30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Future Self Has Your Back 💚 (22/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Future Self Has Your Back 💚 (22/30)

In this podcast episode, I share a powerful activity.

"Things I choose to believe is that your future self is really proud of you - of all that you are doing; and they’re excited for all the things that you're going to do to get them to where they are in the future."

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"Things I choose to believe is that your future self is really proud of you - of all that you are doing; and they’re excited for all the things that you're going to do to get them to where they are in the future. "

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 190

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Know Your Badass Self Has Got This  (22/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Your Future Self Has Your Back is our topic for today (Day 22) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:43

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we are piggybacking off our last episode. We've covered a lot of topics already in this challenge, and sometimes we just need to be reminded that we’ve done well. 

When you look back in your life, and consider the moments when your child was super young and you had a decision to make that in the moment felt as if nothing else mattered, and now with decade or so  of experience you know it may not have been quite the big deal you were making it out to be back then.  

Some examples might be for you … 

What preschool you send them too - or IF they attended preschool at all; breastfeeding or not breastfeeding; how about diaper brand you chose to use? And, as they got older it may have transitioned into what activities you encouraged, what opportunities they had, and so on. 

Our younger selves really managed to navigate it all. And while looking back, you might do things differently, today, past you did great with the knowledge, resources, finances and opportunities that they had then. 

But, consider if you could go back in time and lovingly tell yourself a few things, what would those things be? 

 Would it be…. 

Chill out more. Look for more fun and lean into the moments where your child is asking for your attention? 

Would it be…

Life is short, you are here and you got me where I am today. I’m so thankful for your dedication and I’m cheering you on. 

Would it be… 

Yeah, that thing sucked but those people weren’t your people anyway.

Would it be…

Wow, you were handed a ton of chaos, and yeah, you still have it now. I see you, you’ve learned a lot already and we’ll continue to learn more as we go. 

Would it be… 

Trust your gut more. You were right about more than a few things. 

Whatever you would say to your past self… make sure it is kind, loving, uplifting and encouraging. A fun thing to do is write down the things you think of. And here’s why… because here we are today, in this moment with new stressors of sorts, things that we feel are super important, that have our thoughts hostage, while there will one day be a version of us that is 10, 20, 30, 40 plus years in the future that will look back today - at us lovingly - and would want to tell us something. There’s a good chance that the primary message wouldn’t be too different from what you’d want to say to your past self. 

Things I choose to believe is that your future self is really proud of you - of all that you are doing; and they’re excited for all the things that you're going to do to get them to where they are in the future. Think about it, they wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t for you making the choices you make. Whew - it’s a bit of a mind-blowing when you think about it, isn’t it? That thought might come natural for you, or it might be a bit mind-blowing.

I love knowing that there is a future version of me cheering me on. She knows everything I’m experiencing in her soul, as she’s been me,  and knows all the energy it has taken me to do all the things. Thinking about your future self can be a fun thing to add to your life.

You don’t need to tell anyone, either. This can be your secret cheering section in your life. Enjoy this one!

04:23

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …What advice would you give to your younger self? Write it down and how does it feel to say to yourself  now?

 04:36

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, your future self is cheering you on and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Know Your Badass Self Has Got This 💚 (21/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Know Your Badass Self Has Got This 💚 (21/30)

In this podcast episode, a reminder of how incredible you are.

"You are freaking amazing and please embrace who you are fully as you take on the rest of your life. The world needs you to be you; no one else can do it better."

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  • 03:36 Journal Prompt 

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"You are freaking amazing and please embrace who you are fully as you take on the rest of your life. The world needs you to be you; no one else can do it better."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 189

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Know Your Badass Self Has Got This  (21/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Know your badass self has got this is our topic for today (Day 21) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

0:44

Amazing human and beautiful soul…. I know that while these episodes have been short, they have had a lot of heavy content within them. Content that if you're already consciously living your life, you're probably thinking something along the lines of “Yes, I get it. Thanks for the reminder, Christine!” However, if this is something, or some of these things are things you've never considered before it may take some time to let them sink in and for you to feel comfortable considering them and to understand what you, yourself want to do with them, if anything. 

You are worthy. You are amazing. 

You, amazing human, have navigated life on the spinning rock for decades. You have raised a child - or children. Your child or children may have left, be considering leaving the nest, or may be heading back to the nest.

The one thing, looking back over your life, that you'll probably be able to say is: a lot of things have happened that you never would have expected, that you couldn't have possibly planned for either.

This being said, you have made it here, today - to this moment! You have learned lessons, gained things, lost things, you have lived incredible moments in your life, that have helped to create you who you are right here in this moment.

The reason why I know that your badass self can handle what's in your future (or your now) is because look how much you’ve done to get to where you are today. And, let’s be honest, most of the time, we are making this up as we go, aren't we? 

