130: Things That Won’t Be on My Tombstone, New FAFSA Calculations, Your Wins & More 💚

130: Things That Won't Be on My Tombstone, New FAFSA Calculations, Your Wins & More 💚

Hello, my amazing friend!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"The world needs you - not carbon copies of other humans. We need you to be authentically, unabashedly you, so I hope that if you don’t already know who you are, that you get a glimpse of your future this week."

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Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 01:00 Skip Intro and Get to the Tombstone Talk
  • 04:36 My Wish For You Today
  • 05:18 New Things: March 2021 Coaching
  • 05:52 Ask Coach Christine: "Can you comment on the FAFSA removing the consideration of multiple college students in the family?"
  • 07:28 Give, give, give
  • 08:19 Christine Where are You?  On Clubhouse and at Podfest Global Summit
  • 10:18 Celebrate You & Your Wins!
  • 12:45 What's in Your Life's Toolbox? 
  • 13:58 Let's Find the Funny! 
  • 13:59 What I Wish My Parents Knew: About the Kitchen
  • 14:55 Two Questions for You
  • 15:53 Bloopers

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Was the tombstone talk too much? 
  2. Is this the week you call in and share something with my podcast audience?

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 130

FULL TRANSCRIPT

00:00:00

Christine: Hi, I’m Coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast and we’re on episode #130.  If you are new here, know that I tend to use terms I’ve introduced in prior episodes. Should you feel a bit lost - use my show notes for best places to begin!

In this episode, I talk about Things that Won’t be on My Tombstone, of course the wins you are celebrating, this thing called Podfest Global Summit and more.

I appreciate that you pressed play on this episode, today. Here we go.

[happy music under voiceover]

This podcast is my gift to you: a parent adjusting to the idea of an empty nest - or possibly a student who's wondering how your parents are feeling about you heading out on your own. These podcast episodes will have a base of life coaching infused with reminders to cheer yourself on and maybe with a dash of my alter ego, Sally (the hotline video operator), popping in from time to time. I’m here to remind you that you should be your own biggest fan!

[end happy music]

00:01:00

My amazing friend. I appreciate you more than you’ll ever know. You’ve chosen to listen to my voice, and what a privilege that is for me. I don’t take your time lightly, so thank you. Let’s do some basic housekeeping first - you’ll find a list of episode topics and time markers on where they appear in my show notes, should you want to hop around - or return to a segment later! I would love for you, as you listen, to think of two people you could share this podcast episode with and then share it! And, of course, don’t forget that you are invited - yes you - to submit to any section of this episode by leaving me a message (text or audio) - on my google voice number: That’s 1-920-LIFEWIN or (920-543-3946). You’ll find it in my shownotes, too, if you are looking for it later.

All of my offerings, podcast show notes, transcriptions of the episodes, and more can be found on my website: Your Empty Nest Coach dot com. This episode is sponsored by me - and all things Your Empty Nest Coach, so to keep this podcast going strong be sure to subscribe to this podcast in your favorite podcast player, to share it with others, and visit my website, sign-up for my email list, and check out all of my offerings.Thanks!

[creepy music]? 

I know you’re thinking, “Christine, why are you talking about tombstones?” 

I know, I know, no one likes to think about death but remembering that lives are finite can be a tool to use to put the many frustrations of daily life into perspective quickly, and then work through your thought-deliveries and training up your protector - and all that other fun stuff I talk about. 

00:02:49:

But this week, I found myself saying off the cuff to someone, “Well, the number of instagram followers I have will not be on my tombstone.” and then I started listing things that won’t be on my tombstone… I mean pretty much nothing will be on my tombstone, should I have one. What do we get birthdate  - dash - and end date.  Ouch. A dash. Not how many instagram followers, not how many speaking engagements, not how many children you have, not your college major, not how much money you make, or clients you have, or what you did for a living. And in the end I don’t think I’m going to look back on my life and say, "You know it is a darn shame that in 2021 I didn’t already have 100,000 downloads. I mean, that, that would have made this life worth living." 

Yeah, I don’t know why I talk like that in the future.

Let’s be real.

So, if the idea of thinking about this doesn’t freak you out, when you get frustrated this week, remember, this stuff isn’t going to be on your tombstone. And at the end of your life, more than likely, you’ll be thinking about relationships. Those that you wish you did more with, those that you wish you might have let go of sooner. Those that you are proud of and that you are glad you cultivated. I don’t know, what do you think you’ll be thinking about? If you find this resource helpful to you, it is a good resource to have in the top of your life’s toolbox. And for the record, I remembered that I had read or heard somewhere about making the dash mean something...I did a quick google search, and found the Dash poem - it says more on this than I just did, so I’ll link to the website in my show notes, if you want to check it out. 

00:04:36

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My Wish for You Today ✅

My amazing friend, my wish for you, today, is that you, yes you, discover a new amazing aspect of you that you have been hiding for some time. I’m giving you permission to be curious about that part of you. The world needs you - not carbon copies of other humans. We need you to be authentically, unabashedly you, so I hope that if you don’t already know who you are, that you get a glimpse of your future this week. As always, I encourage you to manage your thought-deliveries in a way that serves you, and future you well. 

00:05:18

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New Things. New Things. New Things!

New things!

Well, this one is not really new but I have a few open registration spots remaining for March, beginning March 15th. In the Your Empty Nest Coach part of my life, my private coaching clients are top tier - they’re my favorites. We have weekly private zoom calls, I send you resources, and you have a line of communication with me between sessions. It’s so much fun, and I’d love to work with you! I have more going on but I’ll share that in an upcoming segment.

00:05:52

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Ask Coach Christine

I was recently asked this question on TikTok and responded with a video: 

Can you comment on the FAFSA removing the consideration of multiple college students in the family? My youngest daughter may need to delay a year.

And my response? I didn’t actually know about this but thankfully my day job is in an enrollment office at a college and I asked my amazing colleague, Ashling in our Student Financial Services office about this. She confirmed that, “Yes, this is true.” 

In the new version of the FAFSA which will be easier to complete and streamlined, it will only ask you how many people are in your household - it won’t ask you how many are in college.

It is basically a newly calculated EFC that will now be called an SAI.

The SAI will go lower than zero to -$1500, where the EFC goes as low as 0. 

This is scheduled to be in effect the 2023 - 2024 school year which means that October 1st 2022 when the FAFSA opens, this new calculation will be in place. 

Now as someone who likes data, I would love to see a side by side calculation to see the actual difference because it might not be as significant as it sounds with the new calculation. Any takers on doing this comparison? 

If you have a question you want me to focus on in an upcoming episode, use that google voice number 1-920-LIFEWIN. Leave a voicemail message or text your question to me. I consider all submissions.

00:07:28

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My Lessons Learned

What have I learned recently? 

Give, give, give, give and expect nothing in return. I’ve been giving a lot recently and on purpose. Someone watching me might say I give too much of my time to things that don’t have a specific purpose that ties back to my business. I have no expectations of anything when I give and it makes things super fun and interesting when the universe responds in ways that I not only might have been hopeful for but also that exceed any expectation I might possibly have. Try giving a little more this week than you might have in some area of your life - have no expectations and see what happens - it might just be, it feels darn good to help another human.

00:08:19

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Christine? Christine? Christine where are you?

