You are listening to the Your Empty Nest Coach podcast [kitchen/pans clinking]
Uh – Christine
Yes Christine –
You know with the social distancing implemented due to COVID-19 that your listener’s nest may not be empty right now – and they may be struggling with an unexpected full nest.
I mean, listen to that racket in the kitchen.
Ooo, you’re right – how about.
You are listening to the Not-So-Empty-Nest podcast with Coach Christine – is that better?
I think for at least for the near future – it might be a good call.
Sounds like a plan.
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Hello, my lovely empty nest(or not so empty nest – right now) friend! How is your nest doing? How is your mind doing? Are you busy training your protector?
This episode wraps up my 12 Not-So-Empty-Nest series. My next episode will return us to my regularly scheduled Friday coaching concepts episodes and look for the 2020 Quick Tips Team to return in your feed in a couple of weeks!
Our family has been in full social distancing mode for 17 days now. We are pretty well set. Our daughter has a nice routine but the newness of being at home is wearing off and there are a few more moments of I miss my friends, I miss college, I miss in-person classes, of course – as is to be expected – but thankfully, the overall adjustment seems to be going well.
We all have our routines: my husband gets his runs in, I walk throughout the day and my daughter is just dance-ing for her exercise.
This sounds silly but a big change for us is that for the last year or so my husband had been our grocery shopper but due to the restrictions and his immune system, I removed that responsibility from him and told him yesterday that I’ll be doing it for the next year at least. I think I said that out loud more for me to mentally prepare for that timeline. I have to say, it took some getting used to doing the shopping again – he has spoiled me – but knowing I have one trip a week and we get what we get makes it easier. Thankfully, I have always headed to the store with a list and (yeah, as close to the order of the aisle setup as possible), and I rarely stray from the list, so I managed to get in and out within 30 minutes – that is a win!
It is officially spring here so the balance of getting out to walk for some fresh air with dealing with season allergies is full on but I’ll take that. The three of us are healthy and safe. We have others in our family who are in the vulnerable population, so there are the concerns that pop into my mind of course but ultimately, I need to watch my protector and make sure that the well meaning concerns don’t become the spotlight inside of my fence – which would consume energy I can spend on other things.
When I can take action – awesome. When I can’t that protector needs to be trained well.
I realized something this morning… while no, our nest may not be empty at the moment, there will come a time when your child (our children) will head back out of our homes, and we are going to be gifted with the opportunity to begin our empty nest journey once again.
This is what we all hope for. We have the opportunity to think about what we thought about last time and to level -up our journey this time around.
Whether you are listening to this in the midst of COVID-19 restrictions or you are listening to this episode years later, these moments – no matter where you are in life – have challenges but they also have opportunities.
Opportunities for growth in you, opportunities for new connections with your now young-adult or adult child in a way that empowers both of you to be a bit more ready the next time they leave the nest.
And an opportunity to show your child what it is like to know who you are meant to be outside of the role of mother. Show them that you ARE more than a mom, you are so much more than that, my friend. Being a mother is wonderful but that is only one aspect of who you are.
I believe with all my heart that you, my future empty nest friend, are freaking amazing and while you may need a little guidance to find who you are meant to be – that version of you will be the best GPS in your life moving forward.
Whether she’s future you outside of COVID-19 restrictions or future you two years down the road. She knows you best.
Oh my gosh, yes they are home now but one day (for most of us) they will leave again. While that may bring up tremendous emotions for you – joyous or heart-wrenching – you are strong enough to move through those emotions, and to process through them knowing that the happenings of your life aren’t the cause of your happiness.
The work you do on your thoughts, toward training your protector and to using future you as your GPS will bring you peace no matter where your child resides.
I believe this, and it is what motivates me in all that I do.
Why did I do this series not-so-empty-nest-series? Well, I’ve had people say, “great podcast idea, but my nest isn’t empty,” and I recognize that this is a reality for many. Now, I have a starting point for those who are dealing with the unexpected full nest.
When you are the Conscious Effective Olympian (or CEO) of Your Life you can handle it all – full nest or not, and I have created this podcast to introduce you to my concepts. Should you be ready to dive in with guidance, I have a monthly membership program to support you in the start, and maintenance of your journey, as one thing I have discovered is that it is easy for our protector to take back over when we aren’t in a group of others who are on the same journey.
So, empty nest or not, please know that I’m here for you. Yes, I’m wrapping the not-so-empty-nest series up for now but that doesn’t mean you need to stop listening to me.
After all, you now know that my concepts apply to all areas of your life. If you have enjoyed listening to my podcast episodes, I invite you to check out the links I have in show notes because you’ll see I reference other episodes often – and you’ll find what applies best to you there. As of this recording, I have 84 other episodes for you to listen to, and will have more coming out weekly. So be sure to subscribe to my podcast. It is free after all.
Also, head to my website and check out when my next free support group call is happening. The link will be at the top of the page – all you need to do is enter your time zone and then click through to view all of my available group support calls times. Register for one – or three calls there – we are typically an intimate group of people so take advantage of that! Of course, I have my GPS Support Flock available to you, as well. Links for all of these will be in my show notes.
I’m thrilled you joined me for this series, friend. I appreciate you more than words can say, and from my family to yours, I wish you a safe and healthy day, week, month and year ahead.
As always, please remember that YOU ARE AMAZING!