You are freaking amazing and please embrace who you are fully as you take on the rest of your life. The world needs you to be you; no one else can do it better. 

As always, I’m cheering you on, and so is your future self. More on that, though, in our next episode. 

02:57

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … Make a list of challenges you have faced over time and that you have overcome. Reflect on how they made you stronger and more resilient.

And an extra activity: Look in the mirror and say, "I am a badass!"

[exit music - upbeat]

Hey, badass, thanks for listening today, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing!  

Chat next time!

[end]

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Questions to Ask Around Emotions 💚 (20/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Questions to Ask Around Emotions 💚 (20/30)

In this podcast episode, I share another exercise you can use on your way to becoming the Conscious Effective Olympian of your life.

"Trust that over time, the more that you do this, the easier it will become, the more fun it will become, the sillier life becomes, and we’re not looking for perfection."

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  • 08:01 Journal Prompt

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 188

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Questions to Ask Around Emotions  (20/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Questions to ask when your emotions sound an alert  is our topic for today (Day 20) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we have another top of the toolbox item today:  are you ready to unlock your inner Sherlock Holmes to inspect some of those thought-box-deliveries? 

If you began with [the] getting started episode and have worked your way through, by now, you know the analogy - your mind being like a house, there’s a fence, a protector who you are beginning to train and you have thought-box-deliveries being sent inside your home all the time.

Imagine now that you’ve done the process mentioned in our last episode - you are feeling a bit better from some tough emotions and are ready to take a look at a couple of the  thought-box-deliveries that hit you earlier. 

Let’s work through a hypothetical example: maybe, your child is in college and they declare (one day) that they want to leave.You may initially jump right into reaction mode - your Protector puts you on high alert and you begin to react. Then, you consciously notice what’s going on inside your mind and that you haven’t really considered that this may not be the best time to react suddenly and make ultimatums. Ultimately, maybe you land where your reaction mode takes you, but, trust me, you’ll feel better if you consciously make that decision from a loving space rather than a defensive reactive space.  

When you are in a space where you are ready to consider what this really means, and how to proceed, you’ll discover that outside of your fence is your child’s consideration of leaving college. Yes, it’s outside of your fence. 

The action of them telling you this news, creates alerts from your Protector and many thoughts come barreling in. Usually, it’s something like, “You have to graduate from college;” “But this wasn’t the plan;”  And we may not admit it but one of the internal thoughts is “How is this going to look to everybody?” And that’s outside of our fence, too. 

02:43

So, now for the activity. 

Begin to ask the 5 W questions that we learned in (was it) middle school? Elementary school?: Who, What, Where, When & Why.

Let’s inspect our example with some possibilities on how this would play out. 

First, we’ll start with what: What is the thought you are having? While you may have multiple thoughts that are going on about this happening, note which thought keeps rising to the top in your mind. 

Great! You have a thought!  

Next, ask yourself who sent me this thought box delivery? Sounds easy right but it might be surprising. You may discover that this thought really wouldn’t have come from you, as you’ve been struggling over the finances of their college education and wondering if it’s the best fit for them anyway BUT you remember that you thought about leaving college and when you told your parents, guess what they said. Yeah, what you just said.

Again, no judgment. We are just playing detective here.

Next, we ask…”Where am I when I have this thought?”

And this can go two ways. The thought - it could take you to right when you were in college, or you may be playing out a future that hasn’t happened yet.

In this example, we are brought back to our own college days. And that’s not today. In other examples, you may find yourself thinking about a future that may never happen.

And that led right into the When, as well. 

Where, and When sometimes when you look through these thoughts, may be combined. You may have a clear When, you may not have a Where - our mind’s like to jumble things. This is not an exercise where you need to hit all of them, but choose one or two that work really well and that give you enough information for you to become present and think about the thought that you have. 

And finally, Why. This one can be fun. Go wherever you feel led, as the why can go a million different ways. For example  why did I get this thought-box-delivery? Why am I feeling a certain emotion when it comes in? Why is this the first thought I am having? Why am I not considering the positives of this? 

These questions and how you choose to show up as the detective or inspector of your thought-box-deliveries is for you to decide. Have fun with it - even when it is around a thought that might not be easy. 

The whole point of asking these questions is to give you an opportunity to consider if you want to keep the thought or not. Wouldn’t it be fun to be so clear on what is outside of your fence that when your child drops something on you like, “Mom, I think I'm gonna leave college.” 

That you were to feel the emotions. Maybe start to react but notice them and then quickly identify that most of this is outside of your fence which allows you to show up way more loving than you could have if you were navigating through those tough thought-box-deliveries.

Maybe you even come up and say somethin like: “Wow, that's a huge decision. What is telling you that this may be the right decision for you?” 