Deirdre Dolan Nesline and I are continuing our Friday morning Clubhouse declutter tips sessions. Deirdre provides great tips for your weekend ahead. 

Rachel Lankester was kind enough to invite me into a Clubhouse room to talk about Empty Nesting this week, as well. 

If you are on Clubhouse, be sure to follow me, Deirdre and Rachel there - great energy all around, if I do say so myself. 

This week ahead, I’m attending Podfest Global Summit any free moment I have. It is virtual which means, I can squeeze in a few sessions over my lunch break and in the evening. I was lucky enough to speak on a panel this past Monday - it was all about Higher Education in podcasting - or vice versa. A special shout out goes to the amazing Lesa Beals of the podcast Not Your College Life for including me on the panel. You’re the best!

With my speaking gig over, I’m quite active on the Whova app as I’m free because I’m all about making connections, and have had great fun running meetups about Whova overwhelm - for those who don’t know, Whova is the app that the conference is being held through. My former programmer/analyst days are coming out and I love helping others get comfortable with tech. 

If you are listening to this a few days after the release, I have free base passes for you to attend. This is an amazing conference with value in so many areas - not just podcasting, so don’t be shy, check it out and use the code EmptyNestSuccess all one word to earn yourself a free spot at the summit. Then be sure to connect with me on the app!

As always, you may check out my Media & Press page on my website YourEmptyNestCoach.com for a list of all of my guest appearances. 

00:10:18

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Celebrating You and Your Wins[sound] 

I tried something new with this, this week - I post Wednesday Wins videos regularly on TikTok. This week I also posted on Instagram and I mentioned in both that if you put the microphone emoji in your shared win in the comment, that it’s your way of giving me permission to share your win on my podcast. And some of you were willing. As always, the small wins count as much as the big ones!

I’ve had a lot of wins this past week. The one that has been good for me personally is with all of the happenings going on in my life, I’ve done a good job at managing my thought-deliveries, my protector, watching the overwhelm, and I’ve still made time to be still periodically. That’s no small feat. 

And now I have some fun approved wins from listeners and followers to share with you: 

Sloppyspacefish shared, “My boss approved my idea to add a JOAD program to our camp.”

JaeHermann.co shared, “I aint killed nobody, yet. 🥳 Mercury Retrogade has been kicking my arse, but I’m on the upswing, so that’s a win, too!!”

Talkshitwithp  on Instagram shared,”being a 1st time case study speaker at podfest.” Now listener, I had the privilege of chatting with Paula - and I’m so excited for her to share her session - “How podcasting saved my mental health.” And I plan to stay up past my bedtime to watch it.

AmazingAnonymousMama shared, “My daughter’s thinking of changing her majors and I remembered your TikTok and didn’t freak out.” Thank you AmazingAnonymousMama for spending time with me on my TikTok live - and sharing that. It means the absolute world to me.

Thank you all for sharing your wins. And listener, I want you to take a moment and think of a moment that happened today: small - or big. You got it? Please give yourself a pat on the back, and those of you who shared with us here, thank you for letting me share your wins with my audience. 

Now, my amazing listener, don’t forget to share your win with us - you may send it to me in my DMs on social media, use my google voice number, yes, that’s in my show notes. Or pop in the comments of my wednesday win videos on TikTok or Instagram and add that microphone emoji. 

00:12:45

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What’s in your life’s toolbox?

As a reminder, these are things that bring you joy, or allow you to reset yourself in life in one way or another. Some are escapes that allow you the grace to have time until you’re able to process deeper or to allow your mind a bit of time to recalculate to what’s next; other things are tools and resources that allow you to do the deeper work - like this podcast, my workshops, or doing coaching work with me. As always, I’d love for you to share what you use in your life’s toolbox for either moment in life - use that Google voice number to share, or DM me!

Today, I’m going to share something I use to help me focus - which I need more often than you would probably guess. I’m using one now, or I was, as I was planning this episode -  and that is focus audio is what I’ll call it: for me that looks like brown noise I listen to on YouTube or the deep focus playlist on Spotify - which I was introduced to by the wonderful Alesia Galati. Thank you for sharing that on Instagram ages ago, Alesia. It has helped me get through more than a few work days and projects! 

My listener, have you listened to that playlist? Definitely check it out.

00:13:58

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Let’s find the funny!

[giggles from others] 

I have to do this one. I know. But I have to. It’s the lawyer with the cat filter. I caught this one early on and did a reaction video on TikTok, shared it on Instagram and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve watched this video and still laugh. I truly hope the man behind the cat filter knows how much joy he has brought the world. I’ll put a link to my reaction in the show notes!

00:13:59

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What I Wish My  Parents Knew

Your young adult or adult children might want a bit more independence in the kitchen. If you do all of the cooking and meals are scheduled, they might want to feed themselves, use the oven between meals, and cook late at night. It might be worth a discussion to see how they can gain a bit more independence in the kitchen while respecting your needs.

This is based on, what else? Yep, comments left on my TikTok videos, of course. 

00:14:55

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Two Questions for You

Question 1:  Was the tombstone talk too much? 

and Question 2:  Is this the week you call in and share something with my podcast audience? 

As always, I provide content to make you think, my empty nest friend.

My HOPE is that I’m able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life.

If you enjoy this podcast please don’t forget to share it with others, it’s the best way to allow it to reach a wider audience. And of course, follow or subscribe in your favorite podcast app!

I plan to be back with episode 131 in two weeks. In the meantime, you have 129 other episodes, from me, to catch up on, or to relisten to. And with that, don’t you dare forget, that you are amazing!

See ya!

0015:53

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129: Potholes of Life, Your College Student Wants an Apartment, Wins and More💚

129: Potholes of Life, Your College Student Wants an Apartment, Wins, and More 💚

Hello, my amazing friend!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"How do you react when you notice the potholes of your life? Do you notice them? Are you conscious enough in your thinking to consider that you may have seen this one before and it’s time to learn how to work around it?"

Take a listen or read the full transcript at the bottom of this post.

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Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 01:00 Intro
  • 02:17 My Wish For You Today
  • 02:39 New Things: Potholes, A Month Off, Daughter is Back to School and February Coaching Opportunity
  • 06:10 Ask Coach Christine: "My child wants to move to an apartment close to their campus and their classes are online. Why?"
  • 08:55 I need my morning reset time
  • 10:27 On Clubhouse
  • 11:40 Celebrate You & Your Wins: Thanks to my TikTok friends for their contributions
  • 13:06 What's in Your Life's Toolbox? 
  • 13:52 Let's Find the Funny! 
  • 13:59 Your Children Want to Feel Heard
  • 15:06 Two Questions for You
  • 15:53 Bloopers
  • 16:02 Still Listening? 

Episode Questions for You To Consider

  1. Do you have potholes where you live?
  2. Will you check in with your children this week and make some time to really listen? 

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Episode 129 of the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast

00:00:00

Christine: Hi, I’m Coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast and we’re on episode #129.  If you are new here, know that I tend to use terms I’ve introduced in prior episodes. Should you feel a bit lost - use my show notes for best places to begin!

In this episode, I talk about potholes: in Pennsylvania - and in life,  what your child wants you to know, we celebrate the wins of others, and more!

I appreciate that you pressed play on this episode, today. Let’s do this thing. 

