166: Empty Nest Success – When Emotions are Like Farts
Hello, my amazing friend.
I had a bit of fun with this one!
As always, I'm cheering you on!
Your Empty Nest Coach
"Sometimes you’ll realize - oh, for sure - that emotion is what I need right now - other times you may find yourself feeling differently."
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Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers
- 00:00 Podcast intro
- 00:50 Quick Reminders & Special thanks
- 01:43 My Wish For You Today - YOU create your goals
- 02:09 New Things - 2023 Pod Pause
- 04:40 My Lessons Learned: When Emotions are Like Farts
- 09:00 Two Questions For You
- 09:18 Recap
- 10:18 Bloopers
- 10:39 Still listening? - C.E.O. Training Team Information & Offer
Episode Questions For You To Consider
- How do you handle your farts in life: real and emotional?
- Do you know you are amazing?
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First Time Here? Try This Order of Episodes
- The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast Trailer
- Series 1: Empty Nest Prep - starts in episode #3
- Series 2: The C.E.O. of Your Life - starts in episode #64 (Protector is introduced)
- Series 3: The C.E.O. Toolbox - starts at episode #88
- Last Episode: Empty Nest Success - Life AUDITs, Trusting Yourself & Guest Cindy Muchnick of the Parent Compass (165)
- New Things: 2022 Plans - Episode 155 | The term pod pause is one I first heard from my podcasting friend, Lee Uehara.
- My Lessons Learned
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- What It is Like to Work With Coach Christine
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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 166
Christine: Hi, I’m Coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, and we’re on episode #166. If this isn't your first time listening and you want to skip the introduction portion feel free to tap forward a couple of times. In this podcast, I focus on helping parents who are freaking out about the empty nest ahead - I like to say: we'll take you from freaking out to feeling freaking awesome. No worries, though; all are welcome here, as I’m focused on coaching you to become the C.E.O. of Your Life, and in my world, C.E.O. stands for Conscious Effective Olympian. You’ll do this by leveling-up
your life in small increments - those small wins add up to big changes.
I appreciate that you pressed play on this episode today.
Here we go..
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This podcast is my gift to you: a parent adjusting to the idea of an empty nest, or possibly a student who’s wondering how your parents are feeling about you heading out on your own. These podcast episodes will have a base of life coaching infused with reminders to cheer yourself on, and maybe with a dash of my alter ego, Sally, the hotline video operator popping in from time to time. I’m here to remind you that you should be your own biggest fan.
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My Wish for You Today
My wish for you today is that YOU create your goals. And that you have no problem letting go of goals that don’t serve you. I also send wishes for you that your goals are inspiring. And the goals that you must do, you’re able to find inspiring thoughts about them. And, as a reminder, you aren’t your goals.
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New Things. New Things. New Things!
New Things in the New Year. If you’re listening to this episode at a different time, I wish you a happy new day. Each day has the gift of providing a tremendous new start for your life. I’m excited for you!
The biggest new thing for me, isn’t really a new thing.
If you are so inclined, you can take a listen to the episode I released about this time last year - I had plans. I was going to take a podpause - where I pause releasing podcast episodes - and had plans for what I’d do with that time.
And then it was 2022. I did buy a house and the house needed way more work than I was expecting. I had a lot less free time than I originally planned and well - it is life after all - things did not go as planned. But I did have a lot of fun figuring it all out. The one area that was neglected the most was - yes, this podcast - and all the things I planned to do around it.
I’m ever so thankful for the C.E.O. Training Team members this year - The Training Team work has been incredibly fun to continue through all of my life changes.
I’m also super proud that we DID manage to migrate (ha ha ha) from the term of flock to the C.E.O. Training Team - helping you to become the Conscious Effective Olympian of your life in a way that you learn to trust your own inner guidance - that’s all very important to me.
In relistening to episode 155 - where I shared about last year’s change - I had forgotten that so much of this setup was all new this year. Which means I’m taking the time to celebrate that win as we embark on year 2 of the C.E.O. Training Team offering! If you’d like to hear more about the beginnings of the C.E.O. Training Team, take a listen to that episode- you’ll find it in the show notes.