And then with those thought-box-deliveries on pause, you have the space to listen. 

If you don’t usually respond that way, you may shock your child, but if you begin to show up more often like this by keeping  the things outside of your fence, outside of your fence and then inspecting the deliveries that are sent inside, your inner Sherlock Holmes will serve you well. 

And this isn’t a once and done thing. I’m human. I have moments where all of the thought-box-deliveries come in and I react, and that’s okay. We are humans. It happens. The beautiful thing is you can begin to tune into the fact that you’re not feeling so good and then start to do some of the exercises - we aren’t looking for perfection. We’re looking at feeling a little bit better.

What is happening is you are creating a safe space within your own mind, and that allows you to have the time to process the thoughts that are coming in without going automatically into reaction mode. All of this allows you to show up better not only for yourself but for every single person that you meet - including those closest to you. How cool is that? 

07:23

[level-up music]

Please remember that this isn’t something that we turn a switch on and we suddenly we’ll never go into reaction mode. Sometimes we need the reaction mode, especially in emergencies.

Some days, our Protector is on high-alert and we just have to go, “Okay, that’s where I am right now.”

Trust that over time, the more that you do this, the easier it will become, the more fun it will become, the sillier life becomes, and we’re not looking for perfection. We’re looking for a little more space, and a little more space, and a little more space.  

08:01

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … Do you have an emotion that you typically try to avoid feeling? How can you use questions to better understand it?

08:14

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, see if you can ask yourself a few of those questions and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Things That Bring You Complete Joy Exercise 💚 (19/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Things That Bring You Complete Joy Exercise 💚 (19/30)

In this podcast episode, I share a fun exercise that has been one of my favorites over the last year - I use it almost daily!

"Amazing human and beautiful soul, this one can be super fun and is perfect as one of your top of the toolbox resource items, once you choose your four things that bring you joy."

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  • 00:41 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic
  • 05:52 Journal Prompt

Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

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"Amazing human and beautiful soul, this one can be super fun and is perfect as one of your top of the toolbox resource items, once you choose your four things that bring you joy."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 187

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Complete Joy Exercise  (19/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Things that bring you complete joy is our topic for today (Day 19) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:41

Amazing human and beautiful soul, this one can be super fun and is perfect as one of your top of the toolbox resource items, once you choose your four things that bring you joy. This activity is also a great one to use in conjunction with our last episode’s topic.  

As a reminder, that was about being honest about your emotions with your child. If you find yourself having a strong feeling, yet need to distract yourself a bit to hold space until you can fully process something, this will give you the space to think about happier things.  

For this tool, I went with the number four (4) and that’s because you can make this activity tactile as well. For that part, whichever hand you want, tap your index finger and then each other finger to your thumb and go around in circles, tapping each finger: one, two, three, four.

You could even mix it up and go backwards. That is part one (the tactile portion) of this activity. 

Now for the thought part: I invite you to find four things: you’ll be creating a mental list of them. They could be specific moments in time from your past; imagine an item in your house that when you look at it every time just oh, makes you feel so good; or it could be an animal, a vacation moment, or maybe your kids. 

I want to provide a warning with that last one, though. Typically, choosing to make one of your children the joy point isn’t always the best idea with parenting, and let me explain: there are days when thinking of them doesn’t bring us complete joy - it may bring you worries, or concern. 

Rather than choosing to put your child, JimBob, on your list, I encourage you to find a specific moment that you have had with JimBob that every time you think about it, it makes your heart sing, laugh, or smile. And that moment, whether they were 19 months old, or 19 years old, choose it, find that specific moment. 

Here’s a personal example: one of mine is my daughter playing at the zoo with otters and a stuffed animal. She was running back and forth and the otters kept following her - the giggles that she had in that moment - (luckily we have it on video) so much fun! Thinking of that moment makes my heart sing. 

Another one of mine was being on the beach with my feet in the sand and a margarita by my side - it felt so amazing in that moment.

Those types of moments or thoughts, that’s what you’re looking for. They’re going to be uniquely yours - find four of them.

03:36

With your list of four, combine them with the tactile part of this activity, mentally working through your list as you tap a new finger to your thumb moving on to the next one and noting that there is no need to rush. 

As mentioned earlier, this is perfect when you find yourself with a strong emotion, but don’t have the time to process it out. Running through your joyous list will help you to feel a little bit  - or maybe a lot better.  

This could become your goto tool for the next month, or maybe forever. You can head to it when, in our analogy, you realize everything's on high alert, your Protector is sending things in deliveries with alarms going off and you can't get to a point to evaluate anything to see if the thought is even worth keeping. 

In those moments, if you can think of this tool (or maybe another one that works for you) in your life's top-of-your-toolbox that you can go to, allowing yourself to reset, providing you with the space to then process, over time you will have more moments where you begin to feel better! 

