30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Thoughts 💚 (11/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Thoughts 💚 (11/30)

In this podcast episode, we begin building the Conscious Effective Olympian life primary analogy.

"Starting with our thoughts, the analogy I have for you is to think of your mind as a house. Imagine that the doorbell to that house rings every time a new thought shows up in your mind - And we have lots of thoughts."

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"Starting with our thoughts, the analogy I have for you is to think of your mind as a house. Imagine that the doorbell to that house rings every time a new thought shows up in your mind - And we have lots of thoughts."

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Thoughts

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Your Thoughts are our topic for today (Day 11) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening, know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, this topic is one that I’ve already touched on throughout our first ten days, and you’ll find it threaded within all of my content, whether I explicitly point it out or not. 

The next handful of days (including today) is the meatiest portion of Challenge content. That doesn’t mean the episode is longer, it simply means you may need to chew some of these over a bit more in your mind before moving on. As with all of this challenge, you’ll find more on these topics in Season 1 of the podcast and in the Empty Nest Success online home.

The analogies I’m about to introduce, think of them as building blocks in your conscious effective olympian living.

Starting with our thoughts, the analogy I have for you is to think of your mind as a house. Imagine that the doorbell to that house rings every time a new thought shows up in your mind - And we have lots of thoughts. There are so many of these thought-box- deliveries that you can't keep up and out of frustration, you decide to provide your delivery person with a key to put the boxes wherever they can in your home. Yes, you’ve given up and - stay with me here for a moment - those thought-box-deliveries are everywhere: cluttered in the hall, in every room: floor to ceiling, on the stairs, blocking doors from closing, some doors from opening, and making it extremely difficult to move. 

There are so many of these thought-box-deliveries in your house that  it's difficult to find the ones you love, and you have a really well worn path to the same thought-box-deliveries you continue to open time, and time, and time, and time again. 

What if you have a choice? You can stay overwhelmed or begin inspecting the packages. Who sent these to you, anyway? 

You probably won’t be surprised to hear that I recommend looking for that thought-box delivery labeled: I am amazing. Meaning, you: you are amazing - and open that one up!  

For today, we’re going to introduce this first building-block of the analogy. Consider how cluttered your house might be. 

03:13

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … What are some thought-box-deliveries that you continue to open at the moment? 

 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Check those thought-box-deliveries, and don’t you dare forget that you are freaking amazing! 

Chat next time! 

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Life’s Toolbox (part 2) & Taking Inventory 💚 (10/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Life's Toolbox (part 2) & Taking Inventory (10/30)💚

In this podcast episode, we chat a bit more about your life's toolbox. 

"This 30-Day Challenge is a perfect example of a bottom of your toolbox item."

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"This 30-Day Challenge is a perfect example of a bottom of your toolbox item."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 178

Challenge: Your Life's Toolbox (part 2) & Taking Inventory (10/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Your Life’s Toolbox and Periodically taking inventory is our topic for today (Day 10) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:45

Hello, amazing human and beautiful soul! If you started at the beginning, you are now a third of the way through the challenge. Congratulations! While these episodes may be short in time, you showing up for yourself regularly (or even not so regularly - ha!), is a win - and you know I like to celebrate those. 

We began this challenge at the top of your toolbox and the idea of adding items to the top that are usually quick, reset type items, or things you enjoy doing. Also, with the idea that using them should become a conscious choice that you are gifting yourself with the time to use them or to do them. 

When diving into really discovering who we are and becoming the C.E.O or Conscious Effective Olympian of your life, we sometimes need to look a bit deeper, take a little more inspired action, or feel led to do something that requires a bit more of your resources. 

This 30-Day challenge is a perfect example of a bottom of your toolbox item. Joining a support group, or a club, learning a new skill or language, heading to therapy, journaling over time and reflecting on your entries are all other great examples, too - and this is only a teeny tiny sampling. 

The daily action of journaling, for me, is that top of the toolbox item, it's something that helps you to become present in the moment and consider things, but long term, over time, journaling and reflection, to me, that’s a bottom of the toolbox item. 

What you may find interesting is things that I personally have in the bottom of my toolbox or the top of my toolbox may also be in your toolbox but in different positions based on where you are in your journey. 

