Episode 37: Laughing Through the Empty Nest Transition with Jenn Musselman

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend!
 
My guest, today, Jenn Musselman, is so much fun. She’s a closet coach, a certified professional life coach with a niche in closet coaching (more about that in the episode), and also manages one of my favorite places to hang out – and get my hair done – Reveal Salon, located in Chester Springs, PA. One visit there and you’ll know why I think of it so fondly.
 
Jenn chose to be open and honest with us in sharing some of the thoughts she’s had as her youngest heads off to college. She surprised herself with a couple of them and one she even had herself questioning, “where did this thought come from?” Now, if you have listened to a few of my episodes or more, you know I view observing and questioning your thoughts as healthy.
 
A special thanks to Jenn for joining me and for opening up to us in this way. May you find some comfort in what she shares. Take a moment to follow her on Instagram or Facebook while you are here. Links are below!
 
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What You Will Learn in this Episode 

    • An introduction to Jenn Musselman
    • The freedom in laughing at your thoughts
    • How your thoughts may be a bit more unusual than what you are used to
    • To consider talking about your emotions and thoughts
    • What Jenn offers as a closet coach
    • What Jenn is addicted to
    • And more!

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. What is the wildest thought you have had leading up to or going through the empty nest transition?
  2. Do you think Jenn should do stand-up because I think she’d be great! 

Where to Find Jenn

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Episode 36: Walking Through the Empty Nest Transition with Jo Davies

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend!
 
I am thrilled to bring this episode to you.
 
I enjoy scrolling through Instagram and making new connections on that platform. One account that always makes me smile is Midlife Highway, which is run by the ever so funny, Jo Davies. 
 
Jo has supremely fresh and funny posts and is highly engaged on the platform. She shared a few photos and Insta stories about her walk on the Camino de Santiago this year. The stories piqued my interest, and a few thoughts arrived in my head: I would like to know more about this walk, and I would like to know more about Jo. I bet some of her other followers would like to know more, too. I’m going to invite her to be a guest on my podcast.
 
I did.
 
And she said, “Yes!”
 
Not only that, she took the interview call while she was on holiday/vacation, and stayed up late! She’s got the amazing thing figured out! 
 
This conversation, along with my recent camping trip, simmered together to inspire me to create my GPS Reset Weekend: Unplugged and Charged Up retreats. A shout out to Jo for being a vital part of that recipe!
 
I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I enjoyed speaking with her.
 
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What You Will Learn in this Episode

    • An introduction to Jo Davies
    • What inspired Jo to walk the Camino de Santiago
    • The impact of the walk in her life and why she has made it an annual walk
    • Jo’s advice to future empty nesters
    • And more!

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Have you ever done a long walk such as the ones Jo has completed? 
  2. Would you ever consider doing a walk like this?

Where to Find Jo

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

College Move-In Day: Tips & Helpful Items

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend!
 
Here we go. Move-in day:  it looms ahead in the distance and then suddenly – WHACK – here it is. We are hit with the balance of being excited for our child as they begin their next adventure and the heavy emotions that arise when you realize they won’t be in your home to check up on anymore.
 
With my daughter heading into her junior year of college, bittersweet sums up my feelings this time of year. I’m unbelievably thrilled for where she is in life and feel her independence acutely. This makes me proud, happy, and excited for her. I can’t wait to see what she does. 
 
Will I miss her? Oh my goodness, you betcha! But this journey isn’t mine, it is hers, and it opens up my life to be sure I am on the right path moving forward. Sure, it can feel like part of me is breaking off but this experience allows both her and I to grow in ways that we couldn’t if she were to not be who she is meant to be. 
 
Whew, though, those emotions that come up – when you least expect them, they can be brutal.
 
My recommendation is to observe them and don’t run from them. Ignoring the emotions will create a resistance that has them always wanting to bubble up – but by noticing them, claiming them and processing through them, you become powerful! I know that you are strong enough to get through those emotions– no matter what they are. 
 
Anyway, below, I share with you five things that, being in year three of this journey, I have found helpful, or that I wish we had thought of earlier for move-in.
 
Our situation is that our daughter’s college is five hours from home, and we have a minivan to move things – so things that I find useful, may not apply to you. As always, take what I offer and consider if it will benefit your life. 
 