And then when you have more space in your life, if you find that you have thought-box-deliveries that keep coming in and making you go to that tool, with that new space… THEN, take a look at that thought-box-delivery with some fresh eyes. Are you seeing it differently?

I absolutely love this activity. It’s super easy. It got me through a time when past me would have been wondering. “Why the heck are you reacting so calmly right now?” 

There’s so much power in this one when you figure out how to fit it into your life. It’s unbelievably fun; people may be wondering why you’re smiling; and one of my four things being my feet in the sand, that was about two hours of time in my life when that happened, but I loved it so much!

And it dawned on me that I just returned from a trip where I was able to put my feet in the sand for FIVE DAYS - a lot longer than two hours! I don’t know, maybe there’s some secret power in this…have fun, either way!

05:52

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … What four items that bring you complete joy - complete joy, can I say it one more time? Complete joy -  would you add to your mental list?

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, have fun finding those four things, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Be Honest With Your Child(ren) 💚 (18/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Be Honest With Your Children💚 (18/30)

In this podcast episode, I encourage you to be an example for your child(ren) in sharing emotions you are experiencing with them.

"Let’s walk through an example. What if your emerging adult is about to head off on a solo trip across the country to meet friends and have a great time - but you catch yourself in a twinge  - to say the least - about all the things that could go wrong."

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Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"Let’s walk through an example. What if your emerging adult is about to head off on a solo trip across the country to meet friends and have a great time - but you catch yourself in a twinge  - to say the least - about all the things that could go wrong."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 186

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Be Honest With Your Children (18/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Be honest with your child(ren) is our topic for today (Day 18) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.   

[upbeat music under intro]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:43

Amazing human and beautiful soul, be honest with your children. Oh my gosh, I don't mean pull up all of your deep dark secrets from your childhood and share them with your kids. Although, if you want to go there, you might get some laughs and some memories. 

[birds chirp] Apparently we have a guest today [chirps], Yes, the birds have stopped by and they’re just going to be part of the recording today.

Back to your deep dark secrets, that was not where I was headed with this. Where I am focused is on the societal pressure to - for lack of better wording- hold all of our shit together emotionally - so that everyone around you feels as comfortable as possible.

When your children are going through a rough time and need a safe space, this isn’t the timing I suggest diving into this one, for sure.

But if they have never seen you emote in any way, if they have never seen you process through emotions, label your emotions - maybe you’ve never given yourself permission to do so - for those little heavier emotions in particular such as anger and sadness and other ones and to get to the other side of them. 

What if the next time that you begin to feel strong-er emotions (and they’re not struggling), what if you consider being honest with them on what you are experiencing? 

02:05

If we’ve been strong and successful at hiding and not processing through  our emotions, it is likely that our children may not be comfortable expressing their own either, or when they do, it may come out super strong because they’ve been bottling them up. 

If this is a new-er consideration for you, I invite you to the next time that you have a strong emotion and you catch yourself thinking,” Ooo,  I need to hold this back,” consider in that moment bringing it into the physical space through your words. Label it. Be curious about the emotions and share it verbally - what you are experiencing. 

Sometimes simply labeling that emotion releases some of its hold on you.  And, try to expand your emotional vocabulary - everything doesn’t have to be the top three: happy, sad and angry. 

02:59

Let’s walk through an example. What if your emerging adult is about to head off on a solo trip across the country to meet friends and have a great time - but you catch yourself in a twinge  - to say the least - about all the things that could go wrong. Maybe those twinges that are making you feel concerned or worried or nervous,  (maybe even envious) or you're going to miss them and what about this thing? Did you think of that? Basically you go to all the what ifs that can go wrong - and those aren’t fun. 

Let’s say you catch that emotion and consider being honest with your child. 

Maybe that looks like telling them something like, 

[upbeat music under thoughts]

“Wow, I’m really excited for this adventure for you, but I have to be honest, there are a lot of emotions coming up for me that I need to work through on my own. There are a lot of thoughts going on through my mind. I need to process through them, look at them, let go of some of them, and take a deeper look at some. I figure, I’ll be honest with you that I have these feelings. It's not, however, your place to solve this for me. These are mine to work though. If you want to talk about them, great, but it's really my work to do.  Oh, and by the way, if you catch me reacting emotionally, I’m okay with you asking me to see if that emotion is one I know I am having in the moment. Sometimes, I just automatically react and don’t think about it. But that doesn’t make it necessary.”

[end music]

04:28

Okay, so that’s an example of someone who is really wanting to do the work. Start small.  Maybe, for six months, you’re just noticing the emotions and never mentioning it to them, but one day, it might be nice to share. And not share as if [they’re] your therapist but simply say, “I’m excited for you. I’m a little sad but I’ll be okay.” That’s all you have to do. 