I’m sharing this with you because, well, I have the same plans this year, as last year - After this episode, I’m taking podpause again. I’ll focus on the C.E.O. Training Team - building up resources, curating content, the delivery of the Empty Nest Success app and some other surprises!
If you aren’t already following me on the socials, I invite you to join me now - you’ll find me on most platforms with the handle @emptynestcoach. If you’re looking for a bit more, sign up for a free account in the Empty Nest Success community to stay in the know - receive weekly what if affirmations - and more!
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My Lessons Learned
When Emotions are Like Farts
I couldn’t resist this title and this one came right from a C.E.O. Training Team Power Hour session!
I’m kind of in love with this new analogy, too.
One of the amazing humans in our group was sharing about losing patience with their emerging adult kiddo. And from what I understand - they really losing their patience.
My listener, we don’t judge here, this is life - and I invite you to take a moment and imagine something that might cause you to lose your patience with your child - are they not helping around the house? Are they being disrespectful? Are they making a mess and expecting you to clean it up all the time - or is it way more serious? Take a moment to think about it and then imagine that straw-on-a-camel's-back moment when it becomes too much and you - for lack of better words - lose it - whatever that looks like for you.
High-level, your emotions take over and they steamroll you, your Protector is on high-alert - all the alarms are going off in your mind - and your protector’s amazing job of protecting - allows your emotions to let loose.
It makes sense.
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The emotions you have have been bottled up and get to a point where they need to escape - and this incredible human who started this whole conversation in our Power Hour said - you know, it has to come up - kind of like a fart.
Oh my goodness, that made me smile. What an amazing analogy.
And then we went a bit deeper with the analogy, and I mentioned that yeah, it is like fart but when we have the emotions and we don’t address them internally - it is as if we have to pass gas so bad while we are in a room full of people and we’re trying to figure out how to cover up this thing up. You know it’s going to happen and it ends up being those clear-the-room types of silent but deadly gas sessions. Oh my.
And that is scenario 1 for your emotions: you feel all those emotions rising within you, you’re trying to hold it together, with sincere effort to find the right words but you don’t feel like they are working… and - yeah,
here it comes.
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THEN there’s scenario 2. You feel the gas rumbling, you know it needs to be released. You excuse yourself from the room - knowing it will be really uncomfortable if you don’t - and, yeah, for this one you even head outside and have the glorious, abundant freedom to LET IT RIP. Ah, sweet relief.
If this scenario were our emotions… imagine we can feel we are headed to a blow up of epic proportions. That is a good time to consider sharing something like “I’m experiencing some strong emotions here and I’m going to excuse myself for a bit allowing myself to come back when I’m sure these are warranted emotions for where we are.” And try to get some time to process the emotions in a way that serves you - this is a great time to use your C.E.O. Toolbox items.
You can start by identifying the emotions & labeling them. Figure out what thoughts are driving those emotions - and ask yourself if those words are true - you can also process them out in a way that works for you: journaling, walking, running, using boxing gloves and a punching bag - or a pillow - whatever works for you.
Sometimes you’ll realize - oh, for sure - that emotion is what I need right now - other times you may find yourself feeling differently.
Allow yourself to explore your thoughts and emotions with love. You aren’t your thoughts and you aren’t your emotions, after all. You are so much more!
I’m cheering you on, friend. Now go let those farts out.
Two Questions for You
Question 1: How do you handle your farts in life: emotional and real ones?
and Question 2: Do you know in your heart: you are amazing?
This one’s a short episode, but it feels right for where we are. While I’ll be back with more episodes later in 2023, I’ll be adding content to the Empty Nest Success community weekly - and would love to see you there!
As always, I provide content to make you think, my empty nest friend.
My HOPE is that I’m able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life.
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Enjoy each and every day, my future empty nest friend. You deserve that, because after all, YOU ARE AMAZING!
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