Let’s also have a brief chat about taking inventory of your toolbox. Who you are right now in this moment is different from who you will be tomorrow, the next day, and the next day, think about six months - a year out. The items in your toolbox may work for you forever, OR, they may run their course, being something you needed just for a certain amount of time, which allows you to declutter and with the new found space, look for new items for your toolbox. 

The reminder here is to continue your journey, and to consider new ways to develop who you are along the journey. Please, don't feel limited to things you hear from me or others. Trust your inner guidance - and that’s something that will become easier over time. 

I have more information about your toolbox beginning with Season 1, episode 88 of my podcast.

03:47

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. Can you think of three new bottom of your toolbox items that you may want to attempt in the future?

03:58

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Check out that toolbox, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

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It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: The Power of Presence 💚 (9/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: The Power of Presence (9/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to consider if your mind is where your body is (presence).

"The ability to tune into where you are; to be present; tuning into the now, is a fun activity to be able to do."

Looking for an episode transcript? You'll find it below! 

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  • 03:36 Journal Prompt

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Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"The ability to tune into where you are; to be present; tuning into the now, is a fun activity to be able to do.""

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 177

Challenge: The Power of Presence (9/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

The Power of Presence is our topic for today (Day 9) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:42

Hello, amazing human and beautiful soul, jumping off of our last episode’s topic about the future storytelling, today’s topic is another one of my favorites. 

Becoming present is a great way to turn off the autopilot mode of your life. Whether it's playing a board game, taking in a sunrise or a sunset, reading, or whatever it is, that helps you “be.”  There’s a book all about this. It’s The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. It's a great book. I’ll admit,  I’ve read it multiple times and even created a book discussion for it in the Empty Nest Success home, and you may join that anytime. 

Have you ever paid attention to how often you catch yourself mentally nowhere near where your body actually is - those moments or sometimes hours or days where we go through the motions of life yet our thoughts are continually not where we are physically. 

Maybe it’s replaying the past; worried about the future; working through a conversation that has already happened or has yet to happen.

Now, this isn’t always a bad thing, for sure, but becoming conscious of even just a little bit of this time and learning to direct your thoughts where you want to focus is an incredible skill to learn. 

After all, we are human be-ings. Be. Just be.

The ability to tune into where you are; to be present; tuning into the now, is a fun activity to be able to do. In the last episode, I discussed catching the moments where we are dropping into scenarios of life that aren’t “now.” Being aware of this, brings the ability to choose where you place yourself, and also choose, “now.”

By catching that “drop in” moment, you can then tune in and ask yourself things like, “Wait a minute, where am I focused right now? What am I doing? Am I going through the motions? Do I want to be going through the motions? Do I want to be more present? Or, What can I do to become present? 

Noticing you want to choose to be more present? Then, this is where the top of your toolbox items may come in handy.  

Sometimes, it's as easy as taking a few deep breaths. Other times, it's doing an activity, maybe taking a walk outside, you'll figure out what works for you and, also, your list may change over time. 

Often, those top of the toolbox items you’ve already noted are the ones that have the ability to bring you into the present moment. I love how that happens!

03:36

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is on a scale from 1-10, how present are you in life? Here’s a bonus one: Do you want more presence moving forward?

 [exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Tune into where you are - see if you’re present - and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]


Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Their Future – What’s Your Story? 💚 (8/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Their Future - What's Your Story? (8/30)💚

 In this podcast episode, I invite you to consider the different future-story-telling possibilities.

"I invite you to pay attention to the stories you are telling about the future - especially when it comes to stories about your child’s future."

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!


Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"I invite you to pay attention to the stories you are telling about the future - especially when it comes to stories about your child’s future."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 176

Challenge: Their Future - What's Your Story? (8/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

What’s your story about your child’s future? is our topic for today (Day 8) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:43

Hi, amazing human and beautiful soul, I’d like you to consider, today, the storytelling that  you do about our child’s future (or your own future). 

Anytime we think, share, or talk about the future we are in imaginary-land.

Meaning, we are creating something (telling a story) that may or may not ever happen. How often are we telling stories that make us feel something other than really fantastic? 

