30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Protector – Who’s the boss? 💚 (13/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Protector - Who's the boss? 💚 (13/30)

In this podcast episode, we add on the idea of the part of you that acts as your Protector.

"But, what if..  you become the boss of your own life - the Conscious Effective Olympian - by taking the time to get to know and train your Protector?"

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 181

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Protector - Who's the boss?

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[level-up music]

Your Protector: Who’s the boss the boss, anyway? is our topic for today (Day 13) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we are continuing to build our analogy with those building block concepts. What if the part of you that some call ego, you begin to think of as your protector? 

Let me first share where this analogy came from …. I was working through reading “The Power of Now.” I talk about that in our episode about presence, and in that book Eckhart Tolle mentions the ego quite a bit. No matter how many times I read it, the word wasn’t resonating with me, personally, as positively as I believe he was intending it. I always associated the word “ego” with negativity, even though I know in different contexts it has different meanings. Being a person focused on finding ways to love all the parts of myself, this wasn’t going to work for me. This put me on a journey to discover a way to think of the ego so that I loved it and cared for it as it is part of me. 

I tried different concepts and, finally, one resonated with me: the idea that this ego part of me was, actually, trying to do their best: it was overwhelmed, it’s untrained, and it’s working incredibly hard with barely any resources. I don’t know about you but I’ve been in job roles where I’ve felt that way and the way I show up is entirely different from the times when I feel confident in my role; I feel well trained;  I feel my boss has my back; and if I have a question, it’s okay because then, we can work it out together. 

I began to play with this concept, adjust it and eventually landed on the name of a Protector - a security guard of sorts but one that I simply need to train. I’ve been told by some clients and podcast listeners that the analogy works well for them too! So, here we are, years later and it still fits.

Now back to the analogy we’re building: although your Protector will be different from mine - let’s add yours to your mind’s house, yard and fence.  Imagine adding on a security space just outside of your fence. This may be as intimate or as large as you like - be it a person standing there with locks on the gate and you need their intervention or a full blown security building with tv monitors, and a really nice chair for your Protector. 

I’ll share a little bit about mine: I imagine mine in a hut just to the side of the fence. Now, they are trained enough that most of the time, they get to chill out. They’ve earned this chill out session: they get to drink  their coffee and watch all the monitors where they easily know which thing can pass on by my fence without me giving it a second thought. 

We’ve gone through some significant training to get to this point, too. 

If you’re starting to question where we are, pop back an episode or two and re-listen to the building of this analogy, or check the extra resources I have in the show notes!

If do you find this Protector concept resonates with you, spend some time getting to know your Protector, begin to consider what your incredible part of you would look like. 

Remember the idea here is that they take their job of protecting you super seriously. And absolutely everything that comes near the fence, currently, puts them on high alert. EVERYTHING. It's not their fault. They haven't been trained  - ever. They have been doing this job for decades and you haven’t paid any attention to them. They are under the false assumption, also, that they are the boss. 

They have no reason to think otherwise. All they know is if they don’t do their job well, bad things happen to you, and their job is to protect you. 

But, what if.. (you know how I like that) what if you become the boss of your own life - the Conscious Effective Olympian) by taking the time to get to know and train your Protector to handle thought deliveries to your specifications. Specifications, that honestly, you don’t know yet because you still need to declutter your house - that’s all good!

Your job right now is to appreciate and love your Protector part of you for doing the best they could, up until now. 

This challenge is a perfect example of a training resource that you can use to train your protector.  And this challenge is one huge introductory training program.

05:26

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. How do you imagine your Protector and where they reside as they do their job?

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! For the opportunity to get to know you might have a Protector and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]


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89: The CEO Toolbox Part 2: Taking Inventory

89: The CEO Toolbox Part 2: Taking Inventory

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend,

In my last episode, I introduced the idea of a toolbox for your life. Guess what? Yes, we are starting another series of episodes to assist you in leveling-up your life. I have an activity for you today, where I invite you deliberately and lovingly begin to take inventory of your life’s toolbox.

In our life’s toolbox, we want to keep only the tools that serve us well; that make us feel happy and that lovingly create progress forward in our life.

