Empty Nest Blog: Working Myself Out of A Job

Empty Nest Coach: Working myself out of a job?

As a coach, my goal is to work myself out of a job with a specific client. This is my personal philosophy. I can't speak for all coaches.

Let me explain: You have the answer(s) within yourself. However, you've lived a life of people telling you otherwise and taught (over and over again) to trust others more than yourself. And, wow, it starts young. The good news is that with your willingness to be curious about that, time to process, a safe space to reflect in new ways, AND a heap load of encouragement, I fully believe in your potential to discover your amazingness within.

I believe in YOU.

You discovering and trusting yourself moving forward is much more important to me than getting another (or a) dollar from you. Added bonus: I then have the opportunity to hold space for another fantastic soul - so much fun!

Whether you listen to my podcast (free), Your Empty Nest Coach podcast, do my (free) 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success, or invest in my limited private coaching, I am thrilled to be a small part of your journey on this spinning rock.

Why is this my motivation?  Because I trust and follow my internal guidance, which leads me this way . After all, I do my best to follow what I encourage others to do.

It doesn't mean life is perfect for me. Let's be honest; we all have challenging situations, emotions at odd times, mistakes, etc. - what we do with those happenings makes the difference in our future. Viewing them as learning opportunities and making adjustments allows the journey to continue expansively and can be super fun.

For me? I love my life - where it is now in this moment (doing laundry between typing paragraphs) and where it is heading. Why? Because I am fully living and leaning into every moment: the good, the bad, and the ugly.

I look at my coaching time in many ways, like my parenting time - a beautiful phase: holding space for humans to discover their amazingness and who they are as they adventure on in their life, ready to experience it fully.

The ride has been wild, intense, full of emotions, and fun thus far, and I'm only just getting started. I'm following my joy.

Are you following yours?

~ Christine

PS: Do you have to use an empty nest coach? Not at all, but for those who could use the extra encouragement and guidance through the transition and don't have it built in to their life - a coach may be exactly what is needed! There are more than a few of us, so be sure to invest in one that feels like a great match.

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Challenge Wrap-Up💚 (30/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Challenge Wrap-Up💚 (30/30)

In this podcast episode, we wrap up the challenge and season 2 of the podcast. Chat next season!

💬 "So here you are, today. You get to choose what is outside of your fence."

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Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 00:42 Skip the intro and jump into today's topic
  • 05:29 My Wish For You Today
  • 05:40 New Things
  • 06:47 Journal Prompt

Episode Resources: 

Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

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First time here? Try these episodes & resources:

For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"So here you are, today. You get to choose what is outside of your fence."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 197

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Challenge Wrap-Up 💚 (30/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

The Challenge Wrap-Up is our topic for today (Day 30) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, thank you for listening to and participating in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success -  whether you listened to this one episode or all 30, I appreciate you tuning in! 

As I record this episode, it has been a solid five years of creating this podcast and the content created around it. Initially, an inspired idea that focused on providing helpful resources that past me would have loved - that’s past me where my child was heading off to college out of state and four years early. 

I always say in these episodes, my hope is that the content provides you with thoughts (your thoughts) that positively impact your life: YOUR amazing life - and the incredible years that you have ahead of you.

As this challenge wraps up, if you’d enjoy additional resources from me, I invite you to do this challenge using the additional video playlist created on YouTube - the content is slightly different - and consider signing-up for email reminders to walk you through the challenge, as well! In the show notes, you’ll find a link to current empty nest success offerings available. 

Use this podcast season (season 2) as toolbox items for yourself: listen to or watch your favorites, perhaps come back and re-listen to all of it in a year and see if some concepts resonate differently with you. 

My goal with  this content (and in my coaching) is always for you to become the C.E.O. of YOUR life: consciously processing your thought-box-deliveries, considering your emotions and how to process them so you may move to the other side of emotions when necessary; learning what is best kept outside of your fence; training your Protector and much more. 

Your amazing self is within reach. I believe that. Sometimes, though, you may have trouble finding (or recognizing) your amazing self among the mental clutter that life has left on your doorstep. Be patient if this is the case. You’ll find yourself!

Time and time again, I’ve witnessed clients discover that their life CAN have less drama and more time, and that life can be fun! It is my joy to watch this happen as they clear and organize their thought-box-deliveries.  

We all can use more time, can’t we? Time you can then spend getting to know yourself better, trying things, building relationships, repairing relationships, and well, doing whatever you feel led to do - maybe you want to learn to fly a plane, travel solo, travel with others, enjoy your life as it is, wake up and take in the sunrise every day - or something else entirely: you can find YOUR answer!

The decluttering and learning to become the Conscious Effective Olympian of your life may one day deliver this moment where you find yourself wondering, “How am I so calm about so many things that used to have me on high-alert?” 

I’ve experienced this myself, and clients have as well. 

While you’ll KNOW how you did it, that moment when you see your growth and experience click in regularly - or even every so often - it’s incredible. 

So here you are, today. You get to choose what is outside of your fence. You get to ask yourself if you will spend time doing things that you want to focus on, that allow you to show up better for not only you, but for your family and this world. 

While I’m mentioning others, remember: you can’t show up in the best way possible for others if you don’t show yourself that level of respect, time and energy. This world needs you to be you  - fully. 

You may remember that at the beginning of this 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success, I invited you to consider this challenge as a seed catalog where you get to choose the seeds (the topics) to fill your garden. 

