30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: PSPF (7/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: PSPF  (7/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I share four things to remember as your household dynamic changes in the empty nest years. 

"The empty nest years can sometimes be a not-so-empty nest."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 175

Challenge: PSPF  (7/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Four things to remember as you enter the empty nest years is our topic for today (Day 7) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

Inspiring music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:44

Hello, amazing human and beautiful soul! One of the most surprising things about the empty nest transition, I have found, is that there isn’t one singular transition period for all of us:

  • If you have more than one child, each child leaving mixes things up. 

  • Many children end up returning home for- ever, or, some period of time down the road. 

  • Just as your nest is becoming empty, you may become a caregiver to your parent and you may move in with them or they move in with you.

  • The empty nest years can sometimes be a not-so-empty nest.

The four things I’m mentioning today are great for each time your household dynamic changes for any reason, really, even if it is a return home from college break. Remember these four things as you adjust: PSPF. 

The first P? Is Patience for Self. S is for Self-love - more on that back in Day 5. The second P is Patience for Others; and finally F: for Fun! So we have patience, patience, love, and fun - what else do we really need in life?  (okay, outside of water, food, shelter and air). [giggle]

While these four things are fairly self-explanatory, I’ll say a little bit more. The Patience for Self is in the navigation of the change - giving yourself time to adjust and the space to feel the emotions. Self-Love: we absolutely do cover this more in Day 5, but as always, you are freaking amazing and don’t you dare forget it.

Next, we have Patience for Others - a change in the household impacts everyone in the household - that includes not only you and your partner(should you have one) but also siblings to those who are coming and going and it even impacts your pets.

Also, the impact may be different for each one of you. Having different emotions and being in different spaces is fine - and this is where the patience for one another helps.

And Finally - F for fun- it is super easy to forget this one in the day to day activities, the todo lists, all of the plans that  you have made, and so on.  I invite you to look for the fun, if you aren’t naturally finding it.

03:13

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. Have you noticed others don't have the same emotions about the empty nest as you do? 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Go find some fun, and don’t you dare forget that you are freaking amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: What if? 💚 (6/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: What if?  (6/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to consider the What if switcheroo.

"The possibilities here are endless. Allow What-if to open up your imagination, to shift your thoughts a bit, and see what happens."

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Your Empty Nest Coach

"The possibilities here are endless. Allow What-if to open up your imagination, to shift your thoughts a bit, and see what happens."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 174

Challenge: What if?  (6/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

What if? is our topic for today (Day 6) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.   

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening, know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:41

Amazing human and beautiful soul….this one has been a game-changer for me and it might be for you as well! 

I invite you to choose a topic that is near the top of your mind. 

[pause] 

Now I’d like you to form the first sentence that comes to mind around that topic that begins with What if…

[pause] What question came to mind for you?  

[pause]

Is it a positive question or a negative question? 

Meaning,  do you go to what if this particular scenario that wouldn’t be good, happens? Or do you go to something more along the lines of what if this incredible thing happens that’s super fun? 

For many of us (and this may be you), what-iffing a topic may automatically bring on worries and concerns.  

For example: Your child is considering changing their college major and you go to, “What if this major my child has chosen provides no job opportunities?” 

or

“What if this [awful thing] happens?” And that [awful thing] is whatever you mind has  chosen to insert today.

While having a healthy level of outlook and preparation is not bad at all, when we always focus on the what ifs that can go wrong and never consider the what ifs that can go right - we tend to only find more things that can go wrong, and more things, and more things. 

I have loved the switcheroo of the what ifs to positive so much so that I no longer focus on affirmations without putting what if in front of them. For the rare breed of human who fully believes a new affirmation they’re given for their lives out of the gate, you wouldn’t need to do this but if you hear an affirmation for your life and think, “yeah, right” or something similar, then try this what-if switcheroo! 

An example might be nice. If you have an affirmation such as:

I am capable of doing anything I want. I am smart, beautiful and know who I am as a human. 

You could find yourself pushing back on a portion of that - or all of it - but then add What if to the beginning and wow - things get interesting. 

Let’s try it with that same affirmation. I’ll give you some space after each one so that you may  repeat these to yourself. 

What if I am capable of doing anything I want?  

[pause]

What if I am smart, beautiful and know who I am as a human? 

[pause]

What if? 

It gets interesting, doesn’t it? Of course, you can use this for your thoughts about your kids…

What if my child pursues their dream and it all works out?   

And any topic under the sun - even to thoughts about your upcoming errands:

What if the time in the waiting room flies by and I have fun? 

With this consideration, I ask you: 

What if everything works out? 

What if you could do anything in the world when you wake up tomorrow? 

The possibilities here are endless. Allow What-if to open up your imagination, to shift your thoughts a bit, and see what happens. 

Give what-iffing your life a try today.   

04:38

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. What if you dreamt like you did when you were a child, and think "what if" that thing happens?

04:50

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As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers, and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Will you try the What-if switcheroo? Either way, don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]


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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Become Your Own Biggest Fan💚 (5/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Become Your Own Biggest Fan (5/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to take a look at your inner dialogue about yourself.

"Those unkind thoughts that we have about ourselves, they aren’t ones we were born with."

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 173

Challenge: Become Your Own Biggest Fan (5/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Becoming your own biggest fan is our topic  today (Day 5) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, how is your inner dialogue about yourself? 

Consider how kind you are when you speak to yourself. If you are like many humans, you already know you can be quite brutal. 

Sadly, it is fairly common. Noting it, though, is a start. 

For most of us, we haven't been trained to do anything other than unfortunate self-talk. 

But noting that we do it, allows us to begin to be curious about it and consider new ways to talk to ourselves: ways to follow up with a thought and to show patience, kindness, loving consideration to ourselves. 