[happy music under voiceover]

This podcast is my gift to you: a parent adjusting to the idea of an empty nest - or possibly a student who's wondering how your parents are feeling about you heading out on your own. These podcast episodes will have a base of life coaching infused with reminders to cheer yourself on and maybe with a dash of my alter ego, Sally (the hotline video operator), popping in from time to time. I’m here to remind you that you should be your own biggest fan!

[end happy music]

00:01:00

My friend, I know how valuable your time is and please know that every moment you spend with me, here, is appreciated. I’m sending you positive thoughts through the airwaves. I hope that you find value, humor, or something new to consider for your life as you listen. You’ll find a list of episode topics and time markers on where they appear in my show notes, should you want to hop around - or return to a segment later! Don’t forget that you are invited - yes you - to submit to any section of these episodes by leaving me a message (text or audio) - on my google voice number: That’s 1-920-LIFEWIN or (1-920-543-3946). You’ll find it in my shownotes.

All of my offerings, podcast show notes, transcriptions of the episodes, and more can be found on my website: Your Empty Nest Coach.com. This show is sponsored by me - and all things Your Empty Nest Coach, so to keep it going strong be sure to subscribe to this podcast in your favorite podcast player AND if you like something you hear, don’t forget to share it on the socials so others may learn about it. Thanks!

 00:02:17

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My Wish for You Today 

My beautiful friend, my wish for you, today is that you are able to enjoy the journey that is your life. That you become quickly aware of wrong turns, detours, and potholes as your progress, and learn to navigate around them without unnecessary drama. 

00:02:39

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New Things. New Things. New Things!

I have four new things to share with you today! 

  1. First up is potholes. Yes, I said potholes. Do you live in an area that is prone to potholes? We live in eastern Pennsylvania and potholes are a given where I live. They are so commonplace that yes, you could find yourself in a discussion of something like this:  “Did that pothole get you on Main street today?” “Oh, I just missed it.”  “What about that one on so and so road?” --- someone overhears and joins in - “Whoa, THAT one is a doozy!” They’re a reality here. And we get used to them. Oh, we don’t like them and sometimes they’ll cause a flat tire but most of the time, they cause a bit of a scare or jolt the first time you notice a new one.  Depending on the size of it, you may remember it the next time you drive that road. Sooner or later, you just know it’s there and safely drive around it - at least I hope you do it safely.  If you happen to live in Pennsylvania, did you know that you can report potholes by calling 1-800-FIX-ROAD?  It’s true!

Anyway, this is me here and of course I’m using potholes as an analogy for your life. What potholes are in your life? 

Maybe you’re trying to avoid certain foods but there is one place that you go that tempts you too much. Or maybe it is a human in your life that seems to bring out a level of drama for you - or maybe even a behavior in you that you aren’t proud of. I’m not saying humans are potholes - but more of what situations - what happenings of your life feel like potholes. How do you react when you notice them? Do you notice them? Are you conscious enough in your thinking to consider that you may have seen this one before and it’s time to learn how to work around it - Yes, this is another great leveling up opportunity for your life.  I leave you with this - consider for your next frustrating moment in your life - try mentally labeling it (yeah, silently) as a pothole, and see if you can make a note on how you got there and possibly how to avoid it in the future. 

This may bring up more questions than answers but you know I like to do that. 

00:04:52

  1. My second new thing is that, oh my goodness, I had a 4-week gap between my last episode and this one and the world didn’t end. Not only did the world not end, but I’m having more fun and seeing more growth organically as a whole as I have time to invest in other areas online. I’m ready and excited to create this new episode. I’m not creating it because,”sigh, I have to - its got to come out on Friday.” I’m creating it because I want to  - mostly because I am here to serve you - my listener, and I want to give you the best energy that I have, and this right now, right here, this makes my heart happy. See? I’m enjoying the journey.

00:05:32

  1. My third new thing is that our daughter is back on campus! This is a really good thing for her. Of course, we miss her here at home but we are excited for her as she - oh my goodness - wraps up her undergraduate career. Here we go! [giggles]

00:05:48

  1. My fourth and final new thing is that I have only one spot open in February for 1:1 Private Coaching. The start date is February 15th. Yes, just one spot, so don’t wait to snag that spot if you want it. That’s six weeks of coaching over zoom, and through text. I share resources for you along the way and encourage you. I’d love to work with you. 

00:06:10

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Ask Coach Christine

I was recently asked this question: 

My child wants to move to an apartment close to their campus. They have all online classes. Why?

And my response?

I can guess why. You can guess why, but my recommendation would be to listen to their reasons why. Really Listen. Take deep breaths. And Listen. Don’t try to solve. Listen. You’re going to notice a theme in this episode today. [giggle] Most college-age students expected a certain level of freedom by now in their life and they may not be able to get that due to their current living situation. It might just be they fall into being YOUR child more than they fall into being who they are as a human, just because they're with people who have known their whole life as YOUR child. They may behave differently when they are with you than when they are on their own. They might just seek more privacy. They could wanna eat PB&J at 3 AM and not have anyone on their case. 

Financial matters aside, first is the emotional why. Getting to a place where you can have a conversation about it by, maybe, remembering how you felt at their age so that the financial part may be discussed (if need be) in a loving manner. 

So, was that answer vague enough to frustrate you? [giggle] Look, you love your child. Let that love shine through more than your fear of losing them. The fear will cause more of a rift in your relationship than love will. Always choose love. Choose being on their side. Consider that maybe this move might be healthy for everyone involved. 

Ultimately, you’ll need to do thought-work around this for yourself. And you also need to separate who you are from your role as your child’s parent, as i’s been up to now. Meaning, it’s changing. You don’t disappear when the role changes. The role changes, and you get to change with it. Change can be scary but it also can be good. You are still an incredible amazing human whether your child lives at home, lives on campus, out of state, or overseas - it just gets a bit scarier  - there’s less you can control and - yeah - sometimes it is scary to spend more time with yourself. I get it. I want you to know that you aren’t alone and you, my friend, are worth figuring out who you are and who you want to be going forward.

00:08:41

If you have a question you want me to focus on in an upcoming episode, use that google voice number 1-920-LIFEWIN. Leave a voicemail message or text your question to me. I consider all submissions.

00:08:55

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My Lessons Learned 

What have I learned recently? Look, I do have my sh*t together most of the time. Most days of the year, I wake up knowing what my plan is for the day, with a schedule, and even a buffer, yes, for things that took a little longer than I expected. I already know typically what my top three things for the day are for the day. I also usually spend some time in the morning setting myself up mentally for the day: reminding myself of what is important, checking my thoughts about things, and reviewing the day ahead. 

Well, over the last few weeks, I got a bit lazy. I had one day where I even skipped my morning routine completely to watch an episode of survivor. Super indulgent for me, and I didn’t feel guilty when I did it. But what I discovered later is how important those few minutes of my morning reset - how important they are for me. I found myself run by my protector on the days where I skipped those moments in the morning. Some days my protector really ran the show. Typically, those are the days when I lose my cool the fastest, or I feel others “pushing my buttons” so to speak all day long. 

So, my lesson learned for me personally is how much I really need that time in the day. And I believe that I- it’s okay for me to miss it in the morning - I’m not going to be miserable. But now I’m in tune with how much extra mental work I’ll need as I progress throughout the day.  Yes, I’m going to dig into that life’s toolbox a little more often on days like that. 

