the navigation of the change - giving yourself time to adjust and the space to feel the emotions. Self-Love: we absolutely do cover this more in Day 5, but as always, you are freaking amazing and don’t you dare forget it.

Next, we have Patience for Others - a change in the household impacts everyone in the household - that includes not only you and your partner(should you have one) but also siblings to those who are coming and going and it even impacts your pets.

Also, the impact may be different for each one of you. Having different emotions and being in different spaces is fine - and this is where the patience for one another helps.

And Finally - F for fun- it is super easy to forget this one in the day to day activities, the todo lists, all of the plans that  you have made, and so on.  I invite you to look for the fun, if you aren’t naturally finding it.

03:13

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. Have you noticed others don't have the same emotions about the empty nest as you do? 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Go find some fun, and don’t you dare forget that you are freaking amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: What if? 💚 (6/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: What if?  (6/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to consider the What if switcheroo.

"The possibilities here are endless. Allow What-if to open up your imagination, to shift your thoughts a bit, and see what happens."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 174

Challenge: What if?  (6/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

What if? is our topic for today (Day 6) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.   

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening, know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:41

Amazing human and beautiful soul….this one has been a game-changer for me and it might be for you as well! 

I invite you to choose a topic that is near the top of your mind. 

[pause] 

Now I’d like you to form the first sentence that comes to mind around that topic that begins with What if…

[pause] What question came to mind for you?  

[pause]

Is it a positive question or a negative question? 

Meaning,  do you go to what if this particular scenario that wouldn’t be good, happens? Or do you go to something more along the lines of what if this incredible thing happens that’s super fun? 

For many of us (and this may be you), what-iffing a topic may automatically bring on worries and concerns.  

For example: Your child is considering changing their college major and you go to, “What if this major my child has chosen provides no job opportunities?” 

or

“What if this [awful thing] happens?” And that [awful thing] is whatever you mind has  chosen to insert today.

While having a healthy level of outlook and preparation is not bad at all, when we always focus on the what ifs that can go wrong and never consider the what ifs that can go right - we tend to only find more things that can go wrong, and more things, and more things. 

I have loved the switcheroo of the what ifs to positive so much so that I no longer focus on affirmations without putting what if in front of them. For the rare breed of human who fully believes a new affirmation they’re given for their lives out of the gate, you wouldn’t need to do this but if you hear an affirmation for your life and think, “yeah, right” or something similar, then try this what-if switcheroo! 

An example might be nice. If you have an affirmation such as:

I am capable of doing anything I want. I am smart, beautiful and know who I am as a human. 

You could find yourself pushing back on a portion of that - or all of it - but then add What if to the beginning and wow - things get interesting. 

Let’s try it with that same affirmation. I’ll give you some space after each one so that you may  repeat these to yourself. 

What if I am capable of doing anything I want?  

[pause]

What if I am smart, beautiful and know who I am as a human? 

[pause]

What if? 

It gets interesting, doesn’t it? Of course, you can use this for your thoughts about your kids…

What if my child pursues their dream and it all works out?   

And any topic under the sun - even to thoughts about your upcoming errands:

What if the time in the waiting room flies by and I have fun? 

With this consideration, I ask you: 

What if everything works out? 

What if you could do anything in the world when you wake up tomorrow? 

The possibilities here are endless. Allow What-if to open up your imagination, to shift your thoughts a bit, and see what happens. 

Give what-iffing your life a try today.   

04:38

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. What if you dreamt like you did when you were a child, and think "what if" that thing happens?

04:50

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers, and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Will you try the What-if switcheroo? Either way, don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]


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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Become Your Own Biggest Fan💚 (5/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Become Your Own Biggest Fan (5/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to take a look at your inner dialogue about yourself.

"Those unkind thoughts that we have about ourselves, they aren’t ones we were born with."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 173

Challenge: Become Your Own Biggest Fan (5/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Becoming your own biggest fan is our topic  today (Day 5) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, how is your inner dialogue about yourself? 

Consider how kind you are when you speak to yourself. If you are like many humans, you already know you can be quite brutal. 

Sadly, it is fairly common. Noting it, though, is a start. 

For most of us, we haven't been trained to do anything other than unfortunate self-talk. 

But noting that we do it, allows us to begin to be curious about it and consider new ways to talk to ourselves: ways to follow up with a thought and to show patience, kindness, loving consideration to ourselves. 