While it may sound like a lot, can you imagine being this vulnerable with your child? Think about the example you’re setting as well: telling them it is okay to be sad or angry. 

We've talked in prior episodes about the thought-box-deliveries that come into your mind. Which means, in our analogy, you know that the happenings causing this are outside of your fence. In this example:  your child heading out on this trip. 

What has your protector done? Well they’ve chosen to put it on high alert, shove some thought-box-deliveries into your house and put a spotlight on them. The alarms are going off, you feel the rumblings of emotions inside the box, but you're not opening them. Which means, you have energy build up within that box and you may be reacting in a not so great way because of all of the rumblings, and you’re allowing them to keep rumbling and not opening the box to check on it. Make sense? 

05:47

So what’s the option? 

You could think: “They're going on this adventure. I’m gonna hold the space for them to share about their adventure. I don’t want to be the one to get in the way. They have the funds, they know what they are doing. They are going to have a great time.”

However, I’m going to pay attention to these thoughts that come into my mind.  It might be time in our analogy and imagery - to imagine that we have a meeting with our protector and say “when we see anything come in - thoughts that come in - about this trip, that we’re automatically not going to put any of them on red alert. Our focus is to purely have happy thoughts for our child. We can take a look at these thoughts later - they’re going to be around.  

It’s really good later, then, to think about the thoughts that keep coming up time and time again. Considering where they’re coming from,  who is sending them? Are they being sent from maybe, your parents when you were a child you heard what you are hearing in your mind now. 

Take a look at those thoughts. Open them up. See what emotions come out. And think, “are these worth having?” 

06:53

Now, when you come from a loving space,  and you pay attention to your thoughts, you might actually find some of these are definitely worth vocalizing - you know things like, “Hey, have you thought about …. How about… do you have a plan if this thing happens? Can I help you in any way?” 

Here’s a good go to: “You know me, I like to dive in and plan things for everyone, but how about I back off and you let me know if there is something you can use my assistance with?”

Now back to your strong emotions: allow a conversation to come out of them, when you have them, and it works. Help your kids to see that as a human, it's okay to have emotions - even angry ones. It’s what you do with that that matters. 

So, maybe be angry - not at your kid but give it a name and figure out how to process through it. Maybe get the Ben & Jerry’s ice cream, put on your sad movie and cry. Let your kids know you’ll feel better after doing that. And bonus - your sinuses are clear!

Ultimately, if you start leaning into your own emotions, and show up differently, you get to set a new example - it’s never too late. Your child - of any age - might first be thrown by the change, but your relationship that you have going forward with your child is one that now has the opportunity to become deeper, stronger, and in some ways, way more fun. 

08:21

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … Describe a time when you shared your emotions with your child. How did it go? What would you change about it, if you could do it over again? And if the answer is you’ve never shared your emotions - can you think of a time when it might have been a not-so-bad idea to have done that?

08:43

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, pay attention to your emotions, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end] 


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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Who are you? 💚 (17/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Who Are You?💚 (17/30)

In this podcast episode, I challenge you to expand who you are.

🗨️ "You've been doing these roles, potentially all of them, for decades. And it makes sense that you immediately identify with being a role that  you fill. Today, I challenge you, to consider that you are more than your roles and your responsibilities."

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Who are you? (17/30)

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[level-up music]

Who are you? is our topic for today (Day 17) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[upbeat music under dialogue]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, if I sit and ask you right now, who are you? What's the first description that comes to mind? What do you say? 

[pause with some upbeat music]

 I’m curious. 

Did your answer include or was it all, your roles and your responsibilities?  Whether the roles are parent, your career, blue collar work, home maker work or a corporate position; mother of [insert how many children you have], a volunteer role, or something else? 

I get it. You've been doing these roles, potentially all of them, for decades. And it makes sense that you immediately identify with being a role that  you fill. Today, I challenge you, today, to consider that you are more than your roles and your responsibilities. 

You know how I like: What if? What if you were born to be here on this planet for a reason. No, I don't know your reason. You, you, and only you can determine why you're here. But you might not actually know right now and that may be because you have spent decades filling these roles and responsibilities - sometimes AMAZINGLY well - taking the steps that everyone's supposed to take in life, keeping up with the Joneses or not keeping up with the Joneses. 

There are ways in our society that we are simply supposed to do things. Aren’t there? But who made those up anyway? 

And for some of you, maybe your full identity is in doing the opposite of what you were told you are supposed to do. 

It works both ways.  

But here's what I want to share with you today: that you - you right now - you listening to this podcast episode as you are sitting in the car, doing the laundry, just getting out of bed just about to go to bed, wherever you are,  stop 

for a moment. 