The following information is about the “stuff.” Life skills are a pretty big deal, and I talk about that in episode 32 of my podcast: What Life Skills Does My Child Need For College? My podcast is all about helping mothers through this transition, so if you are having a difficult time, I invite you to take a listen!
 
As always, Google will provide you with an overabundance  of information on what you should pack for college. I can’t possibly cover all of that, but I’d like to share with you my top five items. Also, two recent posts that I have found helpful are: 
 
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Below are my top five college move-in essential items:
 

IKEA BAGS

These are the fantastic Ikea bags that we’ve had for years (before college). They are excellent to throw things in (bedding/pillows in particular), and they easily store in a dorm room. I had no idea you could get them with zippers, too!

COMMAND HOOKS

Command hooks and poster strips are unbelievably helpful. A place for keys? Got it! Need to put up an important piece of paper you got at move-in that you are afraid you’ll lose? Use a poster strip (there is a variety of sizes, too)!

WAGON

I love, love, love this wagon. This is one of the items that I purchased in year two of my daughter’s college years, and I wish I would have had it earlier. It was life-changing. There were days where I’d make the trip to her school and back in one day. Without the wagon, I was EXHAUSTED. With the wagon, it was a breeze because I didn’t even have to pull the thing – someone else always offered!

SMALL TOOLKIT

A toolkit is one of the things you think you won’t need, but in life’s rogue moments, a screwdriver would be incredibly helpful. It won’t only help your child (if you leave it with them), but if others find out they have a toolkit, there is a natural way to meet new people. We don’t have this specific kit, but it is an example of one.

TIME

No link here. This is a reminder to pad your time on move-in and move-out days to allow yourself and your child the flexibility to stop and chat with others; take advantage of something you may not have foreseen, should the moment arise; or, run to a local store if you see they need something. It gives all of you the freedom to be flexible. Also, other than taking a few photos, this is a lovely opportunity to stay off your phone and be fully present.

What are your top items for move-in? I invite you to share below.

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Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 35: Leveling Up in Life – Donkey Kong your Life

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend!
 
Life can be filled with lousiness sometimes. Right when you begin to feel like you are getting somewhere, suddenly something happens that has you feeling like you are back at square one. This is beautiful: it is real; it is life. Nowhere are we guaranteed smooth sailing or perfection, did you get that guarantee? Because I didn’t. But we get to live it – ALL of it. I encourage you to live through it, not run from it – the good, the bad, and the ugly – all of it because, you are ALIVE. It all comes down to who you want to be in each moment. I know you can be amazing, but you have to choose to live in it fully to level up in your life. In this episode, I share how I feel life is like Donkey Kong.
 
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What You Will Learn in this Episode

    • How life is like Donkey Kong
    • To notice that when you are sent back to the beginning of a level in your life, that how you show up is everything
    • The power in leveling up
    • To remove the drama as you play the game

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Do you feel like you are continually back where you started
  2. Have you noticed (or do you now notice) the leveling up in your life?

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 34: Your Home on College Breaks: Prepping Your Child’s Room

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend!
 
Last week, April Force Pardoe shared tips on how to prepare your home for the empty nest. This week, I thought I would share some thoughts I have about your child’s room: how to adapt it as they head off to and attend college. Enjoy!
 
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What You Will Learn in this Episode

    • What you can do now to prepare your child’s room for college, for the college years and beyond
    • Why you should talk with your child about their room
    • How to assist your child in letting go of and organizing items accumulated over the years
    • The importance of recognizing that boundaries will change when your child returns home

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. If your child is heading off to college, or in college, what is the condition of their space in your home?
  2. Do you have long-term plans for that space that your child may not be aware of?

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 33: How to Prepare Your Home for the Empty Nest with April Force Pardoe

Hello, my Empty Nest Friend!
 

As you sit in the simmer of your life and work on things for the next version of you, one of the areas you may want to begin to consider is how you want your home to look in the empty nest years. You may start dreaming about this early and make changes over time – or all at once if that is how you roll. 

Is your home set up to accommodate those dreams of yours?  If not, why not begin making some changes now?

