30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Challenge Wrap-Up💚 (30/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Challenge Wrap-Up💚 (30/30)

In this podcast episode, we wrap up the challenge and season 2 of the podcast. Chat next season!

💬 "So here you are, today. You get to choose what is outside of your fence."

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Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 00:42 Skip the intro and jump into today's topic
  • 05:29 My Wish For You Today
  • 05:40 New Things
  • 06:47 Journal Prompt

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Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

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First time here? Try these episodes & resources:

For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"So here you are, today. You get to choose what is outside of your fence."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 197

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Challenge Wrap-Up 💚 (30/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

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The Challenge Wrap-Up is our topic for today (Day 30) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

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If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

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00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, thank you for listening to and participating in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success -  whether you listened to this one episode or all 30, I appreciate you tuning in! 

As I record this episode, it has been a solid five years of creating this podcast and the content created around it. Initially, an inspired idea that focused on providing helpful resources that past me would have loved - that’s past me where my child was heading off to college out of state and four years early. 

I always say in these episodes, my hope is that the content provides you with thoughts (your thoughts) that positively impact your life: YOUR amazing life - and the incredible years that you have ahead of you.

As this challenge wraps up, if you’d enjoy additional resources from me, I invite you to do this challenge using the additional video playlist created on YouTube - the content is slightly different - and consider signing-up for email reminders to walk you through the challenge, as well! In the show notes, you’ll find a link to current empty nest success offerings available. 

Use this podcast season (season 2) as toolbox items for yourself: listen to or watch your favorites, perhaps come back and re-listen to all of it in a year and see if some concepts resonate differently with you. 

My goal with  this content (and in my coaching) is always for you to become the C.E.O. of YOUR life: consciously processing your thought-box-deliveries, considering your emotions and how to process them so you may move to the other side of emotions when necessary; learning what is best kept outside of your fence; training your Protector and much more. 

Your amazing self is within reach. I believe that. Sometimes, though, you may have trouble finding (or recognizing) your amazing self among the mental clutter that life has left on your doorstep. Be patient if this is the case. You’ll find yourself!

Time and time again, I’ve witnessed clients discover that their life CAN have less drama and more time, and that life can be fun! It is my joy to watch this happen as they clear and organize their thought-box-deliveries.  

We all can use more time, can’t we? Time you can then spend getting to know yourself better, trying things, building relationships, repairing relationships, and well, doing whatever you feel led to do - maybe you want to learn to fly a plane, travel solo, travel with others, enjoy your life as it is, wake up and take in the sunrise every day - or something else entirely: you can find YOUR answer!

The decluttering and learning to become the Conscious Effective Olympian of your life may one day deliver this moment where you find yourself wondering, “How am I so calm about so many things that used to have me on high-alert?” 

I’ve experienced this myself, and clients have as well. 

While you’ll KNOW how you did it, that moment when you see your growth and experience click in regularly - or even every so often - it’s incredible. 

So here you are, today. You get to choose what is outside of your fence. You get to ask yourself if you will spend time doing things that you want to focus on, that allow you to show up better for not only you, but for your family and this world. 

While I’m mentioning others, remember: you can’t show up in the best way possible for others if you don’t show yourself that level of respect, time and energy. This world needs you to be you  - fully. 

You may remember that at the beginning of this 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success, I invited you to consider this challenge as a seed catalog where you get to choose the seeds (the topics) to fill your garden. 

Now, at the end, it’s a great time to consider which concepts or “seeds” resonated with you the most. Toss those into your garden and care for them lovingly. You don’t need them all to start. Really! Lovingly focusing on one or two will provide knowledge about yourself that will help you to successfully grow others over time. 

So good! 

05:29

[level-up music] My Wish for You Today

My wish for you today is that the rest of your life IS the best of your life. That is all. 

05:40

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New Things, New Things, New Things

Oo, I love  bringing back  these regular segments back again! [It] feels really nice.

First, while this episode does wrap up season 2 of the Your Empty Nest Coach podcast, I will return with Season 3 in mid to late 2024. 

Do you have a question about a topic? A topic you’d like me to cover? A win to share? A question specific to empty nesting that you’d like me to tackle, maybe? See the show notes for information on how to make a submission! 

Second, should you be looking for a safe person to hold space for you in the empty nest transition, I invite you to consider private coaching with me! Take the six-question quiz to see if it’s a great fit for you.

That being said, if you’ve received all you need from the podcast and free resources - that makes my heart happy, too! 