[pause] 

Take in that you, you amazing human,  may be here for a reason (I believe that for you but do you believe it for you?) You, amazing human, are worthy to exist as you are right now. Fully. 

The you that was born into this world, before humans got a hold of you and told you how you’re supposed to behave, how you need to show up - that version of you is still there. That version of you might be a little hard to find but they are happy to be here. They find joy in things that you, right now, kind of now take for granted. They have dreams - some [giggle] might think are kind of wild too, and so many exciting ideas for the future. 

I invite you to consider that there’s more to you under all of your roles and responsibilities.  

Do with this what you will. 

Honestly, you can turn this episode off now no one's making you listen to it. Or, you can begin to take the steps of this C.E.O.  - life (the Conscious Effective Olympian) living - where you begin to consider that your thoughts are optional, consider that you are receiving thought-box-deliveries; that you have been receiving thought-box-deliveries over the years, and over the years, and over the years. Maybe you’ve received so many of the same packages that you have begun to believe that that is who you are. 

But there’s a whole ‘nother part of you. The part of you that you know. The part of you who has dreams who has a purpose. And yes, that purpose can change over time. And your dreams? Your dreams don't have to be what most humans could consider huge and they don’t have to be specific either. Maybe your dream is: you want to wake up happy and I gotta tell you, that's a dream that I currently strive for every single day.  

It has taken me some well curated simmering, training of my protector and inspecting of thought-box-deliveries for me to realize that the to-do list that has 500 things on it -  and I will never ever catch up on, well, that list, I didn’t really make it for myself.

Yes, physically, I may have gone through the motions of adding items to a list (whether it be paper or online), but guess where the thought-box-deliveries came from telling me that I need to put this on my list. I’ll tell you, it’s a variety of places. Many are well-meaning and in a moment may sound amazing for myself. 

I’m going to be really vulnerable with you, right now, there are days where I just want to walk in the woods, and hang out for hours on end, but then there’s the roles and responsibilities of all the things I have to do. 

Sometimes, those things on my to-do list, those really can wait - and after further inspection, some of them don’t belong there at all - AT ALL. 

But it is only with a clearer mind that I’m able to clear the list in a way that I feel good about. 

Does this resonate at all with you? 

To be clear, in who you are, if you are a parent, yes, of course you are a parent. You're an amazing parent, who made it this far without an instruction manual, too! I am not saying to remove the idea of being a parent completely from your identity. However, I encourage you to consider that that's not all of who you are. Being the partner to your partner is not all of who you are. Your job is not all of who you are. The combination of those things that apply to you, together, are not all of who you are. You, yes you, are worthy of existing on this planet without doing all the things. You really are. 

Start there and you may find life opens up in ways you never expected.

07:04

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … How has being a parent impacted your sense of identity?

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! I invite you to explore more of who you are and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time! 

[end]


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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Accepting Thought-Box Deliveries 💚 (16/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Accepting Thought-Box Deliveries 💚 (16/30)

In this podcast episode, we think about the things we allow into our mental real estate.

"What if you are conscious enough to pay attention to your mental real estate in a way that filters out the deliveries that should simply be marked “return to sender” or never even opened at all."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 184

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Consciously Process Your Emotions (16/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Accepting Thought-Box-Deliveries is our topic for today (Day 16) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:41

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we’ve been building an analogy for Conscious Effective Olympian (that’s C.E.O.) living in our empty nest years, and today we’re going to focus on where the thought-box-deliveries we first mentioned in episode 11 of this season are coming from.

The thought-box-deliveries can be quite plentiful and arrive from a variety of sources such as 

  • A teacher you had decades ago 

  • A parent

  • The media: we are continually bombarded by messages from television, social media, billboards, [giggle] podcasts and more!

  • A colleague at work

  • A friend or a frenemy

  • Even a stranger on the street who makes a comment

It is important to note that not all thought-box-deliveries are intentionally sent from others - they may be simply sharing their own experience never considering the impact you might make it in your own life. A thought-box-delivery may come as a demand or as what some consider a fact.

The consideration I invite you to make today is to pay attention to where one (or some) of the thought-box-deliveries that have strong negative emotions for you  - where are they coming from. Do you know where it came from? 

What if you are conscious enough to pay attention to your mental real estate in a way that filters out the deliveries that should simply be marked “return to sender” or never even opened at all.

By the way, your inner self has your back; thinks you’re amazing, and incredible; and would never think anything about you that is unkind. You weren’t born thinking lousy things about yourself. Unkind thoughts about yourself? Well, those came from somewhere, and you can choose to declutter them and never allow them within your fence again. 

Being curious about where thought-box-deliveries come from, allows you to not only declutter the boxes that aren’t serving you, but also you may discover some that are continually forwarded to you that make you feel wonderful - and you’re ignoring those. Why?