My guest, today, April Force Pardoe, is your Designer Bestie. April has fantastic suggestions in this episode where she also shares impactful tips and tricks with us. She is a ball of energy, and I can’t wait for you to hear this episode.

Take a listen, or read the transcript, below.

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Think of creating one cozy space … where you can create a space, to sit and relax and maybe be surrounded by a couple of things you love. ~ April Force Pardoe

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What You Will Learn in this Episode

    • To Consider Changes to Your Master Bedroom Space
    • The Importance of Lighting
    • The Importance of One Cozy Space
    • Common Decorating Mistakes
    • Why April is Happy For You
    • To Dream About Your Home
    • If April Likes Waffles or Pancakes

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Is your home your retreat?  
  2. Have you thought about your home in the empty nest (years)? 

Where to find April

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 32: What Life Skills Should My High School Child Be Mastering Now To Be Successful In College?

Hello, my Empty Nest Friend!
 

This episode topic comes from a Green Popsicle Stick (Private) Group Facebook member. Once again, when I sat down to organize and script this out, I had no idea that I had so many thoughts on the subject. Too funny.

Katie asked, “What skills are you glad you taught your daughter before she went off to college? And, is there anything you wished you’d spent more time on with her?”

These are fantastic questions from Katie, whose daughter is already ahead of the game, as you will hear in this episode. 

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What You Will Learn in this Episode 

  • Christine’s thoughts on useful life skills needed for college
    • Laundry: remember the bedding!
    • Consider limited food options and how your child will handle this
    • Cleaning and supplies
    • Money management 
    • Future Document Preparations
      • I-9 Form
      • W-4
      • Memorize Social Security Number
      • Safe Storage of Documents
    • Ditch the “Mom Organization Method”
    • School/life balance
    • Encourage hobbies
    • Tools for emotional health
    • Familiarity with Medical Appointments

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Do you have something to add to my life skills for college list? 
  2. If you attended college, did you feel prepared? 

Episode Resources

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 31: How do I Find Friends in the Empty Nest?

Hello, my Empty Nest Friend!
 

This episode topic is from a fellow listener who asked about finding friends in the later years of life. When I sat down to organize and script this out, I had no idea that I had so many thoughts on the subject. But then, I do have a lot of thoughts on many subjects, don’t I? Ha!

Anyway, remember that some friendships serve seasons of our life, and others are in for the long haul. Either way, if you are looking to add friendships into your life, take a little bit of time to figure out what you are looking for in a friend, and then enjoy looking for those new friendships!

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What You Will Learn in this Episode

  • To understand that some friendships are meant to serve seasons of your life
  • Ways to find new friends in the empty nest
  • To consider your current friendships
  • To figure out what you are looking for in a friend

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. How are you doing with your friendships?
  2. Do you have other suggestions for meeting new friends?

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 30: I am not appreciated!

Cover image for the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast Episode #30, Coach Christine with some coffee.
Hello, my Empty Nest Friend!
 

As a mom, unappreciative humans may surround you at all times. Some days it may feel like it is part of the job description. Is there even the slightest chance that you have created that yourself? Let’s think about that in today’s episode where I give you a little bit of tough love because feeling unappreciated is a lousy place to be.

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What You Will Learn in this Episode 

  • What your thoughts have to do with how appreciated you feel
  • To think about who you want to show up as in the world even when your mind is confident that you are unappreciated
  • Consider using Pinterest for your future-you dreams (listener suggestion)

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Do you currently identify with not feeling appreciated?
  2. When you have the thought that you are unappreciated, how do you feel?

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 29: Christine, What Will I Do With My Time, and What Should I Do Next?

Hello, my Empty Nest Friend!
 

I can’t begin to tell you how much I needed this episode when I wrote it. Throughout our life, we experience change. Sometimes it is expected, sometimes it is not. When we are unable to be patient with ourselves through the transition, things can get a little off course and “boil over.” 

In this episode, I talk about the importance of a simmer in a beef stew and what that has to do with your life. 

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What You Will Learn in this Episode

  • The importance of “sitting in the simmer” in your life
  • Why beef stew is a good analogy for transitions in our life
  • Future you is your navigation system not the predictor of your future

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Have you found future you yet?
  2. What was or is your biggest obstacle in finding future you?

Episode Resources

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!