Tag: jumping over obstacles

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Christine:  You are listening to the Your Empty Nest Coach podcast, with Coach Christine, episode number 35: Leveling Up in Life:  Donkey Kong Your Life.  This podcast is for you, a mother who years ago walked away from a career to raise your child.  Sure, you’ve been busy volunteering, car pools, maybe part-time work and taking care of everyone.  But your main gig, that has been your child. Now, that they are in their later years of high school, the empty nest looms ahead for you and it is freaking you out.  I’ve been there and I get it. Together, we’ll turn our freaking out energy into freaking awesome energy.

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Hello, my future empty nest friend.  This episode is one that I feel combined with my “Sit in the Simmer” episode topic really has hit home with my recent clients, my work colleagues and it has been evident in my life, too.  I’ll tell you personal example at the end of this episode. But first, I have a favor to ask of you. My team and I are planning on taking some time off over the holiday season, and rather than going completely silent for that time, we thought we would share listener favorite episodes or snippets.  That means that we are looking for your submissions for one of two things, something you learned from the podcast that has helped you, or your favorite episode. For both of these, explain what they mean to you and tell us what episode number it is from. You may email your recorded submission with your phone audio recorder, or type it out.  Send your submissions to podcast@youremtpynestcoach.com.  We look forward to hearing from you, and thanks for your assistance.

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A quick reminder that all of my episodes are brought to you by my free seven-day program, “The Empty Nest:  A Guide to Uncovering My Future.”  To be clear, we are talking about your future, not mine.  Hop on over to my website, youremtpynestcoach.com and sign up today.  Look for the link that says “Uncover Your Future.”

00:02:06
Donkey Kong.  One of my favorite games as a child was the original Donkey Kong.  I know I am showing my age, and my geekiness, here, but my love for it was real.  If you never played Donkey Kong, I’ll have a link to a video of it in my show notes.  Indulge me for a minute. Donkey Kong is a classic arcade game in which you as Mario, climb platforms using ladders to reach your princess at the top.

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If you look at the 1980-something version, it is pretty basic, but I can’t tell you how excited I was to play this game.  The barrels roll toward you, maybe you’re able to jump over a barrel, or two, successfully, and then, you make it up a ladder, and then, you  might be able to grab a hammer, and destroy some barrels. Maybe you make it to the third platform, when a barrel hits you. Whaa whaa. No, that was not the sound you hear.  You are sent back to the start of that level. At this moment, there are two types of gamers, there are the gamers who freak out throw the controller and need to shout, get anxious or put on a show of frustration.  Then, there are the gamers that realize that the last time in the level, they noticed something new. Something that might help this next time. Which gamer is more fun to be around?  That second gamer goes back in knowing they might make it to the top this time, or maybe they’ll learn something new again. Or, maybe they’ll find that their brilliant idea from last time didn’t work.  That’s okay. They won’t do that again.  They work through the level again, and again, and again, until they make it to the top, or decide they got all they want out of the game.  

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Each time they start over, a little bit more of that level moves faster for them, because they get it.  They understand more, and they’ve learned more. Let’s say the gamer is you, and this time you figured out the first three jumps needed, and you now have that timed perfectly.  Maybe the next run, you figure out that it makes sense to pause a bit behind a ladder and wait out a particular barrel. Or, maybe you realize you can actually go down the ladder and it might make the best option for that moment.  What happens when you finally reach the princess? You know it. You get another level. Do you know me well enough yet, to know where I’m going with this? Yes. Life is all about leveling up.  Sure, we have our amazing moments where we reach the top, and those moments are worth celebrating for sure.  Even more important, is all that leveling up you are doing to get to the end game. That is where you learn about life, and more importantly, where you have the opportunity to learn about you. 

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Each time you maneuver a little bit better.  You become more confident, more sure of your path, and the most important part, is that you keep going.  Next time, you are working on sitting in the simmer of your life, I challenge you to see where you have leveled up recently.  Maybe you figured out how to jump over one barrel. That is one barrel you didn’t know how to jump over last month. If you can’t find anything, maybe it’s time for you to push the start button and give something a try.  You can always change the game you’re playing. Life is so much more fun, when you are in the game. Remember that being sent back to the beginning, is to be expected.  Check your thoughts when this happens, and make sure you choose thoughts that make you feel amazing, because you are worth it 100 percent.  You may not reach your goal tomorrow, but you will learn a heck of a lot about yourself along the way. You may apply this to anything, weight loss, your life in general, to going through my program, or anyone’s class or program, to your thoughts, to you learning something new.  It is endless.

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Next time you feel that the progress you are making in something appears to come to a halt, I want you to challenge your thoughts at that moment, because you are wherever you are.  You will level up faster next time around. The re-entry and the leveling up will go smoother with kind thoughts to yourself. Take the drama away as you play the game. It makes all things run much easier and I’ve got to say, life is a lot more fun, because now you know when that next barrel is heading your way.  This time you are prepared for it and ready for it. You may even make the leap with a smile or jazz hands. Why not?


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Yes, there are times when it might feel like you take two steps forward, and three back.  Just remember that the two steps forward, already have some footprints to follow. Let your body reset for the next level again, and jump right back in.  I did promise you that I would tell you how I’ve noticed this in my life recently.  Here’s one example, it has to do with getting this weekly podcast out to you. I am unbelievably thankful for my tremendous team member who does my editing, transcription, and a few other things.  I have a checklist that I put a lot of time into creating. I mean a lot. This checklist is huge. It used to overwhelm me. I still look at it as I begin to assemble an episode, and have a momentary thought that is something like, “Oh, there’s now way this is going to get out.”  But that is a thought I changed to something more along the lines of, okay, I’ve now 30 or so episodes, this episode will get out just like the others, and it will be great. Such a great thought. Everytime I wrap up another episode, everything runs faster. So much so, that I now feel like I’m missing things.  I’m not, and I know this because of my crazy detailed checklist, but I’m leveling up so fast, it feels like I’m cheating. Do you get this? Then, that is where Imposter Syndrome kicks in, and I’ve got more thoughts to deal with. We are never done with this thought work. But I have to say, each time it gets easier, and I level up faster.  Isn’t it great that that happens? Until we reach a new level. That’s what I have for you today, my empty nest friend.  

00:08:38
Please don’t hesitate to fly on over to our Facebook group.  Our name is Green Popsicle Sticks.  Want to know why?  Listen to episode number 17, or head to my website, youremptynestcoach.com/community for links to join our flock.  Why should you join our group? The adjustment to not having your kiddos at home full-time isn’t always easy, but it sure can be a ton more fun with a flock of friends.  We look forward to seeing you there.

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If you are ready to begin the journey to find future you, and use her as your GPS, definitely sign up for my free program, “The Empty Nest:  A Guide to Uncovering My Future.”  Episode number 13 covers the high-level concepts of that program, if you would like to check it out.  To dive deep into the concepts, definitely take my free program, as I provide videos and worksheets to assist you on your journey.

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The questions I have for you in this episode are:  Do you feel like you are continually back where you started?  And, have you noticed, or do you now notice the leveling up in your life?  As always, I provide content to make you think, my empty nest friend.  My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life.  You’ll find the show notes for this and every episode on my website. My next three episodes are going to be a little different.  I have three women that I find interesting, and inspiring, that I’ll be interviewing for you. 

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