30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Who are you? 💚 (17/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Who Are You?💚 (17/30)

In this podcast episode, I challenge you to expand who you are.

🗨️ "You've been doing these roles, potentially all of them, for decades. And it makes sense that you immediately identify with being a role that  you fill. Today, I challenge you, to consider that you are more than your roles and your responsibilities."

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"You've been doing these roles, potentially all of them, for decades. And it makes sense that you immediately identify with being a role that  you fill. Today, I challenge you, to consider that you are more than your roles and your responsibilities."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 185

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Who are you? (17/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Who are you? is our topic for today (Day 17) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[upbeat music under dialogue]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, if I sit and ask you right now, who are you? What's the first description that comes to mind? What do you say? 

[pause with some upbeat music]

 I’m curious. 

Did your answer include or was it all, your roles and your responsibilities?  Whether the roles are parent, your career, blue collar work, home maker work or a corporate position; mother of [insert how many children you have], a volunteer role, or something else? 

I get it. You've been doing these roles, potentially all of them, for decades. And it makes sense that you immediately identify with being a role that  you fill. Today, I challenge you, today, to consider that you are more than your roles and your responsibilities. 

You know how I like: What if? What if you were born to be here on this planet for a reason. No, I don't know your reason. You, you, and only you can determine why you're here. But you might not actually know right now and that may be because you have spent decades filling these roles and responsibilities - sometimes AMAZINGLY well - taking the steps that everyone's supposed to take in life, keeping up with the Joneses or not keeping up with the Joneses. 

There are ways in our society that we are simply supposed to do things. Aren’t there? But who made those up anyway? 

And for some of you, maybe your full identity is in doing the opposite of what you were told you are supposed to do. 

It works both ways.  

But here's what I want to share with you today: that you - you right now - you listening to this podcast episode as you are sitting in the car, doing the laundry, just getting out of bed just about to go to bed, wherever you are,  stop 

for a moment. 

[pause] 

Take in that you, you amazing human,  may be here for a reason (I believe that for you but do you believe it for you?) You, amazing human, are worthy to exist as you are right now. Fully. 

The you that was born into this world, before humans got a hold of you and told you how you’re supposed to behave, how you need to show up - that version of you is still there. That version of you might be a little hard to find but they are happy to be here. They find joy in things that you, right now, kind of now take for granted. They have dreams - some [giggle] might think are kind of wild too, and so many exciting ideas for the future. 

I invite you to consider that there’s more to you under all of your roles and responsibilities.  

Do with this what you will. 

Honestly, you can turn this episode off now no one's making you listen to it. Or, you can begin to take the steps of this C.E.O.  - life (the Conscious Effective Olympian) living - where you begin to consider that your thoughts are optional, consider that you are receiving thought-box-deliveries; that you have been receiving thought-box-deliveries over the years, and over the years, and over the years. Maybe you’ve received so many of the same packages that you have begun to believe that that is who you are. 

But there’s a whole ‘nother part of you. The part of you that you know. The part of you who has dreams who has a purpose. And yes, that purpose can change over time. And your dreams? Your dreams don't have to be what most humans could consider huge and they don’t have to be specific either. Maybe your dream is: you want to wake up happy and I gotta tell you, that's a dream that I currently strive for every single day.  

It has taken me some well curated simmering, training of my protector and inspecting of thought-box-deliveries for me to realize that the to-do list that has 500 things on it -  and I will never ever catch up on, well, that list, I didn’t really make it for myself.

Yes, physically, I may have gone through the motions of adding items to a list (whether it be paper or online), but guess where the thought-box-deliveries came from telling me that I need to put this on my list. I’ll tell you, it’s a variety of places. Many are well-meaning and in a moment may sound amazing for myself. 

I’m going to be really vulnerable with you, right now, there are days where I just want to walk in the woods, and hang out for hours on end, but then there’s the roles and responsibilities of all the things I have to do. 

Sometimes, those things on my to-do list, those really can wait - and after further inspection, some of them don’t belong there at all - AT ALL. 

But it is only with a clearer mind that I’m able to clear the list in a way that I feel good about. 

Does this resonate at all with you? 

To be clear, in who you are, if you are a parent, yes, of course you are a parent. You're an amazing parent, who made it this far without an instruction manual, too! I am not saying to remove the idea of being a parent completely from your identity. However, I encourage you to consider that that's not all of who you are. Being the partner to your partner is not all of who you are. Your job is not all of who you are. The combination of those things that apply to you, together, are not all of who you are. You, yes you, are worthy of existing on this planet without doing all the things. You really are. 

Start there and you may find life opens up in ways you never expected.

07:04

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … How has being a parent impacted your sense of identity?

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! I invite you to explore more of who you are and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time! 