00:10:27

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Christine? Christine? Christine where are you? 

Clubhouse. Yes, I made it to Clubhouse and have been hosting (or moderating) rooms by myself and with others on topics such as: podcasting, decluttering, and morning resets and affirmations. If you are on Clubhouse, I invite you to follow me, and most of my sessions are at 7 - either 7AM or 7 PM EST. Don’t have a clue what I’m talking about? DM me on the socials and I’ll fill you in. I also have some invites. If I know we are aligned, I’m happy to send you an invite. 

An extra thing I’ve been doing on Clubhouse, TikTok and Instagram are these new 5-Minute encouragement bomb sessions where I pop in for five minutes to remind you how amazing you are. Never scheduled. As time allows and they’ve have been super fun -  highly energizing for me. 

As always, you may check out my Media & Press page on my website YourEmptyNestCoach.com for a list of all of my guest appearances. 

00:11:40

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Celebrating You and Your Wins [sound] 

This was fun! I asked some of my TikTok friends if I could share some of the wins they shared with me, last week -  with you, and they all said, “YES!” You know how I love to celebrate both big AND small wins. Sometimes, the smaller the better because it is all progress, and it all counts!!!!

So here are wins that we are celebrating today: 

Sloppyspacefish shared, “I called the pharmacy today and found out that I can still get the covid vaccine while on my meds!”

Angel.Macarthur said, “I ate today!”

Layla.and.dabo shared, “I finished my timed AP english essay I was really stressed about!” 

Sundaymalkmus had a win: Going to an in real life dance class at 7! and yeah,  I followed up on - and they said it was “Great!”

And erienne.shwan shared, “I passed the quiz I barely studied for.” 

Thank you all for sharing your wins. I’m so proud of you. I’m cheering you on. Please give yourself a pat on the back, and thank you for letting me share your wins with my audience here. 

Now, my listener, don’t forget to share your win with us - you may send it to me in my DMs or use my google voice number, yes, in the show notes... We’d all love to hear you share your own win in your own voice, too. I’d love that. Who's gonna  be first? 

00:13:06

[computer game level up music (short)] 

What’s in your life’s toolbox? 

As a reminder, these are things that bring you joy, or allow you to reset yourself in life in one way or another. Some are escapes that allow you the grace to have time until you’re able to process deeper or to allow your mind a bit of time to recalculate to what’s next. Anything that brings me more into the “now” as Eckhart Tolle would say, works for me. Sometimes just laying on the floor and spending time with the cat is just what I need. What do you use for these moments? Yeah, I’m going to invite you to share with me - use that Google voice number. Can I say it again?

[whispers] Hey, use the Google voice number.

We’d love to know what you use because that benefits others.

You’re amazing!

00:13:52

[computer game level up music (short)] 

Let’s find the funny!

[giggles from others] 

Bernie Sanders memes. That’s all I have to say. 

00:13:59

[computer game level up music (short)] 

What I Wish My  Parents Knew

Parents, your children want to feel heard and listened to - not they talk at you while you are on your phone - or doing the dishes. No, they want to feel heard. They don’t need you to solve everything for them - let them ask for that. I recently had a comment on TikTok that was both sweet and heart-breaking, the gist of it was that I, me - Coach Christine  - I’m the only adult in this young person’s life that shows any sympathy for what they’re going through.  Whoo.

I’m not sharing this with you to have you spin into a state of guilt or shame. More to just consider that maybe you - and me - all of us - can listen to our children better. It's super easy for us, as adults, with all of our adult responsibilities to forget that our kids are having a tough time too. So, maybe ask your children this week, “Hey I really want to know how you are. Really. No, really. And I’m here to listen, not solve.” 

00:15:05

[happy music (short)] 

Two Questions for You

Question 1:  Do you have potholes where you live? 

and Question 2:  So, will you check in with your children this week and make some time to really listen?

As always, I provide content to make you think, my empty nest friend.

My HOPE is that I’m able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life.

If you enjoy this podcast please don’t forget to share it with others, it’s the best way to allow it to reach a wider audience. And of course, subscribe in your favorite podcast app!

Well, it is time for me to go and that means, yes, it’s time to remind you that you are amazing!

See ya!

0015:53

[bloopers]

00:16:04

Still listening? 

Come on, those Bernie memes. So good! And he’s so cool that he created meme merch that raised 1.8 million dollars for Vermont charities - and I love reading what the photographer had to say about the photo - that it captured one specific moment, he usually doesn’t love those types of photos but he liked his mittens. That’s some good stuff. And now I’m off to look for some more Bernie memes that I haven’t seen.

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128: Welcome to 2021, Podcast Updates, What Your Children Want You to Know & More 💚

128: Podcast Updates,  2021, Something Your Child(ren) Want You To Know, and More 💚

Hello, my amazing friend. 

A new episode, a totally new format, and 2021 has already shown it isn't giving us a break. Should you feel overwhelmed, I recorded this message to give you permission to reset yourself, rather than typing a whole bunch of stuff here.

As always, I'm cheering you on. I can't wait to see the work you do in your life to allow you to make a difference in your own life, the life of your loved ones, and in the world. 

I'll be back in February with my next episode - more on that when you listen to this one. 😉

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"I want to tell you now, if you’ve never heard it before, you are not responsible for your parents’ emotions."

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  • 00:56 Intro
  • 01:35 My Wish For You Today
  • 02:06 New Things: The quote I'm focusing on this year, enjoying the journey of life, picking one social media outlet, new podcast structure & my daughter heads back to campus
  • 08:00 Ask Coach Christine: "How do u tell your crazy over-obsessive mom you're moving out at 19?"
  • 12:01 My Lessons Learned: You don't earn a response from me just by commenting.
  • 12:35 Where's Christine? In a documentary and a magazine!
  • 13:21 Celebrate You & Your Wins
  • 14:35 What's in Your Life's Toolbox? 
  • 15:15 Let's Find the Funny! 
  • 16:09 What I Wish My Parents Knew - Have a student with online classes? This one is for you.
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Episode 128 of the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast


00:00:00

Christine: Hi, It’s coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast and this is episode #128.  If you are new here, know that I tend to use terms I’ve introduced in prior episodes. Should you feel a bit lost - use my show notes for best places to begin!

In this episode, I return from a six week break from my regular episodes and share all of the changes, thoughts and updates with you. 

Welcome to 2021, my amazing friend!

[happy music under voiceover]

This podcast is my gift to you: a parent adjusting to the idea of an empty nest - or possibly a student who's wondering how your parents are feeling about you heading out on your own. These podcast episodes will have a base of life coaching infused with reminders to cheer yourself on and maybe with a dash of my alter ego, Sally (the hotline video operator), popping in from time to time. I’m here to remind you that you should be your own biggest fan!

[end happy music]

00:00:56

I’m incredibly thankful for you. Thanks for taking the time to listen to this episode today. You know me, I don’t like to waste your time, but I do have a bunch of topics to cover today. If all goes as planned, I’ll be sure to post topics and time markers in my show notes, should you want to skip around.

As always, all of my offerings, podcast show notes and more can be found on my website: Your Empty Nest Coach dot com. This show is sponsored by me - and all things Your Empty Nest Coach, so to keep it going strong be sure to subscribe to this podcast in your favorite podcast player AND if you like something you hear, share it on the socials so others may learn about it. Thanks!

