You are a mother of a high school student, and you are freaking out about the empty nest ahead? Together we will channel your freaking out energy into freaking awesome energy! You will THRIVE as your child(ren) prepares, heads off to, and experiences college. ~ Christine, Your Empty Nest Coach
What day of the week would you like this podcast to be released?
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Christine: You are listening to Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast with Coach Christine, episode number 1. You are a mother who years ago walked away from a career to raise your child.
Christine: You are listening to Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast with Coach Christine, episode number 1. You are a mother who years ago walked away from a career to raise your child. Sure, you’ve been busy with volunteering, car pools, maybe even part-time work and, of course, taking care of everyone. But your main gig, that has been your child. Now, that they are in their later years of high school, the empty nest looms ahead for you and whoa, it is freaking you out. I’ve been there, and I get it. I created this podcast just for you. Together, we’ll turn our freaking out energy into freaking awesome energy.
Hello, my empty nest friend. I am super excited to be recording my very first podcast episode. Thank you for taking time in your crazy busy day to listen to me. You are the absolute best. My podcast is designed to give you a chance to get to know me before you sign up for any of my programs or coaching. I bet you’re wondering why I decided to help mothers afraid of the empty nest ahead. Right? I would be, if I were you. I walked away from a tech career when my daughter was born. It wasn’t the plan. Life happens, and my husband and I were lucky enough to be able to make it work on one income, with some adjustments to our lifestyle. I do know that not everyone has that option and I appreciate it more than words can say, that we did have that option.
Anyway, I had some part-time gigs here and there throughout our daughter’s formative years, but for the most part, my primary job was to take care of her and all that that meant as we navigate through parenthood. We did have an unusual path in that our daughter went off to college four years early, out-of-state, too. When some kind souls mentioned how lucky I was to be nearing the empty nest early, I had a bit of a meltdown inside. You wouldn’t have known it to look at me, but my thoughts were beating me up inside and with having to deal with it four years early, there were some anxiety laden fears there. I knew my daughter heading to this specific college at this specific time was the right thing for her, I had no doubts about that. I needed it to be right for me, too. I didn’t want her heading off to college being worried about mom. Something to note, the year before she left for college, we were together a ton. She was homeschooled and attended a local community college. I went from having her around all the time, having great conversations in the car almost daily, to having her four states away. I decided to buckle down and work on my own thoughts through the upcoming change.
I had been listening to Brooke Castillo’s podcast, the Life Coach School, for years, but I honestly had just listened and had never applied it. It was time for me then, to start doing the actual work, so I did. I used her self-coaching model to guide me through the transition. As you listen to my podcast, and if I am lucky enough to work with you, as your coach, you will find that the self-coaching model that Brooke assembled is used throughout my coaching. Thank you, Brooke! I love to call her Brooke. Like she knows me personally, you know?
It all took work. It took a lot of hard work, but it was so worth it. I’ve been able to use the self-coaching model and some of my own takes on it to thrive while my daughter is off at school, start this business, lose forty plus pounds (I’m still going on that one), enjoy my day job, step out of my comfort zone, record this first podcast, reconnect with my partner and more.
I share all of that with you in hopes that it inspires you. Trust me, if I can do it, anyone can. I will never tell you it’s easy. It is simple, but it is not easy. I have no doubt, though, that you can do it. It’s totally worth doing this work for you. I’ve been lucky enough to share what I’ve learned with friends and clients. The changes in their lives have been inspiring to me. I love coaching these fantastic women in learning how to be kind to themselves and gaining clarity about their future, even if that changes, and ready to do the work that they know they can do. The best part is that as you work on yourself, you’ll see improvements with all of your relationships, your children, your partner, coworkers, your friends. It’s so much fun.
Once it all clicked for me, it was almost as if I had unlocked my super power. That’s why my logo is the way it is. I can’t wait to help you find the super power, too. My second episode will be uploaded in January of 2019 and we’ll dive right into observing your thoughts. I’m uploading this podcast a bit early so that I may figure out the processes and all the tech details that I need in place to bring you my weekly podcast. Be sure to subscribe to my podcast. I do have a question for you. I’m wondering what the best day of the week to upload my podcast would be. Do you have an opinion on that? Also, do you have any questions that you would like me to cover in an upcoming podcast? Please let me know on the comments on my website. I don’t want to forget to tell you that this podcast is sponsored by my free seven-day class, The Empty Nest, a Guide to Uncovering My Future. This seven-day, or more, depending on how fast you go through it, will help you discover future you. She’s absolutely there, you just need to find her. I guess that’s it for now. I’m crazy excited to get this going. Have a tremendous Holiday Season in 2018, be kind to yourself, amazing lady. You are so worth it. See you next time, where we talk about thoughts.
This was originally posted on an old blog of mine in June of 2017.
I went on a walk/kind-of-a-jog, this morning, and kept seeing thistle plants.
I got all metaphorical looking at them. I mean, here is a tough plant. Considered a weed around here, it has solid stalks that hold the flowers in place as they sit in a variety of stages of life. A few ends are not even open yet, some are in full blossom, and others have turned brown and have served their purpose. A lone bee sits on one end gathering pollen, and I can’t help but see my life in this plant.
The stages of life that are ending; careers and jobs that have served me well; friendships that may have had their season; the journeys that are about to begin; and the life experiences that keep me grounded through the happy and the suck moments in life.
It is easy to get caught up in the moments at the end of the flower but remembering the big picture and that it all fits together (even though I may not see it now), can keep me grounded and make the next season even better.
Hmmm, this is apparently where my mind goes when I don’t listen to podcasts.
I originally posted this on a blog I had started a few years ago. I thought I would share a few posts from there, to get things going on this site.
Thoughts running around my head after a couple of days in my daughter’s soon-to-be college home.
Moments to Treasure
Independence in Your Teenager. As frustrating as it can be when you are within the same walls, it is this same independence that will provide you comfort that they will be able to handle themselves when you are not around.
Future Activities. You discover an Escape Room. Your teen immediately begins to formulate a trip there with her future dorm friends. By the time you leave town, three new friends have said, “I’m in.”
When your child says, “Yay, a fair trade shop.“
Enjoying the trip home with your teenager who will be staying behind next time you make this trip.
The Time between now and move-in day: a turtle’s pace for your teenager and at the speed of light for you.