Stop for a moment and take in that you have lived on this planet for decades figuring out things as you go. You rise to challenges, and sometimes you don’t, but you’re still here and you keep going. Trust in yourself that if the future plays out in an unexpected way that you’ll have all the resources you need in that moment - or, that the unexpected way could be a lovely surprise. 

Unless you are a time traveler,  (Do you have a tardis?) you aren’t in the future. 

You may not be surprised that I have an analogy for these future-story moments. Remember, these are moments when we are guessing what might happen in the future. 

Have you used Google earth? There’s that satellite view and then there’s an option to tap and get a street view style. There’s a little person you can drop onto a specific place in a singular moment and look around. 

Now, I imagine us (as we tell these future-story moments) it’s as if we have taken ourselves, and dropped us in this one particular moment that could possibly happen, but we have no resources to deal with because - it doesn’t exist now.

Meanwhile, you could have dropped yourself in all these other places - just like you can in Google street view - all these different ways that your future could eventually play out and that specific story moment may never, actually, happen. 

Yet, our mind will treat that story that we are telling as if it is true now. And the present moment? Well, that, we're currently missing.

I invite you to pay attention to the stories you are telling about the future - especially when it comes to stories about your child’s future. 

As I said in an earlier episode, there is a level of preparation that we all need about the future.

Try combining the what-if with it, and invite yourself to spend time in a future that, sure, while it can be practical but also why not make it exciting and fun? Right now, you deserve nothing less. 

I’ll talk about the present moment in the next episode. 

03:31

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is ….What story do you tell about your child's future?

03:39

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! What story will you tell about the future? And don’t you dare forget how amazing you are.

Chat next time!

[end]


Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: PSPF (7/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: PSPF  (7/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I share four things to remember as your household dynamic changes in the empty nest years. 

"The empty nest years can sometimes be a not-so-empty nest."

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  • 03:13 Journal Prompt 

Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

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Your Empty Nest Coach

"The empty nest years can sometimes be a not-so-empty nest."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 175

Challenge: PSPF  (7/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Four things to remember as you enter the empty nest years is our topic for today (Day 7) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

Inspiring music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:44

Hello, amazing human and beautiful soul! One of the most surprising things about the empty nest transition, I have found, is that there isn’t one singular transition period for all of us:

  • If you have more than one child, each child leaving mixes things up. 

  • Many children end up returning home for- ever, or, some period of time down the road. 

  • Just as your nest is becoming empty, you may become a caregiver to your parent and you may move in with them or they move in with you.

  • The empty nest years can sometimes be a not-so-empty nest.

The four things I’m mentioning today are great for each time your household dynamic changes for any reason, really, even if it is a return home from college break. Remember these four things as you adjust: PSPF. 

The first P? Is Patience for Self. S is for Self-love - more on that back in Day 5. The second P is Patience for Others; and finally F: for Fun! So we have patience, patience, love, and fun - what else do we really need in life?  (okay, outside of water, food, shelter and air). [giggle]

While these four things are fairly self-explanatory, I’ll say a little bit more. The Patience for Self is in the navigation of the change - giving yourself time to adjust and the space to feel the emotions. Self-Love: we absolutely do cover this more in Day 5, but as always, you are freaking amazing and don’t you dare forget it.

Next, we have Patience for Others - a change in the household impacts everyone in the household - that includes not only you and your partner(should you have one) but also siblings to those who are coming and going and it even impacts your pets.

Also, the impact may be different for each one of you. Having different emotions and being in different spaces is fine - and this is where the patience for one another helps.

And Finally - F for fun- it is super easy to forget this one in the day to day activities, the todo lists, all of the plans that  you have made, and so on.  I invite you to look for the fun, if you aren’t naturally finding it.

03:13

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. Have you noticed others don't have the same emotions about the empty nest as you do? 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Go find some fun, and don’t you dare forget that you are freaking amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: What if? 💚 (6/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: What if?  (6/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to consider the What if switcheroo.

"The possibilities here are endless. Allow What-if to open up your imagination, to shift your thoughts a bit, and see what happens."