Then, you get to choose if you want to change anything: choose to ignore the happenings that cause the thought-box-delivery;  or take a look at a delivery and toss it into the trash; or you can treasure it - if it is one that feels good, and well, honestly, you can do whatever you want with them.

This is, after all, your life to live! 

03:21

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …Do you have an easier time accepting positive or negative thought-box-deliveries?

03:30

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, be curious where those thought-box-deliveries are coming from, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]


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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Consciously Process Your Emotions 💚 (15/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Consciously Process Your Emotions 💚 (15/30)

In this podcast episode, we continue the Conscious Effective Olympian analogy for your emotions.

"Be curious about where your thoughts go, and consider what would your life look like if you felt your emotions and you weren't afraid to feel them?"

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 183

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Consciously Process Your Emotions (15/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Consciously Processing Your Emotions is our topic for today (Day 15) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. Yes, we’re halfway there.

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

00:44

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we began this topic a bit yesterday when we added on how to envision emotions within our Conscious Effective Olympian Living - and I invite you to dig in a little bit more today: 

Many of us were told over the years to hide our strong emotions. Have you heard these comments: 

"Cheer up," 

"You have nothing to be angry about," 

"Oh I'll give you something to cry about." 

Statements like these certainly don't teach us how to process or pay attention to our emotions. 

It is a bit of a rarity to find loved ones and others who are willing to share their emotions, tell you things like: I’ll be okay. I just have some emotions I need to pay attention to for a little bit of time. 

Can you imagine a parent allowing a child to be angry and encouraging the child to see what they can learn about themselves as they experience the anger? What thoughts are on their mind? Are they enjoying the anger?  To be honest, it might feel way better than the despair they felt moments earlier, or hopelessness they might have been feeling. And then when they get to the other side of the anger, they may be able to move to another emotion that feels even better. 

They may discover the anger really didn’t serve them much at all - or the way they expressed it brought up other things. And the next time they feel it, they may process through it quicker.

What would a world, where we all did this, be like?  These are the kinds of things I like to think about.

In our ever-expanding analogy, I imagine our avoiding and ignoring emotions as we are well-trained to take any thought-box delivery with a strong emotion and toss it in the basement of our home with all the other strong emotions. 

I see all the angry ones are together. All the hopeless ones are together, happy, sadness, you make the piles. The more boxes that are together, the more the energy in that emotion expands over time.

As the thought-box delivery comes down, it quickly is magnetized to the pile that it matches and it becomes STRONG. I almost can visualize them rumbling a bit.

Whether the emotion was triggered by something you watched on TV, in social media, a conversation you had, maybe even driving your car, we don’t know any different, so there’s no reason to beat ourselves up. 

Simply acknowledge that this may be happening. And, if this analogy kind of works for you but you can kind of make it fit a little better, please, make this your own.  

I'd like to encourage you to consider experiencing your emotions (not tossing them down the basement) can be freeing. Sure, we may have been taught to take those emotions, put them into storage and lock them away. 

Taking a look at the emotions, and considering why the emotions are there - what is raising them in us can allow us to clear the clutter of our mind quickly - or quicker than we used to.  I encourage you to become conscious of your emotions. You’re not going to catch them all, but if you start with one, that’s a win!

As you learn to sift through your emotions, pay attention to how they feel in your body, and decide what to do with them before they make it to the basement area. It’s a lot easier to open a single box and to process it, then to go into the basement, grab that box that’s now in a rumbling pile of emotion.

And lets be real, sometimes you open the box, you look at the emotion, and you think, “Yeah, this is justified!” That’s really good! Other times you may be “why was I so angry about this, that’s really no big deal.”   It’s all for you to figure out - make it fun! 

And, there are times when we have to store away emotions briefly until we have time and safe space to process them. When you begin to make that the exception rather than the norm, you may find your life becomes freeing. 

Then, when you do have the time to process your emotions and you end up visiting the storage area, it doesn’t mean you need to dive in and re-evaluate all of your past emotions or anything. Honestly, if you are feeling good, you don’t even have to look at that original box!

Remember, I’m not your boss. You use your own inner guidance, but if you decide to do a deep dive into those emotions, that is a really good time to seek a therapist or another mental health practitioner. They are skilled in helping you navigate all that may come up. 

For now, though, and the future, what if you pay attention to your emotions and consider that, yeah, maybe you just need to be sad. What if you share with your loved ones things like, “Hey, I'm sad. And it’s okay that I’m sad. It really  makes sense. This is a bittersweet time for me.” Looking at the Empty Nest in particular, we could continue with things like,”  I am really excited for you but I'm also sad because I like having you around. And we've built this relationship. I'm really proud of you,  so, I'll miss you. I'm gonna have sad moments but it's gonna be okay. And I am really excited for you."