Either way, I kindly ask that if you have found this podcast helpful, please share it with others, as that is the best way to allow the podcast to reach the people who need it. Thanks!

 06:47

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Your journal prompt for today is … explore your readiness to become the Conscious Effective Olympian of Your Life. What does that mean to you, and what steps will you take to empower yourself and become the master gardener - or C.E.O. of your life?

07:06

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As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND, as mentioned before, become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

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Thanks for listening today! Remember to trust your inner guidance, clear your thoughts, follow your emotions, train your protector and know you’ve got this. Have a wonderful day/week/month/year/ decade/life ahead. You deserve it, and you are freaking amazing.

Chat next season!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Loving Others💚 (29/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Loving Others💚 (29/30)

This podcast episode considers where loving others resides in our C.E.O. (Conscious Effective Olympian) Life analogy.

💬 "What if… the love for others and love for humanity that you create in your life is your gift to you?"

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Looking for an episode transcript? You'll find it below! 

Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 00:41 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic
  • 06:37 Journal Prompt

Episode Resources: 

Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

Legal disclaimer: Listening to this podcast doesn't make Christine your official coach, and this podcast is not meant to replace your doctor or therapist. Curious? Click here for the deets!

First time here? Try these episodes & resources:

For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"What if… the love for others and love for humanity that you create in your life is your gift to You?"

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 196

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Loving Others 💚 (29/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Loving Others is our topic for today (Day 29) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

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00:41

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we are in our penultimate episode. I’ll be mentioning some concepts and terms introduced in earlier days of this challenge and links to those episodes will be in the show notes.

Our topic: When we love someone, that person is outside of our fence. Our Protector  has a lot to do with thought-box-deliveries sent in about that individual. Pay attention to how those deliveries are arriving? Are they neatly gift-wrapped with a bow and a loving card or on high-alert? 

Where love is concerned, our thought-box-deliveries can be big, beautiful, sometimes even arrive with a singing telegram, if you will. 

Most of us can think of a time when we were full on in love with someone and then at another moment may have felt quite the opposite about the same person. We can choose to love them, ignore them, be curious about them, empathetic toward them, and so on. 

When you imagine a person you love being outside of your fence and begin to think about the loving “thoughts” toward them as deliveries that you choose to pay attention to (or not pay attention to), then things can get interesting.

Ultimately, our thoughts that make us feel love are where the love is. 

Kind of wild isn’t it? 

If you don’t want to go that deep here, no biggie, I’ll put some other episode links and such in the show notes, go ahead, tap through and listen to those… no need to continue here if you aren’t feeling it. 

Oo! You’re still listening? Great! There are a lot of thoughts that can be created from someone existing in our life. 

How they show up in our life; When they show up; What they do for us - or don’t do for us; these are all happenings outside of our fence. 

If you discover thoughts you have about someone that are clear changes from how you have felt about them in the past, I invite you to take a look at where that comes from, especially if your mind’s house used to be filled from floor to ceiling with loving thoughts about them. 

Those thoughts are still there, they may be dust-covered and hard to find, sometimes from neglect and sometimes because, yeah,  they need to be there. 

Remember that time when that person could do no wrong and you loved everything (well, almost everything) about them. And yet, now you find yourself focused on the same thought or couple of thoughts that bring you to an emotion that doesn’t feel so good. 

Maybe those thoughts are justified, and action is necessary. Or, maybe you need to clean up some of those thought-box deliveries. That’s for you to figure out. But also know that whether the person is physically in your life or not, the thought-box-deliveries remain. 

How often do we as humans walk away from a situation, or place, or person only to continually talk about it, rehash it over and over again, tell each person you see, journal about it and more. 

Decide how you want to feel and what you want to do with the boxes. 

Do you want to re-enter the room and pull out the lovely - feel-good-in-your soul thought box deliveries? 

Or, do you want to  toss them out because they aren’t aligned with where you are now

Or, maybe create a new thought-box for where your relationship is now 

Make sure wherever you land, has you feeling really good - or if this is going to take you some time, maybe aim for better than you felt before. 

As always, be curious about what you learn about yourself along the way.

Love is a funny thing. 

We know it is possible to love someone who doesn’t love us back and vice versa - on either side of that  - it feels pretty lousy, doesn’t it? - unless you find better thoughts. 

Sometimes, the timing has expired, isn’t right, or maybe it never will be. Either way, it doesn’t negate the loving feelings that one has for another human.  You can love fully without expectations from another. The love you feel ultimately is thoughts you have. 

Are you still with me? 