Looking for an episode transcript? You'll find it below! 

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  • 00:41 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic
  • 04:38 Journal Prompt. 

Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

Legal disclaimer: Listening to this podcast doesn't make Christine your official coach, and this podcast is not meant to replace your doctor or therapist. Curious? Click here for the deets!


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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"The possibilities here are endless. Allow What-if to open up your imagination, to shift your thoughts a bit, and see what happens."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 174

Challenge: What if?  (6/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

What if? is our topic for today (Day 6) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.   

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening, know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:41

Amazing human and beautiful soul….this one has been a game-changer for me and it might be for you as well! 

I invite you to choose a topic that is near the top of your mind. 

[pause] 

Now I’d like you to form the first sentence that comes to mind around that topic that begins with What if…

[pause] What question came to mind for you?  

[pause]

Is it a positive question or a negative question? 

Meaning,  do you go to what if this particular scenario that wouldn’t be good, happens? Or do you go to something more along the lines of what if this incredible thing happens that’s super fun? 

For many of us (and this may be you), what-iffing a topic may automatically bring on worries and concerns.  

For example: Your child is considering changing their college major and you go to, “What if this major my child has chosen provides no job opportunities?” 

or

“What if this [awful thing] happens?” And that [awful thing] is whatever you mind has  chosen to insert today.

While having a healthy level of outlook and preparation is not bad at all, when we always focus on the what ifs that can go wrong and never consider the what ifs that can go right - we tend to only find more things that can go wrong, and more things, and more things. 

I have loved the switcheroo of the what ifs to positive so much so that I no longer focus on affirmations without putting what if in front of them. For the rare breed of human who fully believes a new affirmation they’re given for their lives out of the gate, you wouldn’t need to do this but if you hear an affirmation for your life and think, “yeah, right” or something similar, then try this what-if switcheroo! 

An example might be nice. If you have an affirmation such as:

I am capable of doing anything I want. I am smart, beautiful and know who I am as a human. 

You could find yourself pushing back on a portion of that - or all of it - but then add What if to the beginning and wow - things get interesting. 

Let’s try it with that same affirmation. I’ll give you some space after each one so that you may  repeat these to yourself. 

What if I am capable of doing anything I want?  

[pause]

What if I am smart, beautiful and know who I am as a human? 

[pause]

What if? 

It gets interesting, doesn’t it? Of course, you can use this for your thoughts about your kids…

What if my child pursues their dream and it all works out?   

And any topic under the sun - even to thoughts about your upcoming errands:

What if the time in the waiting room flies by and I have fun? 

With this consideration, I ask you: 

What if everything works out? 

What if you could do anything in the world when you wake up tomorrow? 

The possibilities here are endless. Allow What-if to open up your imagination, to shift your thoughts a bit, and see what happens. 

Give what-iffing your life a try today.   

04:38

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. What if you dreamt like you did when you were a child, and think "what if" that thing happens?

04:50

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers, and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Will you try the What-if switcheroo? Either way, don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]


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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Become Your Own Biggest Fan💚 (5/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Become Your Own Biggest Fan (5/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to take a look at your inner dialogue about yourself.

"Those unkind thoughts that we have about ourselves, they aren’t ones we were born with."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 173

Challenge: Become Your Own Biggest Fan (5/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Becoming your own biggest fan is our topic  today (Day 5) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, how is your inner dialogue about yourself? 

Consider how kind you are when you speak to yourself. If you are like many humans, you already know you can be quite brutal. 

Sadly, it is fairly common. Noting it, though, is a start. 

For most of us, we haven't been trained to do anything other than unfortunate self-talk. 

But noting that we do it, allows us to begin to be curious about it and consider new ways to talk to ourselves: ways to follow up with a thought and to show patience, kindness, loving consideration to ourselves. 

Those unkind thoughts that we have about ourselves, they aren’t ones we were born with. We’ve heard them from someone and have decided that they are truths. If you are able to catch yourself in a thought about you that you wouldn’t say that out loud to someone you love (or anyone actually) then, it’s time to clean that up. 

A really important thing to keep in mind, though, is to be kind to yourself as you process this. The last thing you want to do is bully yourself about bullying yourself - it is time to break that cycle. You are amazing after all! 