Those unkind thoughts that we have about ourselves, they aren’t ones we were born with. We’ve heard them from someone and have decided that they are truths. If you are able to catch yourself in a thought about you that you wouldn’t say that out loud to someone you love (or anyone actually) then, it’s time to clean that up. 

A really important thing to keep in mind, though, is to be kind to yourself as you process this. The last thing you want to do is bully yourself about bullying yourself - it is time to break that cycle. You are amazing after all! 

One final thought to consider is that if you are unable to provide support and patience and love toward yourself, then where are you gaining the energy to do it for others? 

Ooo. That was a little tough love there, huh? 

For today, consider becoming your own biggest fan: cheering yourself on; having patience and love for yourself. And sit with the fun thought that your future self is cheering you on. Just as you can look back now and think upon your past self. How fun is that? 

02:46

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. Do you realize how unsupportive you can be to yourself through your thoughts? And, what is one thought you can change up to allow yourself to feel better? 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, remember to check in on what you are saying to yourself, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Celebrate Personal Wins💚 (4/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Celebrate Personal Wins (4/30)💚

In this podcast episode I remind you to celebrate your wins!

"I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions."

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Coach Christine,

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"I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 172

Challenge: Celebrate Personal Wins (4/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT


[level-up music]

Celebrating your personal wins is our topic for today (Day 4) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:43

Amazing human and beautiful soul,  it is incredibly easy to take small wins for granted. This topic is one of my favorites. I encourage you to everyday,  celebrate a win - or multiple wins. 

I like to say - celebrate your wins: big or small, we celebrate them all! 

There are days where getting out of bed is a win! Maybe you made all the meals for your family - and you always do (without even giving it a second of thought). 

I invite you to find something to celebrate each and every day. If you're comfortable, share your celebration with others, but be careful that you don't change how you feel about your win based on their reaction. 

Sometimes the reactions of others may not line up with our expectations of their reaction. This could be for many reasons:  maybe they may have no interest in it; they may have something else entirely on their mind; they may not understand to the level that this is a big deal - for you. Maybe, it’s something that's easy for them, but it wasn't for you. 

With this in mind, I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions. 

If you feel good about the win before you tell someone, make sure no matter their reaction you still feel good about it after. It’s important! 

You should be really proud of yourself. I’m celebrating with you and I'd love to know what your wins are. 

02:28

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is ….What wins have you been ignoring in your life?

02:35

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

 [exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today. Way to go on celebrating your win, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

[end]


Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your New Role As A Parent (The Coach)💚 (3/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your New Role As A Parent (The Coach) (3/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to consider moving into a new phase (or role) as a parent: the coach! 

"Consider the pressure you get to take off of yourself as your emerging adult has the space they need to become their best version of who they are meant to be."

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life! 

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"Consider the pressure you get to take off of yourself as your emerging adult has the space they need to become their best version of who they are meant to be."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 171

Challenge: Your New Role As A Parent (The Coach) (3/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT


[level-up music]

Your new role as a parent is our topic for today (Day 3) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[happy upbeat music under voice over]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:44

Amazing human and beautiful soul you’ve made my day by stopping by and listening. 

One of the things I love most about coaching clients is being able to witness their new-found trust in themselves as they begin their journey forward in a way that truly honors who they are. It isn’t an easy thing to explain with words but I’ll make an attempt:

I imagine it as if energy that has always been there within these beautiful humans (hiding) is initially doing its best to peer through cracks in all their thoughts and beliefs of who they are - which tend to be thoughts built with words from others. Providing space for them to be them, to share their feelings, their thoughts and begin to be curious, allows those cracks of light (their inner being) to expand at first into a window but eventually a beautiful stained glass window that is all theirs. 

With their beautiful light shining out into the world in their unique way, they gain the confidence to live life in a way that honors them; and in also showing up in their authenticity - the world gets so much more just by them being who they are. 

Ooooo… it’s so good. 

I share this with you, as being able to do something similar for your child is about as good as it gets. You can almost imagine the colors and dancing colorful lights you would be able to have in a room when two people show up in this way. 

Yes, we know your role as a parent will adjust and be different as your child grows up, but I invite you to consider that that role (as a coach), when you choose to show up in that way - in those times where your initial gut reaction is to solve everything - but you choose to be that coach for them, that is a gift that will continue to keep giving. 

