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Christine: You are listening to the Your Empty Nest Coach podcast with Coach Christine, episode number 59: Why I Don’t Have a Side Hustle.
I work with mothers of high school students and beyond, who are in the trenches with sad and possibly, overwhelming thoughts about what their life will look like when their baby heads to college and begins to leave the nest. My clients’ big question is what will I do with my time? Is this you? I’ve been there, and I get it. Empowering you to write the next jaw-dropping, amazing chapter in your life is my passion. I am energized by leading you in the process of exploration and am thrilled when you unlock the power that lies within you. This podcast is my gift to you.
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Hello, my creative empty nest friend! What were your thoughts when I just called you creative? Did you agree with me? Did you say, “How does she know I’m creative?” I have my ways. Or did you say, “Well, you’ve got the wrong person there, Christine.” I’m willing to bet you are amazingly creative when you are working toward something that you are meant to do. Try those thoughts on for size, today.
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Okay, to the topic at hand today: why I don’t have a side hustle. It comes down to energy for me. When I started my coaching, everyone had a side hustle and people would say things to me like, “What an interesting side hustle,” “Oh, my friend Stevie Jo has a side hustle, she drives for uber,” “I used to do the side hustle thing, but not anymore.” Side hustle, side hustle, side hustle.
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When I would hear those two words, I could deeply feel the push back inside of me and it took me months to figure out why. I was kind of doing my coaching but I wasn’t all in. And I share this with you because, you need to notice the push back internally in your life. You need to question it and dive deep into it, because it matters. For you, it might not be a side hustle, it might be when someone says something like, “Oh, you were a stay-at-home mom,” or “I wish I could have been a homemaker,” or “My mom was like you, she was all in my business.”
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The key here, is to identify that you have identified yourself with these words, and then when you hear someone else say them, it brings up feelings for you, that you don’t love. As you know, our thoughts matter, those feelings matter, and this is my best most-recent example and also, why I firmly believe I have been able to accomplish so much over the last twelve months.
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While coaching myself on getting in the right mindset, I found that side hustle, those two words, creates, for me, the clear message that this is impermanent, it is not my main “thing” and I have no long-term investment in it. Side hustle might bring to you, excitement, energy and fun. The thing to remember here is that my work isn’t your work. You have to do the work to figure out your own life. But with those feelings, ultimately, side hustle couldn’t be what I keep calling my coaching business. So, I began testing out new words. I did actually try putting the words side hustle on my day job, temporarily. That didn’t feel right, at all. I mean, I spend 40 hours a week there. There is nothing side about that, and I want a positive energy while I’m there. I needed words that I feel good about, that create energy in my life, in both places, and that don’t lead me to more thought box deliveries that create feelings of resentment or unhappiness. This is extremely important to me.
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After all, I might be at the day job for two more years, or ten more years, and I don’t want to spend 40 hours a week, a month, a year being in negative energy space. Are you hearing me? Is this resonating with you? For me, I don’t like who I show up as with those two words. I eventually landed on day job and business.
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Day job, for me, brings up neutral feelings. I’m there to do my work. It serves an important purpose in my life, and I show up well in what I do. I’m not married to it, my worth is not tied up in it. I’m peaceful and productive with the words day job. Business for me has me all over it. I work on my business. Heading home now to work on my business, feels so good. I wake up early to build my business. I get energy.
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Words have power. They have a tremendous amount of power in your life, especially when you repeat them to yourself and haven’t explored what feelings they manifest in you. Explore them. Once you figure out which words you want to use, it doesn’t mean you now correct others when they use the old words, because that is all they know, they couldn’t possibly know what you have in store for yourself. Remember how much work it took you to find those words. However, by you using them in your life naturally, others will learn, and then you begin to surround yourself with the words you needed all along.
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It is incredibly fun, a ton of work, as always, but the power you gain in your life is worth this investment. If you want to learn more about some concepts that came up in this episode, see episode number 3, on Thoughts; see episode number 29, about Sitting in the Simmer, and maybe episode number 47, and that’s titled: Is this all just positive thinking?
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The questions I have for you in this episode are number one: do you know what words need to be changed in your life? And number two, are you ready to make changes to the words you use? I invite you to fly on over to our Facebook Group to share your answers to these questions with our amazing flock. Our name is Green Popsicle Sticks, want to know why? Listen to episode number 17. Or head to my website: YourEmptyNestCoach.com/community for links to join our flock. We look forward to seeing you there!
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As always, I provide content to make you think, my empty nest friend. My hope is that I am able to provide thoughts that positively impact your life. You’ll find the show notes for this, and every episode, on my website.
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My next episode’s title is: Be the Amazing Boss of Your Thoughts. Are you able to screenshot this episode right now? If so, take a minute to do that and then to share it wherever you hang out most, on social media, to help others to find this podcast. That would be incredibly helpful. Be sure to tag me @emptynestcoach so I may personally thank you. And, my wonderful empty nest friend, remember, you are amazing! See ya!