One final thought to consider is that if you are unable to provide support and patience and love toward yourself, then where are you gaining the energy to do it for others? 

Ooo. That was a little tough love there, huh? 

For today, consider becoming your own biggest fan: cheering yourself on; having patience and love for yourself. And sit with the fun thought that your future self is cheering you on. Just as you can look back now and think upon your past self. How fun is that? 

02:46

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. Do you realize how unsupportive you can be to yourself through your thoughts? And, what is one thought you can change up to allow yourself to feel better? 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, remember to check in on what you are saying to yourself, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Celebrate Personal Wins💚 (4/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Celebrate Personal Wins (4/30)💚

In this podcast episode I remind you to celebrate your wins!

"I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions."

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  • 00:43 Skip the intro & jump in to today's topic
  • 02:28 Journal Prompt

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"I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 172

Challenge: Celebrate Personal Wins (4/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT


[level-up music]

Celebrating your personal wins is our topic for today (Day 4) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:43

Amazing human and beautiful soul,  it is incredibly easy to take small wins for granted. This topic is one of my favorites. I encourage you to everyday,  celebrate a win - or multiple wins. 

I like to say - celebrate your wins: big or small, we celebrate them all! 

There are days where getting out of bed is a win! Maybe you made all the meals for your family - and you always do (without even giving it a second of thought). 

I invite you to find something to celebrate each and every day. If you're comfortable, share your celebration with others, but be careful that you don't change how you feel about your win based on their reaction. 

Sometimes the reactions of others may not line up with our expectations of their reaction. This could be for many reasons:  maybe they may have no interest in it; they may have something else entirely on their mind; they may not understand to the level that this is a big deal - for you. Maybe, it’s something that's easy for them, but it wasn't for you. 

With this in mind, I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions. 

If you feel good about the win before you tell someone, make sure no matter their reaction you still feel good about it after. It’s important! 

You should be really proud of yourself. I’m celebrating with you and I'd love to know what your wins are. 

02:28

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is ….What wins have you been ignoring in your life?

02:35

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

 [exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today. Way to go on celebrating your win, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

[end]


Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your New Role As A Parent (The Coach)💚 (3/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your New Role As A Parent (The Coach) (3/30)💚

In this podcast episode, I invite you to consider moving into a new phase (or role) as a parent: the coach! 

"Consider the pressure you get to take off of yourself as your emerging adult has the space they need to become their best version of who they are meant to be."

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  • 04:49 Journal Prompt

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life! 

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"Consider the pressure you get to take off of yourself as your emerging adult has the space they need to become their best version of who they are meant to be."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 171

Challenge: Your New Role As A Parent (The Coach) (3/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT


[level-up music]

Your new role as a parent is our topic for today (Day 3) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[happy upbeat music under voice over]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:44

Amazing human and beautiful soul you’ve made my day by stopping by and listening. 

One of the things I love most about coaching clients is being able to witness their new-found trust in themselves as they begin their journey forward in a way that truly honors who they are. It isn’t an easy thing to explain with words but I’ll make an attempt:

I imagine it as if energy that has always been there within these beautiful humans (hiding) is initially doing its best to peer through cracks in all their thoughts and beliefs of who they are - which tend to be thoughts built with words from others. Providing space for them to be them, to share their feelings, their thoughts and begin to be curious, allows those cracks of light (their inner being) to expand at first into a window but eventually a beautiful stained glass window that is all theirs. 

With their beautiful light shining out into the world in their unique way, they gain the confidence to live life in a way that honors them; and in also showing up in their authenticity - the world gets so much more just by them being who they are. 

Ooooo… it’s so good. 

I share this with you, as being able to do something similar for your child is about as good as it gets. You can almost imagine the colors and dancing colorful lights you would be able to have in a room when two people show up in this way. 

Yes, we know your role as a parent will adjust and be different as your child grows up, but I invite you to consider that that role (as a coach), when you choose to show up in that way - in those times where your initial gut reaction is to solve everything - but you choose to be that coach for them, that is a gift that will continue to keep giving. 

