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Christine: It is time for a Quick Tips Tuesday episode of the Your Empty Nest Coach podcast. I am your host, Coach Christine, and this is episode #63 of my podcast. If this is your first time listening, I invite you to check out my Friday episodes, as well, where I provide bite-sized coaching assistance to guide you along your empty nest transition years – it is an amazing time of our lives but it is easy to forget that through the bumps in the road in our journey. My hope is that you discover how amazing you are and find the excitement in your years ahead.
A reminder that all of the Quick Tips Team members and their contact information may be found on my website YourEmptyNestCoach.com – look for the Quick Tips Team button on the home page.
Say that five times fast, “Quick Tips Team button,” [giggle]
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And if you have a quick tip to share with listeners of this podcast, I would love to share it with them. See this episode’s show notes for a link to record your audio submission for this podcast. Happy recording friend!
Wait, Christine, where are the show notes? That might help you, huh? You’ll find those in the description of this episode – on Apple Podcasts click, “Details”; on Spotify, Click “See More,”: on Overcast press the I for information – button – Get the idea? Or of course, visit my website for full show notes with links to everything we discuss in this episode and a full episode transcript – those reside at your empty nest coach dot com forward slash p for podcast and 63 (for this number’s episode). I can’t wait to hear from you.
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In this episode, this is the first time you’ll be hearing from the wonderful Rachel Lankester. She’s a passionate ray of sunshine, always.
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Rachel: Hello. Rachel Lankester here: midlife mentor from MagnificentMidlife.com. I’d like you to remember today that you’re never too old and it’s never too late. Only you can stop you being and doing what you want in your life.
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Christine: Thanks, Rachel! If you are a regular listener of my podcast, you’ve already been introduced to the following four ladies, so I’m going to let them do their magic without interruption. If you’d like to be formally introduced to them, be sure to check our our earlier Quick Tips episodes!
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Jenn: Hi, this is Jenn, your wardrobe/closet coach with three tips for the day.
Number one is a trash bag. Yes, I said it, a trash bag. Keep a trash bag in your closet. Anytime something doesn’t fit; you don’t like how it fits; or it’s just old, put it in the trash bag. If you don’t get it out for a few months then it needs to go to Goodwill or a consignment shop.
Number two is wrinkle spray. I really do not enjoy ironing, so Downy wrinkle spray has been my savior. If you have another wrinkle spray, please use it. Spray, spray, spray, shake, shake, shake – no more ironing. It is a godsend!
And number three is shapewear. I really have enjoyed and liked Jockey brand shapewear that you can order on Amazon. You can also go to Marshall’s and TJ Maxx and get shapewear. Just the tank type of shapewear – the sleeveless tank -it goes down over your stomach, it goes down over your hips. It smooths everything out and can be worn under anything. It doesn’t clinch or cinch – nothing like the corset from many, many years ago. But it smooths everything out. It is a definite go-to.
So let me repeat again: a trash bag for those things you don’t wear; shapewear to keep everything smooth and defined, and the third but not the least is the wrinkle spray. It will be your go-to and your savior – that is all I have for today.
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Deirdre: Hi! I’m Deirdre from Declutter by Deirdre, a senior move management company and your host of the Magnificent Aging podcast.
My tip for this month is please ensure your personal paperwork is in order and accessible: wills, durable power of attorney, health care directives, trust agreements, designation of health care surrogates, etc. Discuss this with your family so that all family members are clear on your choices.
Providing them with this gift of clarity will preserve a lot of relationships after you’ve passed. Please, do not wait to create these very important documents.
Thank you for listening. I appreciate you.
Christine: Jo Davies’ humor is next…
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Jo: I’ve written in the past on my feed about the stance position you have to adopt in the toilet when sitting is not an option. Having just come back from a week skiing in France, I feel like I’ve been in that position for seven days and I’m not sure my thighs will ever recover.
Skiing itself involves several versions of the stance: thighs burning the whole way down the slope; you’re also in the stance waiting for the chair lift to take out your knees in some martial arts type move and dump you unceremoniously on your bottom in the chair; the agony of the long-button lift legs screaming the whole way up; the restaurants toilets – always down several flights of stairs and often with no seat at all – again, the stance.
In my twenties, with thighs of steel, I used to prepare for skiing by sitting on an imaginary chair. Now, with thighs of jelly, I should probably go back to that practice. Thinking of that reminded me of the saying that, “If you are sober enough to remember to drink a glass of water before bed, you aren’t drunk enough to need it.” If my thighs are so weak they need strengthening, they definitely aren’t strong enough for the imaginary chair exercise.
Hopefully, like childbirth, I will have forgotten the hideous thigh burn by next year.
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Katy: Hi, this is Katy Oliveira, your student’s college success strategist, and today’s quick tip is to resist the urge to do it for them.
As parents, our job on the most primitive level is to keep our little ones safe and secure, so our genes will pass onto the next generation. We love our kids so much that we can’t even stand it, and we carry that love with us for life, even when they are a foot taller than us.
That’s why when your young adult runs into adversity, you have to use every fiber of your being to stop yourself from jumping in and doing the work of fixing it for them. When you jump in and do it for them, you rob them of the chance to learn and grow. Most of us learn by doing. We make progress by doing. We gain clarity by doing.
If you’re the one doing the doing, your young adult child will feel incapable and dependent on you. As your child begins to shift from wily teenager to uncertain young adult, they need to know that they are capable of adulting, and the best way to know that is by practicing adulting. I recommend shifting your role from the person who does for your child, to the person who supports and holds space for your adult: become an advisor, a coach, a consultant, rather than a personal assistant.
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Christine: And from me, today, I’d like to share a tip with you that has helped me when I wonder if I unplugged my curling iron or turned the light off in a room..
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I don’t know about you but the older I get the more, this has become an issue for me – sure – go ahead and diagnose me. [giggles]
But in all seriousness, I found that it is usually one particular thing for me, so I started taking a photo of the item put away or turned off. What I’ve found, is that I’m just not present in life when I’m doing these things – they are automatic and it is easy for me to be managing a few other thought deliveries that have nothing to do with what I’m actually doing in the moment, so by consciously taking a photo of the pesky-thing-I-typically-forget-about in ten minutes, I force myself to be present enough to notice it.
I haven’t yet had to go look at the photo because just the act of taking the photo is enough for me to remember yes, I did unplug the flat iron and store it safely.
Give it a try and let me know if it is helpful.
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I am thrilled you listened today. If you enjoyed this episode, and want the next quick tips episode to make its way to you in your favorite app, take a moment to subscribe to this podcast – it is FREE!
My next episode is titled “Becoming the CEO of Your Life: Part 1 of 5” Curious? I hope so! If you are subscribed to my podcast, you’ll find it in your feed on Friday by 6 AM. I invite you to take a listen.
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