  

00:01:35

[computer game level up music (short)] 

My Wish for You Today 

My beautiful friend, my wish for you, today is that you are able to take things you have learned in 2020 and allow them to guide you in 2021. That you continue (or begin to) observe the thought-deliveries in your mind in a loving way so that you - YOU - are not bullying yourself with your thoughts. Notice those thoughts, observe them, question them and toss the ones that don’t serve you. It is never ending work but it is powerful. 

00:02:06

[computer game level up music (short)] 

New Things. New Things. New Things!

Well, these sections are new things - you know how I love to level-up?  So, I used a level up sound for video games - it felt appropriate. This section is going to be on the longer side than I plan for it to normally to be, since it’s been a while since I’ve shared with you: 

First, you might like to know the quote that I’m focusing on in 2021 is “pay more attention to the silence than the sounds.” It is from Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now. If you’ve been listening to me for a while, you already know I’m a huge fan of this book. I love it so much that I’m sharing my current read through with my TikTok audience - and it started this Monday - so if you want to join in, pick up the book. I’ll be posting reading assignments on Mondays; will go live later that day to discuss and will chat in the comments about it. So much fun!

ANYWAY, back to the quote: “pay more attention to the silence than the sounds,” in an effort to keep this at the forefront of my mind, I’m going to share anything new I observe in regards to that quote throughout the year with you. I’ve already imagined how it applies to my workplace, in conversations and to listening in general. I’ll update you on new lessons learned specific to this quote throughout the year!

00:03:26

My second “new thing,” is that outside of the quote above, I’m also focused on having a deep desire to enjoy the journey that is my life. Not to live in past moments - or to wait for the future but to have peace in every moment that moves me from one moment to the next. 

There are some things that I HAVE to do, such as go to work, do my taxes, and chores, and everything else should bring me peace, joy or move me forward in my life. If it doesn’t, then I’m tossing it. 

I’ve already started. I’ve made the decision to focus on ONE social media outlet for the start of 2021. My online home of choice is TikTok, right now, so if you are on Instagram wondering where I am - well, now you know. I’ve put in a solid two years on Instagram and it doesn’t bring me the joy that TikTok does.

That’s a funny thing to say at my age. 

But it sure is fun!

As always, I give myself permission to change my mind at any time, and if I feel happy to post something on another social media outlet, I will! BUT I won’t do it out of obligation that “since I have a podcast, I need to be in all the places.” 

Nah, I’m good with slower growth if that is what it means. 

I’ve ALSO let go of the GPS Support Flock - and spent much of the last six weeks re-evaluating everything that is Your Empty Nest Coach. I like where I’ve landed for the start of this year and you might like it too. 

00:04:58

High-level, I’ve created two years of content with my podcast, workshops, and flock offerings that I now, as time allows, will be transforming them into smaller workshops - $5 or less workshops. Seriously.

I’m all about helping you on your journey. And as I have time and as I feel led, I’ll continue to add more workshops. My first one has been posted and it is “Why Resolutions Don’t work and How to Get Your Goals to Stick” you can purchase it now for $5 - OR insider information - if you sign up for my free seven-lesson finding your future-self class, you’ll have an option to purchase that same workshop for only $2.50! I’m not kidding. I’m in the US, so these are USD prices. 

What all of these changes allow me to do is to focus on a handful of one-one one coaching clients per quarter. And I enjoy that one-on-one work tremendously. So, if you think you are interested in that - my first session is- actually already booked [giggle]  -so, you’re gonna need my second session starting February 1st and I have some crazy-low early bird pricing. When it is gone, it’s gone, so don’t hesitate if you’ve been considering working with me! 

I have the details on my website - actually currently it is still in a google doc - but I do have a link to a quiz there that you can take to see if you’d be ready for private coaching with me. 

00:06:28

And now we’re onto number three in what’s new: Well you’ve probably noticed, my podcast episode structure is new. I’m working on really making this my own AND I’d like to make it more yours as well. Please don’t hesitate to make a submission to any section of these podcast episodes via my google voice number, which you’ll find in my show notes. 

You’ll see I’m trying some new sections and guess what, I’ll keep the ones that I enjoy creating.

Fourth in What’s New: I more than likely won’t be posting a new podcast episode every Friday. I’m planning for every other week but with my new outlook on life, it might be every third week in one quarter and weekly in the next. And if I’m super busy with work, coaching and my family, I might take a month off. 

Don’t worry. I’m not leaving you entirely - just keeping my priorities straight and I have quite a backlog of episodes for you to listen to! 

Outside of these new things, I’ve been sent a few books that I might review at some point, but we shall see.

Oh, and guess who I take back to campus tomorrow. Yes, darling daughter - the advantages of a small college. Well, as of recording this she’s scheduled to go back - I’m having a bit of deja vu here - not that that surprises me. It’s been lovely having her home - we didn’t leave the house much at all and luckily this house of introverts are okay with that.

And that wraps up everything new here that is worth sharing. 

00:08:00

[computer game level up music (short)] 

Ask Coach Christine

I was asked this question on TikTok: How do u tell your crazy over obsessive mom you’re moving out at 19? 

And with that, I thought it would be nice to share my response which came in three parts - and could be a full podcast episode series, but with a one minute limitation per video, I had to be super choosy about what I shared. I also addressed it as focusing on any difficult conversation.

Here’s my response:

If you are labeling your mother (or another human that you are having a difficult conversation with) with words such as crazy or over-obsessed, those are words that you won’t want to go into the conversation with in your head because that’s going to already have you in a defensive mode.

You want to get to a point where you’re thinking of your parent - or the person you’re having the conversation with as whatever’s going on in their head, they’re trying to understand what you’re saying - they’re trying to see that you have already worked through the situation, that you have the answers to the questions that they ask, that you’ve already done the research. Go into the conversation assuming that they really want to be on your team - whether that is true or not doesn’t matter but you’re going to go into the conversation in a much better frame of mind to have the conversation.

00:09:19

Remember as you do this that no one likes difficult conversations - well maybe a select few love conflict but I’m certainly not one of them. Do your work ahead of time to figure out your why: what you’re doing and what your boundaries are in the conversation, and then when you state them, come to the conversation in love. Practice it, dictate it, write it, say it again - when you say it alone in your room and you get anxious and you start to think that when you say this they may yell at you or you feel they’re going to feel something that causes them to react a certain way, work through the thoughts that you have there. Change wording and remind yourself that if they get tense, it comes from concern and worry, and then work through it calmly.

If you can come to the conversation in love - in a place of love for you - you’re doing something lovingly for yourself to move forward in life and feed that (all that love for yourself) into the conversation through everything rather than getting angry or defensive, it will help. 

And, the final part of my answer may not be one parents want out there but it is the truth, so, here we go: 

I want to tell you now if you’ve never heard it before, you are not responsible for your parents’ emotions. They may tell you that they’re sad because of what you’ve done. That’s on them.

That is their emotional work to do. 

You are responsible for your choices in life: for the emotional work you do in your mind to move forward in a positive way to become who you are meant to be but you are not responsible for their reaction. We could have five families who have children in the same situation - it could be anything from an F on a test to they’re in jail and you could have/see five different emotional responses from those parents on that same situation. 

Again, their reaction and emotions are not on you - that’s them.