And, of course, you can pop out of the role whenever necessary. 

Consider the pressure you get to take off of yourself as your emerging adult has the space they need to become their best version of who they are meant to be. 

These skills, thoughts and concepts in this: the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success are all ones I use with my clients  - and are also ones you can adapt in your own life to use with your child. 

I often hear comments such as: "My time as a mother is over." or “All I ever wanted to be was a parent, and now I’m not sure who I am.” 

You are still a parent. It is different, sure, but trust me, you’ll have moments (usually when you least expect them) when your adult child suddenly needs you - and then it is “go time.’ 

This different role as a parent could be: 

Different [matter-of-fact]

Different [sad]

Different [questioning]

Different [happy]

You get to choose. Imagine, for a moment,  a relationship with your child long-term where your whole purpose is to love them and not to solve their problems. Imagine that you are confident in who you are and show up seeing them in all of their potential - even when they can’t see it themselves. 

Imagine yourself giving them the space to be fully them: when they are winning, and when they are in the midst of losing - it’s all their journey and their opportunity to learn more about themselves.

I invite you to consider this new parenting role as a coach. I’m cheering you on! 

04:49

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is:  How do you feel about considering yourself as a coach to your child(ren) and what kind of coach would you like to be? 

05: 02

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Embrace The Bittersweet💚 (2/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Embrace The Bittersweet (2/30)💚

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success is here! I'll be uploading episodes over August & September of 2023 - if you are ready to dive into the entire Challenge, a video series is available here: 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.

In this podcast episode, I recap all challenge announcements, and we talk about those bittersweet emotions - expect some!

"Your emotional journey and your emotions are yours. Your emotions are fine to have because you are having them. Sure, they may take you for a ride or maybe on a detour, but you'll get back where you need to be."

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Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"Your emotional journey and your emotions are yours. Your emotions are fine to have because you are having them. Sure, they may take you for a ride, or maybe on a detour,  but you’ll get back where you need to be"

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 170

Challenge: Embrace The Bittersweet (2/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Our topic today is about embracing the bittersweet as well as a recap of all of the 30-Day Challenge announcements.

[level-up music]

Hello amazing human and beautiful soul! I am your host, Coach Christine Oakfield bringing to you the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.

[upbeat music begins under voice]

You'll find 167 episodes of content in season one of the Your Empty Nest Coach podcast. In this, the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success - or Season 2 -  I introduce 30 topics that have made a noticeable impact with my most successful clients. I invite you to use these episodes to begin uncovering who you are, whether the empty nest years are ahead of you, you're deep in them or even if your nest is becoming full again. You can move from freaking out to feeling freaking awesome about these years as you become the C.E.O.  - Conscious Effective Olympian - of your life. 

Tap through to EmptyNestSuccess.com to find the many resources I have created, as these are my gift to you! 

A special thanks to SupaPass whose technology powers our Empty Nest Success online home. 

Back to you, my listener, or C.E.O. in Training, are you ready to dive in? Here we go! 

 

 [level-up music]

01:25

Amazing human, you may be wondering why I mentioned that there would be an announcement recap. Here’s my thinking: this empty nest success challenge is meant for you to have ideally, under ten minutes of an episode to introduce a concept to you. Rather than doubling the time of the remaining episodes by repeating these announcements each time, I’m going to trust that most of you will start with these first few, and will have everything you need, and if not, you’ll know to click through to my website or to check the show notes in order to be pointed in the right direction. 

My goal is for days 3- 30 of this challenge, we’ll jump almost immediately into the topic of the day and then allow you to dive into your day and continue on your journey in becoming the Conscious Effective Olympian of Your Life!

Before I recap the announcements, I’m thrilled that I have a brand new one today that is incredibly well-timed following our top-of the-toolbox episode! 

02:28 

[level-up music] 

I’m thrilled to invite you to join me and over 100 other expert speakers in the Get Organized virtual HQ summit. I have a free ticket for you and it includes the special bonuses of an Event Facebook Group invite - yes, I’ll be popping in there from time to time - you also will receive an Attendee Roadmap and a Personalized Schedule Generator - as with over 100 sessions lined up, it may be hard to know where to begin. 