And, of course, you can pop out of the role whenever necessary. 

Consider the pressure you get to take off of yourself as your emerging adult has the space they need to become their best version of who they are meant to be. 

These skills, thoughts and concepts in this: the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success are all ones I use with my clients  - and are also ones you can adapt in your own life to use with your child. 

I often hear comments such as: "My time as a mother is over." or “All I ever wanted to be was a parent, and now I’m not sure who I am.” 

You are still a parent. It is different, sure, but trust me, you’ll have moments (usually when you least expect them) when your adult child suddenly needs you - and then it is “go time.’ 

This different role as a parent could be: 

Different [matter-of-fact]

Different [sad]

Different [questioning]

Different [happy]

You get to choose. Imagine, for a moment,  a relationship with your child long-term where your whole purpose is to love them and not to solve their problems. Imagine that you are confident in who you are and show up seeing them in all of their potential - even when they can’t see it themselves. 

Imagine yourself giving them the space to be fully them: when they are winning, and when they are in the midst of losing - it’s all their journey and their opportunity to learn more about themselves.

I invite you to consider this new parenting role as a coach. I’m cheering you on! 

04:49

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is:  How do you feel about considering yourself as a coach to your child(ren) and what kind of coach would you like to be? 

05: 02

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Embrace The Bittersweet💚 (2/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Embrace The Bittersweet (2/30)💚

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success is here! I'll be uploading episodes over August & September of 2023 - if you are ready to dive into the entire Challenge, a video series is available here: 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.

In this podcast episode, I recap all challenge announcements, and we talk about those bittersweet emotions - expect some!

"Your emotional journey and your emotions are yours. Your emotions are fine to have because you are having them. Sure, they may take you for a ride or maybe on a detour, but you'll get back where you need to be."

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💚 Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 920-LIFEWIN (920-543-3946). 

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"Your emotional journey and your emotions are yours. Your emotions are fine to have because you are having them. Sure, they may take you for a ride, or maybe on a detour,  but you’ll get back where you need to be"

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 170

Challenge: Embrace The Bittersweet (2/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Our topic today is about embracing the bittersweet as well as a recap of all of the 30-Day Challenge announcements.

[level-up music]

Hello amazing human and beautiful soul! I am your host, Coach Christine Oakfield bringing to you the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.

[upbeat music begins under voice]

You'll find 167 episodes of content in season one of the Your Empty Nest Coach podcast. In this, the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success - or Season 2 -  I introduce 30 topics that have made a noticeable impact with my most successful clients. I invite you to use these episodes to begin uncovering who you are, whether the empty nest years are ahead of you, you're deep in them or even if your nest is becoming full again. You can move from freaking out to feeling freaking awesome about these years as you become the C.E.O.  - Conscious Effective Olympian - of your life. 

Tap through to EmptyNestSuccess.com to find the many resources I have created, as these are my gift to you! 

A special thanks to SupaPass whose technology powers our Empty Nest Success online home. 

Back to you, my listener, or C.E.O. in Training, are you ready to dive in? Here we go! 

 

 [level-up music]

01:25

Amazing human, you may be wondering why I mentioned that there would be an announcement recap. Here’s my thinking: this empty nest success challenge is meant for you to have ideally, under ten minutes of an episode to introduce a concept to you. Rather than doubling the time of the remaining episodes by repeating these announcements each time, I’m going to trust that most of you will start with these first few, and will have everything you need, and if not, you’ll know to click through to my website or to check the show notes in order to be pointed in the right direction. 

My goal is for days 3- 30 of this challenge, we’ll jump almost immediately into the topic of the day and then allow you to dive into your day and continue on your journey in becoming the Conscious Effective Olympian of Your Life!

Before I recap the announcements, I’m thrilled that I have a brand new one today that is incredibly well-timed following our top-of the-toolbox episode! 

02:28 

[level-up music] 

I’m thrilled to invite you to join me and over 100 other expert speakers in the Get Organized virtual HQ summit. I have a free ticket for you and it includes the special bonuses of an Event Facebook Group invite - yes, I’ll be popping in there from time to time - you also will receive an Attendee Roadmap and a Personalized Schedule Generator - as with over 100 sessions lined up, it may be hard to know where to begin. 