So, keep that in mind. Set your boundaries - I call it a fence. Keep that stuff outside of your fence. 

00:11:28

So there you go, a Coach Christine answer in under three minutes. 

If you have a question you want me to focus on in an upcoming episode, use that google voice number. And, of course, for this one, I knew it was someone who is already a legal adult. I had to go with the assumption that they are able to support themself on their own, understand the financial ramifications, medical insurance and such, and hopefully, if they don’t understand the life skills needed, the conversation with their parent (or other human) approached with love will help work those details out. 

00:12:01

[computer game level up music (short)] 

My Lessons Learned 

What have I learned recently? I’ve learned that just because you comment on my video doesn’t mean you have earned yourself a response from me. I do my best to respond to everyone but there are some that leave random comments that if they had watched more than one of my videos, they would have figured out the answer for themselves. I’ve decided that if someone can’t spend more than 30-seconds to a minute to get to know  me, then I certainly don’t need to spend my time responding to them. If you have a social media account, maybe that will help you, too!

00:12:35

[quirky music under segment]

Christine? Christine? Christine where are you? 

I honestly can’t remember if I shared about the documentary that I’m in or not. Well, if I did, here it is again. You’ll find it on Amazon Prime, and it is titled, “The Overly Emotional Child.” While geared toward parents with younger children, any parent will learn something in this guide for understanding child emotions and behavior and what you can do to improve both. 

I also recently was on the cover and included in the Living Day By Day Community Magazine - the January/February 2021 issue. So honored! 

Links to both will be in my show notes, and you’ll find all of my appearances listed on my Media & Press page.

00:13:21

[computer game level up music (short)]  

Celebrate You & Your Wins [sound] 

I’d like this section to be all about your wins, so submit yours today - yes, that Google voice number. We  also do this on Wednesday’s on TikTok. My win for the week is that I started working on this episode on Saturday and if it made it to anyone’s ears by Friday, that is a HUGE win because almost everything about this episode is new which meant a fair amount of behind the scenes editing for me. And this is no joke at this point because on Tuesday I woke up to find that two hours of my work is gone. So, if someone is listening to this the way I intended it, I’m going to celebrate and take the month off. I’m excited about the changes. Whether they stick or not doesn’t matter, it is all about leveling-up which sometimes means a do-over or two. I have a whole episode about leveling up - it’s number 35, if you want to check it out.  

00:14: 23

[computer game level up music (short)] 

What’s in your life’s toolbox? 

It’s so easy to get stuck on our go-to tools in our life’s toolbox - the things that allow us to reset, that bring us peace, that get us to the place where we can do the real work digging deeper in life. I’d love for you to share what you have in the top of your life’s toolbox so others may consider it. What hobby or task for you adds peace to your life and allows you to reset? 

For me, I love nature. Sometimes I go outside and lay on the ground. When the weather doesn’t permit, I’ll lay on the floor in the house and hope it does the job. As I age, though, getting up from the floor isn’t as easy as it used to be but that reset is lovely for me. Wondering what I’m talking about with the life’s toolbox? Check out episode #88!

00:15:15

[computer game level up music (short)] 

Let’s find the funny!

[giggles from others] 

This is another new section of my podcast where I share with you something that has made me laugh recently because I love to find the funny in things, and it feels so freaking good to laugh. I’m going to try my best not to make these all TikTok videos but the good news is you don’t need a TikTok account to view TikTok videos! 

So, this week, I am going to share a TikTok video that made me laugh out loud but the follow-up video is just as amusing. That being said I’ll post both links in my show notes - honestly, by now it may have made its way to prime time and Good Morning America and you may have already seen it but it is the photo that Kyle Scheele made for his father for Christmas using his photoshop skills. It is fabulous! Thanks for the chuckles Kyle! And if you, my listener, have something you think will make me laugh, please share it with me!

00:16:09

[computer game level up music (short)] 

What I Wish My Parents Knew

Another new section, and I’m actively looking for submissions. For now, I’ll share a comment I received on a video - the comment and thread for the comment has over 34 THOUSAND likes so I feel confident that this is something students want their parents to know, and I’ll summarize it from a few different comments. 

High-level, it is safe to say that many teenagers and young adults who are doing online classes at home - be it high school or college - they want their parents to know that taking care of their siblings, cleaning the house and all-the-things are tough to do while in school - online school does not mean they have the day off. 

So if you happen to have a student that’s been home since March doing online school, probably, they’re not very happy about it and if you’re expecting them to do a ton of other stuff - just keep in mind: would you ask them to do that if they were in school all day. 

There you go, that’s what they want parents to know.

00:17:08

[happy music (short)] 

Two Questions for You

Question 1:  What will you submit to an upcoming episode? 

and Question 2:  What new section (or sections) resonate with you the most? 

As always, I provide content to make you think, my empty nest friend.

My HOPE is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life.

If you enjoy this podcast please don’t forget to share it with others, it’s the best way to allow it to reach a wider audience. And of course, subscribe in your favorite podcast app!

Before I go, never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever forget that you are ah-mazing!

See ya!

0017:57

[bloopers]

00:18:15

Still listening? 

The Queen's Gambit. Did you love it? Have you watched it? We did and I loved it. If I had more free time, I’d be learning how to play chess. 

[end music]

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122 – 127: Holiday/Winter Break Episodes 💚

122 - 127: Holiday/Winter Break Episodes 💚

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend,

I hope 

  • You are wrapping up 2020 and heading into 2021 by managing your thought-box deliveries well
  • Your family is healthy and safe
  • You know (or are working) to know your future-self
  • You realize (or are beginning to realize) how powerful you are

I'll be adding resources and podcast episode players to this post for episodes in the remainder of the year. 

I have 121 prior episodes that are (mostly) in line with my usual format. Click here to view all of them, or head to the Search This Site menu at the top of this page and type in what you are looking for!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"I am on a short break from my usual episodes until after the new year, but I didn’t want to leave you hanging, so I’ve prerecorded these quick episodes."

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EPISODE 122

[happy intro music]

00:00:00

Hi, It’s coach Christine. 

This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, and I am on a short break from my usual episodes until after the new year, but I didn’t want to leave you hanging, so I’ve pre recorded these quick episodes.

This is the audio from my first Express Coaching Lesson on Instagram Reels. Yes, that means there is video to go with it. Check the show notes. Have a listen:

00:00:22

[acoustic guitar music under voiceover]

[doorbell] 

Realizing that my thoughts were optional was life changing for me. I like to think of them now, as thought-deliveries. When they show up in our mind, it is kind of like a house: we can keep the package, [knock at the door]sort it, or flat-out return to sender.

[end background music]

00:00:38

My last episode before break was 121, so if you are new here, I invite you to check it out. I’ll have a link to that episode in my show notes as well as anything else I have referenced.

Enjoy your time with your family, and if you have any questions, quick tips, thoughts,  or want to see all of my offerings, visit my website YourEmptyNestCoach.com. Of course, the flock is still flying and I may have some VIP Intensive Coaching spots still open. I invite you to check it all out - and don’t forget to enjoy yourself today. YOU ARE AMAZING! 

[outro music]

EPISODE 123

00:00:00

[happy intro music]

Hi, It’s coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, and I am on a short break from my usual episodes until after the new year, but I didn’t want to leave you hanging, so I’ve pre-recorded these quick episodes.