You can do anything you want with your thoughts about love. Really! And when you embrace this, things can get fun.

By now, in the challenge, you may be starting to get a feel for managing your thought-box-deliveries, so how you feel led to arrange, curate and find loving-led thought-boxes is for you to figure out. 

Whether you decide to 

  1. dig out good thoughts from a room that has been locked up and hidden away

  2.  or hold space, be curious and have fun loving others whether they love you or not, 

you get to choose. 

You can acquire loving feelings for anyone - you don’t need their permission, you don’t need to take physical action, you may never even meet them in real life. Maybe, they aren’t physically in your life anymore (and that could be for a variety of reasons) but that doesn’t mean you need to stop the love. If the love feels good - LOVE!

What if… the love for others and love for humanity that you create in your life is your gift to You? Helping you to feel better. Choosing love a little more often may give your life a momentum that is worth exploring.  

06:37

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Your journal prompt for today is … Reflect on your thoughts and beliefs about love. How do you define love, and what does it mean to you personally? 

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Can you believe our next episode is our final day of the challenge and we’ll wrap-up this 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success?  If you prefer video, the entire challenge is on YouTube now.

Thanks for listening today, for thinking about the love in your life, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing!  

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Following Your Joy💚 (28/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Following Your Joy💚 (28/30)

In this podcast episode I ask you to consider following your joy.

💬 "Notice when you want to follow your joy. Notice when you decide not to."

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Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 00:42 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic
  • 03:33 Journal Prompt

Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

Legal disclaimer: Listening to this podcast doesn't make Christine your official coach, and this podcast is not meant to replace your doctor or therapist. Curious? Click here for the deets!

You may be interested in…

For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"Notice when you want to follow your joy. Notice when you decide not to."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 195

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Following Your Joy 💚 (28/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Following your joy is our topic for today (Day 28) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

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00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, follow your joy. 

Follow your joy. 

You may not have heard me: Follow your joy. 

And One more time: follow your joy! 

Notice when you want to follow your joy. Notice when you decide not to. Don't beat yourself up when you choose to ignore joyful callings but be curious about the callings and the reasons you don’t follow them. 

Consider: Is this thing a joy prompting that has tugged at your soul more than once? Pay attention to those when they appear, why they appear, and why you don’t take the steps to follow the prompting. 

Related to this, I introduced having 4 joyous things to help you to feel better in episode 19 of this 30 Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.

Giving yourself room to follow your joy, to notice your joyous promptings, and following them when you can will provide answers for you on what is ahead for you. Whether it be clearing some space to have the ability to follow more of your joy, whether it be taking naps, or jumping on a last minute flight that had a super deal and seeing what’s on the other side. Discovering who you are and what lights you up will become clearer as you follow your joy. Learn from it. Lean into it. If you never follow your joy, learning new things about yourself may take a lot longer. 

And, that’s okay if that’s where you are. There’s enough to be learned within the promptings. 

What if  - and this is a big statement: What if you are here on this planet simply to follow your joy? 

If you dropped into your life today, and could look around with fresh eyes, is there anything you would change - that you can change? Do you love your life? What things do you love and why aren't you doing more of that? 

I do get it, though, if joy feels too unattainable for you, right now.  We’ve all been in those moments. If that’s where you are now, take a few baby steps when you can, rather than a leap. Imagine though, if you could experience joy or feeling better more often. What would that look like for you? 

If you have joyous promptings this week that feel a tad indulgent, but might bring you a little more joy, I encourage you to follow one or two of those purely as an experiment and see what happens. 

This all should be fun. If it isn’t, well, then, it isn’t really a joyous prompting, is it? 

Have a wonderful time following your joy - remember there is no right or wrong here - it’s all your adventure to plan and jump into.

03:33

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Your journal prompt for today is … Explore the activities or aspects of your life that currently bring you joy. Are there any patterns or common elements among them?

03:47

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As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, your joy is calling you - provide yourself with some space to hear it - and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: The Story You Have About Your Role In Your Child’s Future 💚 (27/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: The Story You Have About Your Role In Your Child's Future💚 (27/30)

In this podcast episode we talk about future stories we tell ourselves with a focus on the parent-child relationship.

💬 "...I encourage you to pay attention to the future stories you have and the stakes you have assigned to them."

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Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 00:43 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic
  • 07:27 Journal Prompt

💚 Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 920-LIFEWIN (920-543-3946).

Legal disclaimer: Listening to this podcast doesn't make Christine your official coach, and this podcast is not meant to replace your doctor or therapist. Curious? Click here for the deets!