Honestly, I can’t sing the praises of the Get Organized HQ team enough. I’m a pretty type A, and a super organized human which means I have high standards when it comes to events and this one is unbelievable - all of the sessions are ready and waiting to go live, this team has also thought of every detail - you won’t be disappointed. 

For you my listener, I recommend using this summit as an opportunity to find some new top of the toolbox items or fun projects - I even created a YouTube video (I don’t do these often) [giggle] - it has some tips that will be live in a couple of days. It’s part of a wider playlist from other speakers in the event. And this playlist? It’s life hacks - I told you they thought of everything. 

Don’t miss this opportunity. I’m honored to be a part of it and recorded my session while taking a walk in the woods - the title of it is Thought Decluttering and More for Almost Empty Nesters and Empty Nesters - and, by the way, I’m not the only empty nest speaker. 

As always, you’ll find the link in my show notes. I hope to see you there and if you join the attendee Facebook Group, tag me and say “Hi!”

04:24

[level-up]

Now for your quick review of the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success announcements and resources. You’ll find links in the show notes to the following: 

[bell sound] Videos for all of the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success days - if you prefer video to audio - or, maybe, you would like to reinforce the topics. 

[bell sound] A way to register for email delivery of the challenge videos

[bell sound] Links to a free downloadable companion workbook for the challenge, as well as an optional online journal upgrade, for a small investment 

By the way, there is a bonus coupon code in the workbook I just mentioned.

[bell sound] Information about my Group Coaching Program: the C.E.O. Training Team to Empty Nest Success, which you may join with or without private coaching sessions.

[bell sound] Links to follow me in two of my favorite social media platforms: TikTok and Instagram

[bell sound] There’s a special link with information on how to make a submission to Season 3 of this podcast, where I will return to a weekly format focusing on answering YOUR questions. I can’t wait to receive your submission!

[bell sound] The Empty Nest Success Online Home - where you’ll find - well, everything - links to all I just mentioned and more!

Finally, the entire challenge is brought to you by the C.E.O. Training Team to Empty Nest Success membership, powered by SupaPass. 

05:54

[level-up music]

Today’s topic is to embrace the bittersweet. You have 18+ years of memories, of relationship building, of getting comfortable in your role as your child’s parent, and as excited for them, you may also have competing emotions - depending on the moment. 

Bittersweet is the best word I have found to describe the emotions of this time - and you may be able to apply it to any major transition in your life. Know that your emotions may take you on a “bit of a journey,” and they might surprise you. One moment you are smiling ear to ear and the next you are a ball of tears because you miss the dirty dishes you used to complain about. 

Your emotional journey and your emotions are yours. Your emotions are fine to have because you are having them. Sure, they may take you for a ride, or maybe on a detour,  but you’ll get back where you need to be. First, claim that you feel the way you feel. Whether it is happy, sad, angry, anxious, or something else. Accepting the feeling allows you to do something with it - even if it is sitting with some ben and jerry’s ice cream while you watch your goto - that movie always makes me cry.

Embrace it all. Your emotions are a beautiful part of who you are and they have a lot to teach you about yourself. 

If you are able to catch your emotions and label them, it’s a good time to pat yourself on the back that you “caught them.” If you have an emotion that makes you uncomfortable, you can try saying to yourself, “I am feeling _____. And at the end of that statement, you could try adding one of two things: that is okay / or and it will pass - whichever feels better for you, or something else if it works for you. 

An important disclaimer that I must make and I really want you to hear: If you are unable to pull out of serious depression, or are having self-harm thoughts, please seek mental health resources! And, as always, I’m cheering you on.

If you are easily able to label and process through your emotions,  trust that you’ll be able to do more with your emotions in time but for now, embrace the changes and lean into the emotions that feel good. REALLY lean into those good ones!

08:25

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is Do you have competing emotions about the empty nest? What are they? What if you are curious about them rather than annoyed with those that you don’t love? By the way, find more journal prompts on this episode’s companion video in the Empty Nest Success online home.

08:49

[level-up music]

[end/tag line]  

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others!

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

[end]


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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

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