Those unkind thoughts that we have about ourselves, they aren’t ones we were born with. We’ve heard them from someone and have decided that they are truths. If you are able to catch yourself in a thought about you that you wouldn’t say that out loud to someone you love (or anyone actually) then, it’s time to clean that up. 

A really important thing to keep in mind, though, is to be kind to yourself as you process this. The last thing you want to do is bully yourself about bullying yourself - it is time to break that cycle. You are amazing after all! 

One final thought to consider is that if you are unable to provide support and patience and love toward yourself, then where are you gaining the energy to do it for others? 

Ooo. That was a little tough love there, huh? 

For today, consider becoming your own biggest fan: cheering yourself on; having patience and love for yourself. And sit with the fun thought that your future self is cheering you on. Just as you can look back now and think upon your past self. How fun is that? 

02:46

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. Do you realize how unsupportive you can be to yourself through your thoughts? And, what is one thought you can change up to allow yourself to feel better? 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, remember to check in on what you are saying to yourself, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Celebrate Personal Wins💚 (4/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Celebrate Personal Wins (4/30)💚

In this podcast episode I remind you to celebrate your wins!

"I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions."

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  • 02:28 Journal Prompt

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 172

Challenge: Celebrate Personal Wins (4/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT


[level-up music]

Celebrating your personal wins is our topic for today (Day 4) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:43

Amazing human and beautiful soul,  it is incredibly easy to take small wins for granted. This topic is one of my favorites. I encourage you to everyday,  celebrate a win - or multiple wins. 

I like to say - celebrate your wins: big or small, we celebrate them all! 

There are days where getting out of bed is a win! Maybe you made all the meals for your family - and you always do (without even giving it a second of thought). 

I invite you to find something to celebrate each and every day. If you're comfortable, share your celebration with others, but be careful that you don't change how you feel about your win based on their reaction. 

Sometimes the reactions of others may not line up with our expectations of their reaction. This could be for many reasons:  maybe they may have no interest in it; they may have something else entirely on their mind; they may not understand to the level that this is a big deal - for you. Maybe, it’s something that's easy for them, but it wasn't for you. 

With this in mind, I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions. 

If you feel good about the win before you tell someone, make sure no matter their reaction you still feel good about it after. It’s important! 

You should be really proud of yourself. I’m celebrating with you and I'd love to know what your wins are. 

02:28

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is ….What wins have you been ignoring in your life?

02:35

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

 [exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today. Way to go on celebrating your win, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

[end]


Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your New Role As A Parent (The Coach)💚 (3/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your New Role As A Parent (The Coach) (3/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to consider moving into a new phase (or role) as a parent: the coach! 

"Consider the pressure you get to take off of yourself as your emerging adult has the space they need to become their best version of who they are meant to be."

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life! 

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Your Empty Nest Coach

"Consider the pressure you get to take off of yourself as your emerging adult has the space they need to become their best version of who they are meant to be."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 171

Challenge: Your New Role As A Parent (The Coach) (3/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT


[level-up music]

Your new role as a parent is our topic for today (Day 3) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[happy upbeat music under voice over]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:44

Amazing human and beautiful soul you’ve made my day by stopping by and listening. 

One of the things I love most about coaching clients is being able to witness their new-found trust in themselves as they begin their journey forward in a way that truly honors who they are. It isn’t an easy thing to explain with words but I’ll make an attempt:

I imagine it as if energy that has always been there within these beautiful humans (hiding) is initially doing its best to peer through cracks in all their thoughts and beliefs of who they are - which tend to be thoughts built with words from others. Providing space for them to be them, to share their feelings, their thoughts and begin to be curious, allows those cracks of light (their inner being) to expand at first into a window but eventually a beautiful stained glass window that is all theirs. 

With their beautiful light shining out into the world in their unique way, they gain the confidence to live life in a way that honors them; and in also showing up in their authenticity - the world gets so much more just by them being who they are. 

Ooooo… it’s so good. 

I share this with you, as being able to do something similar for your child is about as good as it gets. You can almost imagine the colors and dancing colorful lights you would be able to have in a room when two people show up in this way. 

Yes, we know your role as a parent will adjust and be different as your child grows up, but I invite you to consider that that role (as a coach), when you choose to show up in that way - in those times where your initial gut reaction is to solve everything - but you choose to be that coach for them, that is a gift that will continue to keep giving. 

And, of course, you can pop out of the role whenever necessary. 

Consider the pressure you get to take off of yourself as your emerging adult has the space they need to become their best version of who they are meant to be. 

These skills, thoughts and concepts in this: the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success are all ones I use with my clients  - and are also ones you can adapt in your own life to use with your child. 

I often hear comments such as: "My time as a mother is over." or “All I ever wanted to be was a parent, and now I’m not sure who I am.” 

You are still a parent. It is different, sure, but trust me, you’ll have moments (usually when you least expect them) when your adult child suddenly needs you - and then it is “go time.’ 

This different role as a parent could be: 

Different [matter-of-fact]

Different [sad]

Different [questioning]

Different [happy]

You get to choose. Imagine, for a moment,  a relationship with your child long-term where your whole purpose is to love them and not to solve their problems. Imagine that you are confident in who you are and show up seeing them in all of their potential - even when they can’t see it themselves. 

Imagine yourself giving them the space to be fully them: when they are winning, and when they are in the midst of losing - it’s all their journey and their opportunity to learn more about themselves.

I invite you to consider this new parenting role as a coach. I’m cheering you on! 

04:49

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is:  How do you feel about considering yourself as a coach to your child(ren) and what kind of coach would you like to be? 

05: 02

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between.