[end]


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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Accepting Thought-Box Deliveries 💚 (16/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Accepting Thought-Box Deliveries 💚 (16/30)

In this podcast episode, we think about the things we allow into our mental real estate.

"What if you are conscious enough to pay attention to your mental real estate in a way that filters out the deliveries that should simply be marked “return to sender” or never even opened at all."

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"What if you are conscious enough to pay attention to your mental real estate in a way that filters out the deliveries that should simply be marked “return to sender” or never even opened at all."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 184

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Consciously Process Your Emotions (16/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Accepting Thought-Box-Deliveries is our topic for today (Day 16) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:41

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we’ve been building an analogy for Conscious Effective Olympian (that’s C.E.O.) living in our empty nest years, and today we’re going to focus on where the thought-box-deliveries we first mentioned in episode 11 of this season are coming from.

The thought-box-deliveries can be quite plentiful and arrive from a variety of sources such as 

  • A teacher you had decades ago 

  • A parent

  • The media: we are continually bombarded by messages from television, social media, billboards, [giggle] podcasts and more!

  • A colleague at work

  • A friend or a frenemy

  • Even a stranger on the street who makes a comment

It is important to note that not all thought-box-deliveries are intentionally sent from others - they may be simply sharing their own experience never considering the impact you might make it in your own life. A thought-box-delivery may come as a demand or as what some consider a fact.

The consideration I invite you to make today is to pay attention to where one (or some) of the thought-box-deliveries that have strong negative emotions for you  - where are they coming from. Do you know where it came from? 

What if you are conscious enough to pay attention to your mental real estate in a way that filters out the deliveries that should simply be marked “return to sender” or never even opened at all.

By the way, your inner self has your back; thinks you’re amazing, and incredible; and would never think anything about you that is unkind. You weren’t born thinking lousy things about yourself. Unkind thoughts about yourself? Well, those came from somewhere, and you can choose to declutter them and never allow them within your fence again. 

Being curious about where thought-box-deliveries come from, allows you to not only declutter the boxes that aren’t serving you, but also you may discover some that are continually forwarded to you that make you feel wonderful - and you’re ignoring those. Why?

Then, you get to choose if you want to change anything: choose to ignore the happenings that cause the thought-box-delivery;  or take a look at a delivery and toss it into the trash; or you can treasure it - if it is one that feels good, and well, honestly, you can do whatever you want with them.

This is, after all, your life to live! 

03:21

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …Do you have an easier time accepting positive or negative thought-box-deliveries?

03:30

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, be curious where those thought-box-deliveries are coming from, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]


Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Consciously Process Your Emotions 💚 (15/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Consciously Process Your Emotions 💚 (15/30)

In this podcast episode, we continue the Conscious Effective Olympian analogy for your emotions.

"Be curious about where your thoughts go, and consider what would your life look like if you felt your emotions and you weren't afraid to feel them?"

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

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Your Empty Nest Coach

"Be curious about where your thoughts go, and consider what would your life look like if you felt your emotions and you weren't afraid to feel them?"

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 183

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Consciously Process Your Emotions (15/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Consciously Processing Your Emotions is our topic for today (Day 15) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. Yes, we’re halfway there.

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:44

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we began this topic a bit yesterday when we added on how to envision emotions within our Conscious Effective Olympian Living - and I invite you to dig in a little bit more today: 

Many of us were told over the years to hide our strong emotions. Have you heard these comments: 

"Cheer up," 

"You have nothing to be angry about," 

"Oh I'll give you something to cry about." 

Statements like these certainly don't teach us how to process or pay attention to our emotions. 

It is a bit of a rarity to find loved ones and others who are willing to share their emotions, tell you things like: I’ll be okay. I just have some emotions I need to pay attention to for a little bit of time. 

Can you imagine a parent allowing a child to be angry and encouraging the child to see what they can learn about themselves as they experience the anger? What thoughts are on their mind? Are they enjoying the anger?  To be honest, it might feel way better than the despair they felt moments earlier, or hopelessness they might have been feeling. And then when they get to the other side of the anger, they may be able to move to another emotion that feels even better. 

They may discover the anger really didn’t serve them much at all - or the way they expressed it brought up other things. And the next time they feel it, they may process through it quicker.

What would a world, where we all did this, be like?  These are the kinds of things I like to think about.

In our ever-expanding analogy, I imagine our avoiding and ignoring emotions as we are well-trained to take any thought-box delivery with a strong emotion and toss it in the basement of our home with all the other strong emotions. 

I see all the angry ones are together. All the hopeless ones are together, happy, sadness, you make the piles. The more boxes that are together, the more the energy in that emotion expands over time.

As the thought-box delivery comes down, it quickly is magnetized to the pile that it matches and it becomes STRONG. I almost can visualize them rumbling a bit.