You may be interested in…

For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"...I encourage you to pay attention to the future stories you have and the stakes you have assigned to them."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 194

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: The Story You Have About Your Role In Your Child's Future💚 (27/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

The story you have about your role in your child's future is our topic for today (Day 27) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

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00:43

Amazing human and beautiful soul, if you are excited to dive into more of these concepts - to ask questions, perhaps receive coaching around them and for your specific needs, I invite you to take a look at the show notes for a link leading you to the ways you may connect and work with me as your coach - or you’ll find them all  at EmptyNestSuccess.com. 

Also, a reminder that I have created a free PDF companion workbook for this challenge that includes a list of topics, information about me, worksheets and some extra bonuses.

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Onto our topic: the story about your role in your child's future. Let's take all of the concepts that we've talked about so far and put them together. High-level, this challenge has introduced and encouraged thought work - paying attention to your thought-box-deliveries; noticing and feeling your emotions; updating stories that may never come true, and learning who you are while remembering your adult child needs the space to figure out who they are. All of this while also considering transitioning into a coach role for your child.

Know that while you may have great plans for grandchildren and babysitting them or, not babysitting them or having your own life with a few yearly check-ins - and while you may have specific plans, your child a) may not be thinking that far ahead and  b) may have a different version, right now, of what they would like your future relationship to look like. 

Life is all about change. And with this, know that it is going to change for both of you as both of you grow into your next versions of who you are - or discover who you have always been under all the other duties you have been assigned in life. 

Trust that you’ll figure it out as you go. 

Embrace the coach role and remember that they have every right to the ideas, plans and feelings that they have. Your job is to create your own amazing life and you’ll figure out the relationship as you move along. 

Pressuring any other human to deliver or change to make us more comfortable is a lose lose situation - and when that someone is our child the stakes are even higher. 

[sigh] whew, yeah, I know that was a bit of an ouch, but someone listening needed to hear it. 

03:12

When you catch yourself telling future-stories about your relationship together, remember that, at best, you are guessing what the future may look like. If you were to state that future-guess as a fact and it involves another human’s life…. there’s bound to be some sort of response, to put it lightly.

In the analogy we are building on your way to becoming The Conscious Effective Olympian (C.E.O.) of your life, remember that the future is outside of your fence. It is! Someone else’s story about the future? That’s also outside of your fence. If you choose to bring it in and feel the need to manage it - that’s kind of on you. 

Let others have their stories. 

Any story that you decide to tell  (to yourself or others) about your role and your child's future, whether it's, 

  • They're not going to give me grandkids.

  • I'm going to be super involved in their life! 

  • They’ll live so far away, I'm never going to see them.

  • or whatever the thoughts you have about your role in their future…. 

For all of these, I encourage you to pay attention to the future stories you have and the stakes you have assigned to them. When you notice the stories you tell (or maybe it’s a single thought), see if it is one that feels good, and if not, update it. Sure, dream about what you would like as long as it feels good but be careful with whom you share it with and the stakes you put on it - of that future story becoming a reality. 

If you aren’t able to come up with anything for your parent-child relationship that feels better, here are some starter statements to try (they’re general): 

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I'm thrilled that my child has made it to adulthood. I know in each moment in the past I did the best I could with the resources I had for me at that time, and I will continue to do so - my child will too! Over the years, we have created a relationship - one that can stay the same or change. I look for ways to show my adult child that I love and care for their uniqueness. I’m thankful when I’m included in their life. I’m learning to become a safe space for them and they - maybe, after initially doubting it - have learned to appreciate it. I’m ecstatic that I get to show up fully as myself and they get to show up fully as themself as our relationship grows in the future. 

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You certainly don’t have to say anything like this to yourself, but how would something like this feel? You can use it as a starting point, adjust it, play with it, or start from scratch. 

Absolutely, dream about all the things you’d like to see in the future but remember they are your dreams. Take stock and see what in those dreams of yours you are able to make progress toward and do so when you are inspired to take action.

As for you and your child, you can show up believing that it will be like that one day, (whatever your dream is) and in the meantime, be thankful for every moment you have with them in your life now. 

And for those of you, who maybe your child isn’t in your life - for whatever reason- give yourself hope. Work on loving them for who they are. It has the opportunity to heal and you can love them even if they aren’t in your life.

And, of course, remember that the relationship with your child is yours. It  doesn't have to look the way society has told you it should. 