Honestly, I can’t sing the praises of the Get Organized HQ team enough. I’m a pretty type A, and a super organized human which means I have high standards when it comes to events and this one is unbelievable - all of the sessions are ready and waiting to go live, this team has also thought of every detail - you won’t be disappointed. 

For you my listener, I recommend using this summit as an opportunity to find some new top of the toolbox items or fun projects - I even created a YouTube video (I don’t do these often) [giggle] - it has some tips that will be live in a couple of days. It’s part of a wider playlist from other speakers in the event. And this playlist? It’s life hacks - I told you they thought of everything. 

Don’t miss this opportunity. I’m honored to be a part of it and recorded my session while taking a walk in the woods - the title of it is Thought Decluttering and More for Almost Empty Nesters and Empty Nesters - and, by the way, I’m not the only empty nest speaker. 

As always, you’ll find the link in my show notes. I hope to see you there and if you join the attendee Facebook Group, tag me and say “Hi!”

04:24

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Now for your quick review of the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success announcements and resources. You’ll find links in the show notes to the following: 

[bell sound] Videos for all of the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success days - if you prefer video to audio - or, maybe, you would like to reinforce the topics. 

[bell sound] A way to register for email delivery of the challenge videos

[bell sound] Links to a free downloadable companion workbook for the challenge, as well as an optional online journal upgrade, for a small investment 

By the way, there is a bonus coupon code in the workbook I just mentioned.

[bell sound] Information about my Group Coaching Program: the C.E.O. Training Team to Empty Nest Success, which you may join with or without private coaching sessions.

[bell sound] Links to follow me in two of my favorite social media platforms: TikTok and Instagram

[bell sound] There’s a special link with information on how to make a submission to Season 3 of this podcast, where I will return to a weekly format focusing on answering YOUR questions. I can’t wait to receive your submission!

[bell sound] The Empty Nest Success Online Home - where you’ll find - well, everything - links to all I just mentioned and more!

Finally, the entire challenge is brought to you by the C.E.O. Training Team to Empty Nest Success membership, powered by SupaPass. 

05:54

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Today’s topic is to embrace the bittersweet. You have 18+ years of memories, of relationship building, of getting comfortable in your role as your child’s parent, and as excited for them, you may also have competing emotions - depending on the moment. 

Bittersweet is the best word I have found to describe the emotions of this time - and you may be able to apply it to any major transition in your life. Know that your emotions may take you on a “bit of a journey,” and they might surprise you. One moment you are smiling ear to ear and the next you are a ball of tears because you miss the dirty dishes you used to complain about. 

Your emotional journey and your emotions are yours. Your emotions are fine to have because you are having them. Sure, they may take you for a ride, or maybe on a detour,  but you’ll get back where you need to be. First, claim that you feel the way you feel. Whether it is happy, sad, angry, anxious, or something else. Accepting the feeling allows you to do something with it - even if it is sitting with some ben and jerry’s ice cream while you watch your goto - that movie always makes me cry.

Embrace it all. Your emotions are a beautiful part of who you are and they have a lot to teach you about yourself. 

If you are able to catch your emotions and label them, it’s a good time to pat yourself on the back that you “caught them.” If you have an emotion that makes you uncomfortable, you can try saying to yourself, “I am feeling _____. And at the end of that statement, you could try adding one of two things: that is okay / or and it will pass - whichever feels better for you, or something else if it works for you. 

An important disclaimer that I must make and I really want you to hear: If you are unable to pull out of serious depression, or are having self-harm thoughts, please seek mental health resources! And, as always, I’m cheering you on.

If you are easily able to label and process through your emotions,  trust that you’ll be able to do more with your emotions in time but for now, embrace the changes and lean into the emotions that feel good. REALLY lean into those good ones!

08:25

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Your journal prompt for today is Do you have competing emotions about the empty nest? What are they? What if you are curious about them rather than annoyed with those that you don’t love? By the way, find more journal prompts on this episode’s companion video in the Empty Nest Success online home.

08:49

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Thanks for listening today, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

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166: Empty Nest Success – When Emotions are Like Farts💚

166: Empty Nest Success – When Emotions are Like Farts💚

Hello, my amazing friend. 👋

I had a bit of fun with this one! 

As always, I'm cheering you on! 🎉

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Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"Sometimes you’ll realize - oh, for sure - that emotion is what I need right now - other times you may find yourself feeling differently."