Not only are you gifting yourself with the ability to take that thought-box delivery, open it up, look at it, consider it and process through - decide where you want to put it, but you're also showing your children and loved ones what emotions look like - that it's okay to have them and this is healthy. 

See where this all lands for you. Ultimately, it’s your journey so do what you feel inspired to try or not try. Conscious Effective Olympian living is super fun and it takes time to adjust - it’s worth it but there is also no rush at all.

A reminder that this is the “meatier” portion of the challenge - and you may need to chew on the concept a little bit. 

Enjoy considering all of this. Be curious about where your thoughts go, and consider what would your life look like if you felt your emotions and you weren't afraid to feel them? Super fun! If you already do this - well done!

06:48

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is …. Reflect on a strong emotion that you initially pushed down - one that isn’t too tough - can you identify where that thought originally came from?

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Lean into some of those emotions and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Emotions 💚 (14/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Emotions 💚 (14/30)

In this podcast episode, we continue our primary analogy for Conscious Effective Olympian living with a focus on your emotions. 

"Any emotion you experience is valid because it is yours."

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For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"Any emotion you experience is valid

because it is yours."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 182

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Emotions

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Your Emotions. That’s our topic for today (Day 14) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.  

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If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more!

Here we go: 

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Amazing human and beautiful soul, are you ready to add your emotions into this analogy that we are building? 

Let’s go back to those thought-box-deliveries that enter your home. 

I like to imagine my emotions (once I’ve identified them) as written on the inside flap opening of my thought-box-delivery. I picture them in thick black ink. 

For example, Imagine you open the thought-box-delivery labeled “my future is unknown”. And you see inside this box, written fear, nervousness, overwhelm - one word on each interior side of the box. 

For some thought-box-deliveries there will be one singular emotion. And for other thought-box-deliveries, there may be multiple emotions that arise. It’s always good to pick one emotion to take a look at a thought at a time. 

 Sometimes, we identify our thoughts before our emotions but quite often, what happens is our box is open and that emotion is pouring out - so we experience that emotion before we even think to pay attention to the thoughts we are thinking. 

Any emotion you experience is valid because it is yours. You may want to consider that an emotion you are experiencing might be an indicator to take stock of things - maybe do a reset, take a look at your thought-box-deliveries, or simply add to the statement: “And that is okay.”  This may lift the emotion to feeling a little better and gives you the space to experience it. 

If your emotions feel good - and you catch them - see what thought-box-delivery they arrived in and make a note that this one is definitely worth keeping and revisiting. Also, who sent that to you because you might want to spend more time around them. 

If you find your emotions tend to be on the unpleasant side of things, and are able to identify your thought-box-deliveries related to the emotion, those might be ones that are worth training your Protector on - and imagine what you would want your protector to do with them. 

I’d start with something small. 

For me, most of these deliveries are ones that my Protector now allows to pass on by - knowing they were never meant for me anyway. There’s no reason for them to enter my fence. 

We’ll continue to talk about your emotions in our next episode.

03:13 

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Your journal prompt for today is ….Take a moment to reflect on a recent situation where you experienced strong emotions. Are you able to identify the thought or belief that triggered them?

03:27

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As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

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Thanks for listening today, see what emotions arise,  and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Celebrate Personal Wins💚 (4/30)

The 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Celebrate Personal Wins (4/30)💚

In this podcast episode I remind you to celebrate your wins!

"I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions."

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Celebrating your personal wins is our topic for today (Day 4) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

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If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

00:43

Amazing human and beautiful soul,  it is incredibly easy to take small wins for granted. This topic is one of my favorites. I encourage you to everyday,  celebrate a win - or multiple wins. 

I like to say - celebrate your wins: big or small, we celebrate them all! 

There are days where getting out of bed is a win! Maybe you made all the meals for your family - and you always do (without even giving it a second of thought). 

I invite you to find something to celebrate each and every day. If you're comfortable, share your celebration with others, but be careful that you don't change how you feel about your win based on their reaction. 

Sometimes the reactions of others may not line up with our expectations of their reaction. This could be for many reasons:  maybe they may have no interest in it; they may have something else entirely on their mind; they may not understand to the level that this is a big deal - for you. Maybe, it’s something that's easy for them, but it wasn't for you. 

With this in mind, I encourage you to make the celebration of your win less dependent on other people's reactions. 

If you feel good about the win before you tell someone, make sure no matter their reaction you still feel good about it after. It’s important! 

You should be really proud of yourself. I’m celebrating with you and I'd love to know what your wins are. 

02:28

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Your journal prompt for today is ….What wins have you been ignoring in your life?

02:35

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As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

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Thanks for listening today. Way to go on celebrating your win, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

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Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between.