Take a listen or read the full transcript below.   ⇓⇓⇓ More goodies below, too! Scroll down ⇓, so you don’t miss anything! ⇓⇓⇓

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What You Will Learn in this Episode 

  • To Consider the Contents of Your Life’s Toolbox
  • Self-Help Sally’s Toolbox Contents
  • Band-aids vs. Cures Stocked in Your Life’s Toolbox
  • The Importance of Taking Inventory of Your Life’s Toolbox
  • An Activity to Assist with Taking Inventory

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Have you inventoried your top-tray toolbox items?
  2. Are your top-tray toolbox items stocked with love or shoved into the toolbox with no thought whatsoever? 

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You are preparing for the empty nest ahead as your child(ren) prepares, heads off to, and experiences college.

88: The Conscious Effective Olympian Toolbox

88: The Conscious Effective Olympian Toolbox

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend,

Imagine that you ask someone to work on a broken item in your home. They walk up to your home – no vehicle of any sort – and have only the clothes on their body with them. You assume that they’ll come back later with resources to help them finish the job, but upon completing your explanation, they say, “Great! It will cost this much, and I can start now.”

You are a bit curious about how this will play out, so you hire them.

They interrupt you constantly, although quite politely, “By any chance do you have a phillips head screwdriver?” and such. Some items you have, and some you don’t. The “expert” hunts through your drawers (no, they didn’t ask) to find a dull kitchen knife to use.

You don’t allow this to last long. You can only take 30-minutes of it. Although, it felt like three hours 😣 – before you send them on their way.

Who wouldn’t bring the tools they need?

My friend, so many of us do this every single day in our lives. I introduce you to the idea of your life’s toolbox in this episode.

These tools that Self-help Sally uses are more like band-aids for her than cures. So, that toolbox that I want you to consider is in your life, that I’m asking you to picture this week as you go forward, I want you to ask yourself if you have one at all? 
If you do, what are your go-to coping mechanisms when life gets tough?
In what ways are you like Self-help Sally?

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What You Will Learn in this Episode 

  • To Consider a Toolbox for Your Life
  • The Value in Stocking Your Toolbox Well
  • Meet Self-Help Sally
  • To Consider in What Ways You are Like Self-Help Sally

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Can you picture your toolbox?
  2. What are your go-to life coping tools that you currently use?

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You are preparing for the empty nest ahead as your child(ren) prepares, heads off to, and experiences college.

87: Empty Nest Success Happens When You are the CEO of Your Life

87: Empty Nest Success Happens When You are the CEO of Your Life

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend,
 
I have an activity for you in today’s episode! 
 
Grab a piece of paper (you’ll need both sides) and a writing utensil, then press play. 💚
 

After all, empty nest success happens as you journey toward becoming the CEO of Your Life.  Future you is already there. She’s waiting for you and cheering you on!

Take a listen or read the full transcript below.
 
⇓⇓⇓ More goodies below, too! Scroll down ⇓, so you don’t miss anything! ⇓⇓⇓
 
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What You Will Learn in this Episode 

  • To Think Bigger About Your Journey
  • To Consider the Words You Use for the Empty Nest
  • A Sentence For Empty Nest Success
  • An Activity that You May Add to Your GPS Toolbox
  • And More!

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Is your empty nest success side of the paper anything like your empty nest side of the paper?
  2. Which side of the paper would you prefer to live in moving forward?

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You are preparing for the empty nest ahead as your child(ren) prepares, heads off to, and experiences college.

86: The CEO of Your Life When Others Toss Things Over Your Fence

86: The CEO of Your Life When Others Toss Things Over Your Fence

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend!
 
I’m so curious what you think of this episode – do you notice anything different? 😀 
 

Where you have the chance to level up is by making your protector aware of the herd of humans that darken your property.

Take a listen or read the full transcript below.
 
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Want to subscribe to this podcast? Great news – it is free!
> Click here, and then choose your favorite podcast app – be sure to hit subscribe or follow, once you choose your favorite!
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What You Will Learn in this Episode: 

  • What a “Herd” Can Do To Your Protector And What It Represents
  • The Importance of Noticing The “Herds” Outside of Your Fence
  • To Train Your Protector To See Your Herds

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Can you identify the thought-delivery throwing herds in your own life?
  2. How is your protector doing with the training? 

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Full Transcript

You are preparing for the empty nest ahead as your child(ren) prepares, heads off to, and experiences college.