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  • 00:50  Quick Reminders  & Special thanks
  • 01:43   My Wish For You Today - YOU create your goals
  • 02:09  New Things - 2023 Pod Pause
  • 04:40  My Lessons Learned: When Emotions are Like Farts
  • 09:00  Two Questions For You
  • 09:18   Recap
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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 166

FULL TRANSCRIPT

00:00:00

Christine: Hi, I’m Coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, and we’re on episode #166. If this isn't your first time listening and you want to skip the introduction portion feel free to tap forward a couple of times. In this podcast, I focus on helping parents who are freaking out about the empty nest ahead - I like to say: we'll take you from freaking out to feeling freaking awesome. No worries, though; all are welcome here, as I’m focused on coaching you to become the C.E.O. of Your Life, and in my world, C.E.O. stands for Conscious Effective Olympian. You’ll do this by leveling-up

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your life in small increments - those small wins add up to big changes.

I appreciate that you pressed play on this episode today. 

Here we go..

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00:00:50

This podcast is my gift to you: a parent adjusting to the idea of an empty nest, or possibly a student who’s wondering how your parents are feeling about you heading out on your own. These podcast episodes will have a base of life coaching infused with reminders to cheer yourself on, and maybe with a dash of my alter ego, Sally, the hotline video operator popping in from time to time. I’m here to remind you that you should be your own biggest fan.

00:01:18

Before we dive in - a special thanks to our fabulous sponsor and my dear friends SupaPass. SupaPass powers the online home for all available resources that I have created for you. Register today for a free account to unlock a sampling of those resources - head over to  EmptyNestSuccess.com - where you also may also support this podcast, join the C.E.O. Training Team, or purchase other premium content.

00:00:00

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My Wish for You Today

My wish for you today is that YOU create your goals. And that you have no problem letting go of goals that don’t serve you. I also send wishes for you that your goals are inspiring. And the goals that you must do, you’re able to find inspiring thoughts about them. And, as a reminder, you aren’t your goals.

00:02:09

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New Things. New Things. New Things!

New Things in the New Year. If you’re listening to this episode at a different time, I wish you a happy new day. Each day has the gift of providing a tremendous new start for your life. I’m excited for you!

The biggest new thing for me, isn’t really a new thing. 

If you are so inclined, you can take a listen to the episode I released about this time last year - I had plans. I was going to take a podpause - where I pause releasing podcast episodes - and had plans for what I’d do with that time. 

And then it was 2022. I did buy a house and the house needed way more work than I was expecting. I had a lot less free time than I originally planned and well - it is life after all - things did not go as planned. But I did have a lot of fun figuring it all out. The one area that was neglected the most was - yes, this podcast - and all the things I planned to do around it. 

I’m ever so thankful for the C.E.O. Training Team members this year - The Training Team work has been incredibly fun to continue through all of my life changes.

I’m also super proud that we DID manage to migrate (ha ha ha) from the term of flock to the C.E.O. Training Team  - helping you to become the Conscious Effective Olympian of your life in a way that you learn to trust your own inner guidance  - that’s all very important to me.  

In relistening to episode 155 - where I shared about last year’s change - I had forgotten that so much of this setup was all new this year. Which means I’m taking the time to celebrate that win as we embark on year 2 of the C.E.O. Training Team offering! If you’d like to hear more about the beginnings of the C.E.O. Training Team, take a listen to that episode- you’ll find it in the show notes. 

I’m sharing this with you because, well, I have the same plans this year, as last year - After this episode, I’m taking podpause again. I’ll focus on the C.E.O. Training Team  - building up resources, curating content, the delivery of the Empty Nest Success app and some other surprises!

If you aren’t already following me on the socials, I invite you to join me now - you’ll find me on most platforms with the handle @emptynestcoach. If you’re looking for  a bit more, sign up for a free account in the Empty Nest Success community to stay in the know - receive weekly what if affirmations - and more!

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00:04:40

My Lessons Learned

When Emotions are Like Farts

I couldn’t resist this title and this one came right from a C.E.O. Training Team Power Hour session! 

I’m kind of in love with this new analogy, too. 

One of the amazing humans in our group was sharing about losing patience with their emerging adult kiddo. And from what I understand - they really losing their patience. 