This following is the audio from another Reel of mine - discussing the idea of sending a letter to your child which, you know, I really should do one of these days. Ha!

00:00:24

Excuse me, do you know that you can send something smaller to your child away from home? It’s called a letter. 

[speaking quickly]

Write something nice on a piece of paper, put it in an envelope, slap an address and stamp on it, put it in the mailbox, and there you go. [pause]

No, no glitter. 

00:00:38

Have you found the funny recently? I love finding the funny in everything. It easily could be interpreted as I am not serious. Oh, my friend, my constant awareness of how short life can be is what motivates me to have fun.

My last full episode was #121, so if you are new here, I invite you to check it out. I’ll have a link to that episode in my show notes as well as anything else I have referenced.

I hope you are having fun, no matter the happenings in your life. Of course, the GPS Support Flock is still flying and I may have some VIP Intensive Coaching sessions available - be sure to check them out - you’ll find all of the info on my website: YourEmptyNestCoach.com! And don’t forget to find the funny, today. YOU ARE AMAZING! 

[happy exit music]

EPISODES 124

00:00:00

[happy intro music]

Hi, It’s Coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, and I am on a short break from my usual episodes until after the new year, but I didn’t want to leave you hanging, so I’ve pre-recorded these quick episodes.

The following is the audio from an Instagram Reel of mine - a message from your future-self.

00:00:20

Future you has a message for you, part 6. 

Yes, you have to celebrate the small stuff.

It’s what brings you closer to future-you. 

If you don’t know your future-self yet, you should get to know her. 

She’s amazing!

00:00:34

My last full episode was #121, so if you are new here, I invite you to check it out. I’ll have a link to that episode in my show notes as well as anything else I have referenced.

Enjoy your time with your family, and if you have any questions, quick tips, thoughts or want to see all of my offerings, visit my website YourEmptyNestCoach.com. Of course, the flock is still flying and you may want to get in on some VIP Intensive Coaching spots while they’re still open. I invite you to check it all out - and don’t forget to enjoy yourself today. YOU ARE AMAZING! 

[happy exit music]

EPISODE 125

00:00:00

[happy intro music]

Hi, it’s Coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, and I am on a short break from my usual episodes until after the new year, but I didn’t want to leave you hanging, so I’ve pre-recorded these quick episodes -  [record scratch sound] or, so I thought.

Funny story. I had all of the episodes recorded, and then my laptop died - we had to wipe it clean to get it working again. I was relieved when I discovered that, thankfully, I had uploaded all of my recorded episodes to my google drive before that happened. But, guess what, as I went to upload today’s episode - that one was gone: nowhere to be found. 

So, I guess I missed one. Yeah, I said a couple of well-placed curse words, but my body was pretty calm, and my recovery emotionally was quick - even for me. 

00:00:49

I quickly thought, “well, I lost my audacity project files, too,” so this is a chance to get a head start on that. If you don’t know what that means, that’s okay; that comment was for my podcasting friends. 

So, this rogue episode in the midst of the other pre-recorded episodes can serve as a mile marker. 

I’m restructuring all of my offerings - yes, even the flock that I say is still flying - [whispers] it’s not flying right now. This break has provided some much-needed clarity on all things your empty nest coach. 

I hope you are able to get the reset you need this holiday season. Sometimes we choose the reset, like my planned short episodes - and sometimes, it is forced upon us - like my laptop. Either way, remember that by fighting the “what is,” you may not allow yourself to move forward - you probably won’t at all. Understand, see what is, and enjoy the journey to what will be. Be kind to yourself, be patient with yourself, and gift yourself and your loved ones with a tremendous amount of love.

00:01:48

My last full episode was #121, so if you are new here, I invite you to check it out. I’ll have a link to that episode in my show notes. You’ll find information on all of my current offerings and how to work with me on my website: YourEmptyNestCoach.com! 

Resets are what you make them - beginning with what you think they are. Remember, my beautiful friend, that YOU ARE AMAZING! 

[happy exit music]

EPISODE 126

00:00:00

[happy intro music]

Hi, It’s coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, and I am on a short break from my usual episodes until after the new year, but I didn’t want to leave you hanging, so I’ve pre-recorded these quick episodes.

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A quick reminder that your life is a journey. Sometimes, the moments that don’t go [as] expected are the eye-opening, life-changing moments. Appreciate them for what they are, and adjust going forward. I hope this day is one that brings you love, peace and hope for the future, my friend. 

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My last full episode was #121, so if you are new here, I invite you to check it out. I’ll have a link to that episode in my show notes as well as anything else I have referenced.

A reminder that the GPS Support Flock is still flying (yes, even over the holidays) and I may have some VIP Intensive Coaching sessions available  - be sure to check them out - you’ll find all of the info on my website: YourEmptyNestCoach.com! 

Don’t forget in the midst of the routine’s of your life that YOU ARE AMAZING!

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EPISODE 127

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[happy intro music]

Hi, It’s coach Christine. This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, and I am currently on a short break. This is my last episode in the short break series. I didn’t want to leave you hanging, so I’ve pre recorded these quick episodes.

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Happy New Year, my future empty nest friend, and CEO of Your Life - Yes, that stands for Conscious Effective Olympian around here. I had a frustrating experience, recently. It was so incredibly frustrating that it took me two weeks for me to train my protector enough to tell some others about it, and even then, I could feel my protector wanting to take over. It was a huge ego strike - I totally knew it. 

00:00:40

In relation to something else for my daughter, my dear friend, Beth Flint, and my editor , “Hi, Beth,” [giggle] said, “Have her practice this statement, and use it when necessary:

I may be a woman, I may be ____(something here, like blonde), I may be ___years old, but I am not stupid.

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So, for me: I may be a woman, I may be blonde, I may be 49 years old, but I’m not stupid.

I LOVE this. Definitely used sparingly, and at the right time, it is a fantastic reminder to others. 

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Sometimes we are overlooked due to our age, our gender, our marital status, our eating habits, our race, our politics, our hair color, our job title or any other huge or small thing that another human decides to (knowingly or not) make assumptions about us. 

Sometimes (not always), those said humans have no idea they are making those assumptions - yes, unconscious bias in all forms. 

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I don’t know about you, but I can’t wait to use this statement and I know just the place to use it when the timing is right. 

So thank you, Beth.

And for you, my listener, happy 2021. May this year bring you positive experiences and surprises that you never could have dreamed of. I’m cheering you on!

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My last full episode was #121. If you are new here, I invite you to check it out. I’ll have a link to that episode in my show notes as well as anything else I have referenced. I’m scheduled to be back to my regular episodes next week!

A reminder that yes, the GPS Support Flock is still flying (even over the holidays) and I may have some VIP Intensive Coaching sessions available  - be sure to check them out - you’ll find all of the info on my website: YourEmptyNestCoach.com! 

Again, my friend, Happy New Year. YOU ARE AMAZING! 

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121: A Motherhood Memory Book and The Rest of 2020

121: A Motherhood Memory Book and The Rest of 2020

Hello, my ah-mazing empty nest friend,

When this episode goes live, I'll be in my car, traveling to see my daughter's senior art show, and then will bring her home for winter break a couple of days later. Honestly, when she headed off to campus, I did not have high expectations that her school would continue on-campus through Thanksgiving. It is nice to have a pleasant surprise in 2020 - one that requires no major thought work.  