Whether the emotion was triggered by something you watched on TV, in social media, a conversation you had, maybe even driving your car, we don’t know any different, so there’s no reason to beat ourselves up. 

Simply acknowledge that this may be happening. And, if this analogy kind of works for you but you can kind of make it fit a little better, please, make this your own.  

I'd like to encourage you to consider experiencing your emotions (not tossing them down the basement) can be freeing. Sure, we may have been taught to take those emotions, put them into storage and lock them away. 

Taking a look at the emotions, and considering why the emotions are there - what is raising them in us can allow us to clear the clutter of our mind quickly - or quicker than we used to.  I encourage you to become conscious of your emotions. You’re not going to catch them all, but if you start with one, that’s a win!

As you learn to sift through your emotions, pay attention to how they feel in your body, and decide what to do with them before they make it to the basement area. It’s a lot easier to open a single box and to process it, then to go into the basement, grab that box that’s now in a rumbling pile of emotion.

And lets be real, sometimes you open the box, you look at the emotion, and you think, “Yeah, this is justified!” That’s really good! Other times you may be “why was I so angry about this, that’s really no big deal.”   It’s all for you to figure out - make it fun! 

And, there are times when we have to store away emotions briefly until we have time and safe space to process them. When you begin to make that the exception rather than the norm, you may find your life becomes freeing. 

Then, when you do have the time to process your emotions and you end up visiting the storage area, it doesn’t mean you need to dive in and re-evaluate all of your past emotions or anything. Honestly, if you are feeling good, you don’t even have to look at that original box!

Remember, I’m not your boss. You use your own inner guidance, but if you decide to do a deep dive into those emotions, that is a really good time to seek a therapist or another mental health practitioner. They are skilled in helping you navigate all that may come up. 

For now, though, and the future, what if you pay attention to your emotions and consider that, yeah, maybe you just need to be sad. What if you share with your loved ones things like, “Hey, I'm sad. And it’s okay that I’m sad. It really  makes sense. This is a bittersweet time for me.” Looking at the Empty Nest in particular, we could continue with things like,”  I am really excited for you but I'm also sad because I like having you around. And we've built this relationship. I'm really proud of you,  so, I'll miss you. I'm gonna have sad moments but it's gonna be okay. And I am really excited for you."

Not only are you gifting yourself with the ability to take that thought-box delivery, open it up, look at it, consider it and process through - decide where you want to put it, but you're also showing your children and loved ones what emotions look like - that it's okay to have them and this is healthy. 

See where this all lands for you. Ultimately, it’s your journey so do what you feel inspired to try or not try. Conscious Effective Olympian living is super fun and it takes time to adjust - it’s worth it but there is also no rush at all.

A reminder that this is the “meatier” portion of the challenge - and you may need to chew on the concept a little bit. 

Enjoy considering all of this. Be curious about where your thoughts go, and consider what would your life look like if you felt your emotions and you weren't afraid to feel them? Super fun! If you already do this - well done!

06:48

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. Reflect on a strong emotion that you initially pushed down - one that isn’t too tough - can you identify where that thought originally came from?

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Lean into some of those emotions and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Emotions 💚 (14/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Emotions 💚 (14/30)

In this podcast episode, we continue our primary analogy for Conscious Effective Olympian living with a focus on your emotions. 

"Any emotion you experience is valid because it is yours."

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  • 03:13 Journal Prompt

 Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

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Your Empty Nest Coach

"Any emotion you experience is valid

because it is yours."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 182

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Emotions

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Your Emotions. That’s our topic for today (Day 14) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.  

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, are you ready to add your emotions into this analogy that we are building? 

Let’s go back to those thought-box-deliveries that enter your home. 

I like to imagine my emotions (once I’ve identified them) as written on the inside flap opening of my thought-box-delivery. I picture them in thick black ink. 

For example, Imagine you open the thought-box-delivery labeled “my future is unknown”. And you see inside this box, written fear, nervousness, overwhelm - one word on each interior side of the box. 

For some thought-box-deliveries there will be one singular emotion. And for other thought-box-deliveries, there may be multiple emotions that arise. It’s always good to pick one emotion to take a look at a thought at a time. 

 Sometimes, we identify our thoughts before our emotions but quite often, what happens is our box is open and that emotion is pouring out - so we experience that emotion before we even think to pay attention to the thoughts we are thinking. 

Any emotion you experience is valid because it is yours. You may want to consider that an emotion you are experiencing might be an indicator to take stock of things - maybe do a reset, take a look at your thought-box-deliveries, or simply add to the statement: “And that is okay.”  This may lift the emotion to feeling a little better and gives you the space to experience it. 