My listener, we don’t judge here, this is life - and I invite you to take a moment and imagine something that might cause you to lose your patience with your child - are they not helping around the house? Are they being disrespectful? Are they making a mess and expecting you to clean it up all the time - or is it way more serious? Take a moment to think about it and then imagine that straw-on-a-camel's-back moment when it becomes too much and you - for lack of better words - lose it - whatever that looks like for you. 

High-level, your emotions take over and they steamroll you, your Protector is on high-alert - all the alarms are going off in your mind - and your protector’s amazing job of protecting - allows your emotions to let loose.

It makes sense.

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The emotions you have have been bottled up and get to a point where they need to escape - and this incredible human who started this whole conversation in our Power Hour said - you know, it has to come up - kind of like a fart. 

Oh my goodness, that made me smile. What an amazing analogy. 

And then we went a bit deeper with the analogy, and I mentioned that yeah, it is like fart but when we have the emotions and we don’t address them internally - it is as if we have to pass gas so bad while we are in a room full of people and we’re trying to figure out how to cover up this thing up. You know it’s going to happen and it ends up being those clear-the-room types of silent but deadly gas sessions. Oh my. 

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And that is scenario 1 for your emotions: you feel all those emotions rising within you, you’re trying to hold it together, with sincere effort to find the right words but you don’t feel like they are working… and  - yeah, 

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here it comes. 

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THEN there’s scenario 2. You feel the gas rumbling, you know it needs to be released. You excuse yourself from the room - knowing it will be really uncomfortable if you don’t - and, yeah, for this one you even head outside and have the glorious, abundant freedom to LET IT RIP. Ah, sweet relief. 

If this scenario were our emotions… imagine we can feel we are headed to a blow up of epic proportions. That is a good time to consider sharing something like “I’m experiencing some strong emotions here and I’m going to excuse myself for a bit allowing myself to come back when I’m sure these are warranted emotions for where we are.” And try to get some time to process the emotions in a way that serves you - this is a great time to use your C.E.O. Toolbox items. 

You can start by identifying the emotions & labeling them. Figure out what thoughts are driving those emotions - and ask yourself if those words are true - you can also process them out  in a way that works for you: journaling, walking, running, using boxing gloves and a punching bag - or a pillow - whatever works for you. 

Sometimes you’ll realize - oh, for sure - that emotion is what I need right now - other times you may find yourself feeling differently.

Allow yourself to explore your thoughts and emotions with love. You aren’t your thoughts and you aren’t your emotions, after all. You are so much more!

I’m cheering you on, friend. Now go let those farts out. 

00:09:00

Two Questions for You

Question 1: How do you handle your farts in life: emotional and real ones? 

 and Question 2: Do you know in your heart: you are amazing? 

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00:09:18 

This one’s a short episode, but it feels right for where we are. While I’ll be back with more episodes later in 2023, I’ll be adding content to the Empty Nest Success community weekly - and would love to see you there! 

As always, I provide content to make you think, my empty nest friend.

My HOPE is that I’m able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life.

If you enjoyed this episode, please don’t forget to share it with others; it’s the best way to allow it to reach a wider audience.  Also, don’t forget to follow this podcast - Your Empty Nest Coach - in your favorite podcast player - or register for your account in the Empty Nest Success home. 

As always, links and resources I mentioned in this episode, you’ll find in the show notes. 

Enjoy each and every day, my future empty nest friend. You deserve that, because after all, YOU ARE AMAZING!

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00:10:18

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00:10:39

Still Listening?

I love that you have made time [for YOU] today by listening to this episode. Should you be new here, know that there are over 160 other episodes waiting for your ears. If you aren’t new here, thank you for your continued support.  

Should you be curious about the C.E.O. Training Team, this offering is for those of you who are looking for a little bit more than the podcast. I have weekly resources for you, Monday sessions called Power Hours - where you can pop in for a reset in a group setting, and get a little group coaching if we have the time. Your membership includes four 15-minute private coaching sessions (with me) to get you started, and much much more. 

I have a special thank you just for listening to the end of this episode: I’ve created a coupon titled PodcastThankYou use this on check out to receive a generous $50 credit toward your new CEO Training Team membership. That code is PodcastThankYou no spaces, and each word is capitalized to start - you’ll find it in the show notes. 

Be sure to use that code soon as it’s only guaranteed for the first few months in 2023.

I’d love for you to join us!

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