In this episode, I mention the idea of a motherhood memory book and share my podcast plans for the remainder of 2020. 

Be sure to subscribe to my podcast in your favorite podcast player, if you haven't already, as that is the best way to be notified of new episodes. 

I have a feeling I'll be most active on TikTok and then Instagram over the holidays, so I also invite you to follow me there. 

Enjoy time with your family this holiday season, my empty nest friend, and remember that you are amazing!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"... what if we were to create a Motherhood Memory Book that allows us to capture large lessons learned, or celebrate accomplishments that aren’t just our child’s sporting event, scholarship honor, first steps?  Those sorts of things.  What if we created our own Motherhood Memory Book?  Our memories, our lessons learned."

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Episode 121 of the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast


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Christine:  Hi, it’s Coach Christine.  This is my podcast, it’s the Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast and this is episode number 121.  If you are new here, know that I tend to use terms I’ve introduced in prior episodes.  Should you feel a bit lost, use my show notes for best places to begin.  In this episode, I share a thought about creating a motherhood memory book and I explain what the episodes for the remainder of 2020 will look like.  I work with mothers of high school students and beyond, who are in the trenches with sad and possibly, overwhelming thoughts about what their life will look like when their baby heads to college and begins to leave the nest.  My clients’ big question is what will I do with my time?  Is this you?  I’ve been there, and I get it.  Empowering you to write the next jaw-dropping, amazing chapter in your life is my passion.  I am energized by leading you in the process of exploration and am thrilled when you unlock the power that lies within you.  This podcast is my gift to you.

00:01:04

Hello, my future empty nest friend and Conscious Effective Olympian, or CEO of your life!  You are doing a great job.  Keep going.  You may not be receiving daily thank you notes or flower bouquets, but the work, whatever that is for you, in your life, is worth it.  Go, you!  Show notes for this episode have links to anything I discuss that is linkable, and of course, you’ll find all sorts of fun stuff, and ways to work with me on my website: YourEmptyNestCoach.com.  If you enjoy this episode, I invite you to subscribe to this podcast, and to consider joining the GPS Support Flock. What is that? I’m so glad you asked; take a listen.

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Thanks!  Thank you!  It’s time to thank our sponsor.  This episode is sponsored by my membership community, The GPS Support Flock; Your Flight to Success in the Empty Nest.  If you are ready to find the GPS of your life, sign up to receive an immediate and free download of my PDF, "How to Find Yourself in the Empty Nest," our GPS Life Principles document.  You will also have the opportunity to learn about our community.  See the link in this episode's show notes or fly on over to my website, YourEmptyNestCoach.com.  Click the GPS Support Flock button.  See you soon!

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I had this thought about scrapbooks or memory books, which is pretty funny because I’ve never been a big scrapbooker in the traditional sense.  I was a tad overboard when my daughter was young, but even that was in a different way.  I knew I wasn’t sending her to preschool, so I felt I needed to document more, and then it continued in early elementary school, and then, yeah, I got lazy.  Anyway, I was thinking about how we have scrapbooks for times in our lives. For me, it feels like it’s mostly moments.  As mothers, we tend to make a baby album for our first child.  I know it’s common that by the third child that concept disappears, and I totally get it.  But we’ll also have scrapbooks maybe for a year, for birthdays, or vacations.

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Yes, while that all represents part of our life, what if we were to create a Motherhood Memory Book that allows us to capture large lessons learned, or celebrate accomplishments that aren’t just our child’s sporting event, scholarship honor, first steps?  Those sorts of things.  What if we created our own Motherhood Memory Book?  Our memories, our lessons learned.  So what if?  

To start, try to find 3 - 5 moments in your journey as a mother that changed your thinking, that opened your eyes, or taught you something.

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Let me tell you the first three things that came to mind for me.  The day that my daughter graduated high school, and for me, it wasn’t about her graduation (sorry, honey), as much as it was for all that I accomplished, despite so many people nay-saying our journey along the way.  It wasn’t the moment she was in her cap and gown.  It was the moment we left her homeschool evaluator’s home, got in the car, and sitting in the driveway, I knew we had made it to this milestone.  That my belief and trust in what was right for our daughter proved to be true, even if the moment hits you when you are parked in a car, in a driveway.  

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The second thing I thought of, and I’m not even sure what photo I would put this, but there definitely was a moment when my daughter was quite young, that the epiphany of my parents being just as clueless as I felt in that moment, hit me.  It is so easy when you look back at life, or as you go through life when you’re a teenager, to think my parents this or my parents that, but when you realize we are all making it up as we go, navigating life out of the experiences we have had to date, and seeing your parents in a new way, it’s impactful.

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The third thing I came up with was, I’d have to say my husband’s cancer diagnosis.  Weird right?  But we gained knowledge about ourselves as a small family, and about others through his diagnosis and treatments.  It gave me an appreciation for life in a way that I otherwise may be oblivious to.  Life is short, we have no guarantees and each day is a gift.  Having to look at it when you have a young child, also puts an imprint on your life that isn’t easily forgotten.

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So, what I’m thinking is this whole Motherhood Memory Book idea would be a gift to yourself, to commemorate you, to celebrate you.  Maybe you started a business.  Yes, I’d put that in there.  Maybe you navigated so many years at home as the primary caregiver, and you were taking care of your parents.  Maybe you managed to go back to college while you were doing all this.  What are things, when you look back, you’re really proud of, that you, you have done?  What would you want the next generation to know about you?  I think that becomes really powerful.

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Imagine this as a beautiful celebratory gift to yourself, whether it’s a scrapbook or an online photo book that you create.  Call it your graduation book.  Graduating into the next chapter of your life.  I’ve started an online store; I’ll put a link in the show notes if I still have it going.  I’m testing it out right now.  But maybe there, we could create graduating class pins or mugs for us.  You know, we’re graduating into the next stage of our life.  Which feels better, graduating out or graduating into something?  I guess that depends on you, huh?  If you like this idea and do something with it, let me know.  If you are thinking, “well, that sounds like a lot of work Christine,” then yeah, I wouldn’t bother.  But it could be a fun small group project, couldn’t it?  Well, if you want in on something like that, let me know.  Imagine having it to capture your highlight reel and then being able to share it with generations to come.

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Before I wrap this episode up, I want to share with you that for the remainder of 2020, I’ll be taking a bit of a break.  I’ll post super quick episodes each Friday.  They’ve all been recorded.  I’ll be focusing on spending time with the family over the holidays.  I plan to return in 2021 with my typical episodes.  Over these weeks, I am, however, in the GPS Support Flock, so if you need support, I invite you to join me there.  Enjoy my quick episodes over the next few weeks.  Enjoy your family.  Be present.  Watch your thought-deliveries, and continue to be amazing! 

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The questions I have for you in this episode are, one, what do you think about the Motherhood Memory Book idea?  Two, are you following me on Instagram yet?  Yes, I’m going to keep asking you that periodically.  As always, I provide content to make you think, my empty nest friend.  My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life.  If you enjoy this podcast don’t forget to share it with others, it is the best way to allow it to reach a wider audience, and subscribe, too.  It’s free.  Thanks!  And, never, ever, ever forget that you are amazing!

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Still listening?  Wow, you are about to have a six week break from my bloopers, my extra promo audios and my still listening sections.  Is that a good thing?  Have fun!

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