Should you be interested, I speak more on topics about the future in  Day 8 of the Empty Nest Success challenge - that’s titled “ Their Future - What’s Your Story?“. You’ll also find future topics mentioned in episodes 13: Empty Nest Success: Future You Has All the Power; 17: Empty Nest Success: Green Popsicle Stick; 20: Empty Nest Success: You Found Future You! Now for the, “How?”; 71: Empty Nest Success: The Past and the Future Are Outside of Your Fence; and, finally, 138: Empty Nest Success: Shared Future Goals. Links will, as always, will be in the show notes.

07:27

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Your journal prompt for today is … reflect on your current ideas and expectations about your future relationship with your child. Be curious if you have any preconceived notions you might want to let go of in order to allow you to thrive while your child becomes all they are meant to be?

And here are some extra prompts: What thought-box-deliveries arrive when the idea that that story may not happen enters your mind? What is Your Protector doing the thought-box-deliveries, and what emotions show up for you?

As always, don’t forget to consider some better feeling thoughts. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, check in with your future stories - in all areas of your life - and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Sitting in the Simmer 💚 (26/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Sitting in the Simmer💚 (26/30)

In this podcast episode Coach Christine shares one of the analogies dear to her heart: sitting in the simmer.

"In the simmering moments of life, it is how you show up; how you feel about the simmering moments - that impacts one person and one person alone: You."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 193

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Sitting in the Simmer💚 (26/30)

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Sitting in the Simmer is our topic for today (Day 26) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

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If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

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Amazing human and beautiful soul….Are you simmering? I love to say that I’m sitting in the simmer. This concept is one of my early analogies. One that - I have such good emotions around: when this one clicked for me, and I was able to form it into a proper analogy on the podcast, I found people telling me that they were “simmering.” “I’m simmering Christine.” And it was the affirmation I needed at that time to know I was on the right path sharing my content. Holy cow, that was about five years ago, so this is near and dear to my heart. 

In the last episode, we quickly noted the nonlinear journey that life gives us. Sometimes, along with the Ditch Sessions (more on that in our last episode), we may also experience really long waiting periods to get to whatever the next thing is in our life. 

Some examples: maybe you’re waiting for the next chance to visit with your adult child. Maybe you're waiting for the start date of something big in your life such as a vacation, a training program or life event. Maybe you're waiting for somebody to do something that you need them to do, or waiting to discover for yourself what you want to do next in life - and whatever it is you’re feeling it’s taking too long. 

 

I like to think of these extended waiting periods as simmering. The analogy I have for you is that these are like stew simmering moments. Imagine that your life is the stew and while you have the ingredients prepped and tossed into the pot, you still need time for the stew to simmer, allowing the ingredients to work together to co-create for a wonderful meal - a delicious meal - unless you don’t like stew. But we’ll pretend you do right now. Ha! 

Imagine you’ve tossed celery, onions, potatoes, seasoning and more into the broth. You toss the last item in and you think, “Perfect, I did it and now I can eat it.” And we can imagine diving into a super crunchy piece of celery, super strong onions and a big piece of potato that is almost impossible to bite into. 

It seems silly doesn’t it? Yet we do this all the time in life with projects we have and with our life experiences. 

Another analogy used often by others is tossing a seed into the ground and not waiting for it to grow.

When we recognize that life has simmering moments in order for the life ingredients to work their magic, and for us to be ready to enjoy them, life becomes way more fun. And sitting there focused on the simmering pot is probably not the best use of your time. Sure, check in on it, but when you find fun things to do while the needed simmer happens, that is a full life.

If we return to the stew analogy, we could spend the time cleaning up the kitchen, putting our feet up, maybe treating ourselves to something, chatting with others, playing a game - focusing on finding joy in the simmer becomes a fun experience. 

In the simmering moments of life, it is how you show up; how you feel about the simmering moments - that impacts one person and one person alone: You.  You can sit there and be mad that it takes the time for the stew to simmer. Or, you can embrace the time with fun and realize that you might need the time to be ready for whatever the next thing is. 

And whether the next thing in life is one day, one hour, one year, or one decade away, finding ways to enjoy the simmer makes a huge difference. Look for joyous moments. Look for magical moments. Look for synchronicities. Look for joy. Create joy. You’re going to sit in the simmer anyway, why not enjoy it?

Next time you feel the simmer of life, try this thought, “Oh, yeah, I'm sitting in the simmer of life, what fun can I find while I wait?”

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Your journal prompt for today is … Imagine yourself as a simmering pot. What qualities or transformations are occurring within you during this simmering period?

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As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

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Thanks for listening today, have fun in the simmer of your life, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

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Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between.