If your emotions feel good - and you catch them - see what thought-box-delivery they arrived in and make a note that this one is definitely worth keeping and revisiting. Also, who sent that to you because you might want to spend more time around them. 

If you find your emotions tend to be on the unpleasant side of things, and are able to identify your thought-box-deliveries related to the emotion, those might be ones that are worth training your Protector on - and imagine what you would want your protector to do with them. 

I’d start with something small. 

For me, most of these deliveries are ones that my Protector now allows to pass on by - knowing they were never meant for me anyway. There’s no reason for them to enter my fence. 

We’ll continue to talk about your emotions in our next episode.

03:13 

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is ….Take a moment to reflect on a recent situation where you experienced strong emotions. Are you able to identify the thought or belief that triggered them?

03:27

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, see what emotions arise,  and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]


Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Protector – Who’s the boss? 💚 (13/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Protector - Who's the boss? 💚 (13/30)

In this podcast episode, we add on the idea of the part of you that acts as your Protector.

"But, what if..  you become the boss of your own life - the Conscious Effective Olympian - by taking the time to get to know and train your Protector?"

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  • 00:42 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic
  • 05:26 Journal Prompt

Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

Legal disclaimer: Listening to this podcast doesn't make Christine your official coach, and this podcast is not meant to replace your doctor or therapist. Curious? Click here for the deets!

You may be interested in…

For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"But, what if..  you become the boss of your own life - the Conscious Effective Olympian - by taking the time to get to know and train your Protector?

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 181

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Protector - Who's the boss?

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Your Protector: Who’s the boss the boss, anyway? is our topic for today (Day 13) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we are continuing to build our analogy with those building block concepts. What if the part of you that some call ego, you begin to think of as your protector? 

Let me first share where this analogy came from …. I was working through reading “The Power of Now.” I talk about that in our episode about presence, and in that book Eckhart Tolle mentions the ego quite a bit. No matter how many times I read it, the word wasn’t resonating with me, personally, as positively as I believe he was intending it. I always associated the word “ego” with negativity, even though I know in different contexts it has different meanings. Being a person focused on finding ways to love all the parts of myself, this wasn’t going to work for me. This put me on a journey to discover a way to think of the ego so that I loved it and cared for it as it is part of me. 

I tried different concepts and, finally, one resonated with me: the idea that this ego part of me was, actually, trying to do their best: it was overwhelmed, it’s untrained, and it’s working incredibly hard with barely any resources. I don’t know about you but I’ve been in job roles where I’ve felt that way and the way I show up is entirely different from the times when I feel confident in my role; I feel well trained;  I feel my boss has my back; and if I have a question, it’s okay because then, we can work it out together. 

I began to play with this concept, adjust it and eventually landed on the name of a Protector - a security guard of sorts but one that I simply need to train. I’ve been told by some clients and podcast listeners that the analogy works well for them too! So, here we are, years later and it still fits.

Now back to the analogy we’re building: although your Protector will be different from mine - let’s add yours to your mind’s house, yard and fence.  Imagine adding on a security space just outside of your fence. This may be as intimate or as large as you like - be it a person standing there with locks on the gate and you need their intervention or a full blown security building with tv monitors, and a really nice chair for your Protector. 

I’ll share a little bit about mine: I imagine mine in a hut just to the side of the fence. Now, they are trained enough that most of the time, they get to chill out. They’ve earned this chill out session: they get to drink  their coffee and watch all the monitors where they easily know which thing can pass on by my fence without me giving it a second thought. 

We’ve gone through some significant training to get to this point, too. 

If you’re starting to question where we are, pop back an episode or two and re-listen to the building of this analogy, or check the extra resources I have in the show notes!

If do you find this Protector concept resonates with you, spend some time getting to know your Protector, begin to consider what your incredible part of you would look like. 

Remember the idea here is that they take their job of protecting you super seriously. And absolutely everything that comes near the fence, currently, puts them on high alert. EVERYTHING. It's not their fault. They haven't been trained  - ever. They have been doing this job for decades and you haven’t paid any attention to them. They are under the false assumption, also, that they are the boss. 

They have no reason to think otherwise. All they know is if they don’t do their job well, bad things happen to you, and their job is to protect you. 

But, what if.. (you know how I like that) what if you become the boss of your own life - the Conscious Effective Olympian) by taking the time to get to know and train your Protector to handle thought deliveries to your specifications. Specifications, that honestly, you don’t know yet because you still need to declutter your house - that’s all good!

Your job right now is to appreciate and love your Protector part of you for doing the best they could, up until now. 

This challenge is a perfect example of a training resource that you can use to train your protector.  And this challenge is one huge introductory training program.

05:26

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. How do you imagine your Protector and where they reside as they do their job?

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! For the opportunity to get to know you might have a Protector and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

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