Now, at the end, it’s a great time to consider which concepts or “seeds” resonated with you the most. Toss those into your garden and care for them lovingly. You don’t need them all to start. Really! Lovingly focusing on one or two will provide knowledge about yourself that will help you to successfully grow others over time. 

So good! 

05:29

[level-up music] My Wish for You Today

My wish for you today is that the rest of your life IS the best of your life. That is all. 

05:40

[level-up music]

New Things, New Things, New Things

Oo, I love  bringing back  these regular segments back again! [It] feels really nice.

First, while this episode does wrap up season 2 of the Your Empty Nest Coach podcast, I will return with Season 3 in mid to late 2024. 

Do you have a question about a topic? A topic you’d like me to cover? A win to share? A question specific to empty nesting that you’d like me to tackle, maybe? See the show notes for information on how to make a submission! 

Second, should you be looking for a safe person to hold space for you in the empty nest transition, I invite you to consider private coaching with me! Take the six-question quiz to see if it’s a great fit for you.

That being said, if you’ve received all you need from the podcast and free resources - that makes my heart happy, too! 

Either way, I kindly ask that if you have found this podcast helpful, please share it with others, as that is the best way to allow the podcast to reach the people who need it. Thanks!

 06:47

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Your journal prompt for today is … explore your readiness to become the Conscious Effective Olympian of Your Life. What does that mean to you, and what steps will you take to empower yourself and become the master gardener - or C.E.O. of your life?

07:06

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND, as mentioned before, become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today! Remember to trust your inner guidance, clear your thoughts, follow your emotions, train your protector and know you’ve got this. Have a wonderful day/week/month/year/ decade/life ahead. You deserve it, and you are freaking amazing.

Chat next season!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Loving Others💚 (29/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Loving Others💚 (29/30)

This podcast episode considers where loving others resides in our C.E.O. (Conscious Effective Olympian) Life analogy.

💬 "What if… the love for others and love for humanity that you create in your life is your gift to you?"

This Episode is Brought to You By

Looking for an episode transcript? You'll find it below! 

Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 00:41 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic
  • 06:37 Journal Prompt

Episode Resources: 

Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

Legal disclaimer: Listening to this podcast doesn't make Christine your official coach, and this podcast is not meant to replace your doctor or therapist. Curious? Click here for the deets!

First time here? Try these episodes & resources:

For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"What if… the love for others and love for humanity that you create in your life is your gift to You?"

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 196

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Loving Others 💚 (29/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Loving Others is our topic for today (Day 29) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:41

Amazing human and beautiful soul, we are in our penultimate episode. I’ll be mentioning some concepts and terms introduced in earlier days of this challenge and links to those episodes will be in the show notes.

Our topic: When we love someone, that person is outside of our fence. Our Protector  has a lot to do with thought-box-deliveries sent in about that individual. Pay attention to how those deliveries are arriving? Are they neatly gift-wrapped with a bow and a loving card or on high-alert? 

Where love is concerned, our thought-box-deliveries can be big, beautiful, sometimes even arrive with a singing telegram, if you will. 

Most of us can think of a time when we were full on in love with someone and then at another moment may have felt quite the opposite about the same person. We can choose to love them, ignore them, be curious about them, empathetic toward them, and so on. 

When you imagine a person you love being outside of your fence and begin to think about the loving “thoughts” toward them as deliveries that you choose to pay attention to (or not pay attention to), then things can get interesting.

Ultimately, our thoughts that make us feel love are where the love is. 

Kind of wild isn’t it? 

If you don’t want to go that deep here, no biggie, I’ll put some other episode links and such in the show notes, go ahead, tap through and listen to those… no need to continue here if you aren’t feeling it. 

Oo! You’re still listening? Great! There are a lot of thoughts that can be created from someone existing in our life. 

How they show up in our life; When they show up; What they do for us - or don’t do for us; these are all happenings outside of our fence. 

If you discover thoughts you have about someone that are clear changes from how you have felt about them in the past, I invite you to take a look at where that comes from, especially if your mind’s house used to be filled from floor to ceiling with loving thoughts about them. 

Those thoughts are still there, they may be dust-covered and hard to find, sometimes from neglect and sometimes because, yeah,  they need to be there. 

Remember that time when that person could do no wrong and you loved everything (well, almost everything) about them. And yet, now you find yourself focused on the same thought or couple of thoughts that bring you to an emotion that doesn’t feel so good. 

Maybe those thoughts are justified, and action is necessary. Or, maybe you need to clean up some of those thought-box deliveries. That’s for you to figure out. But also know that whether the person is physically in your life or not, the thought-box-deliveries remain. 

How often do we as humans walk away from a situation, or place, or person only to continually talk about it, rehash it over and over again, tell each person you see, journal about it and more. 

Decide how you want to feel and what you want to do with the boxes. 

Do you want to re-enter the room and pull out the lovely - feel-good-in-your soul thought box deliveries? 

Or, do you want to  toss them out because they aren’t aligned with where you are now

Or, maybe create a new thought-box for where your relationship is now 

Make sure wherever you land, has you feeling really good - or if this is going to take you some time, maybe aim for better than you felt before. 

As always, be curious about what you learn about yourself along the way.

Love is a funny thing. 

We know it is possible to love someone who doesn’t love us back and vice versa - on either side of that  - it feels pretty lousy, doesn’t it? - unless you find better thoughts. 

Sometimes, the timing has expired, isn’t right, or maybe it never will be. Either way, it doesn’t negate the loving feelings that one has for another human.  You can love fully without expectations from another. The love you feel ultimately is thoughts you have. 

Are you still with me? 

You can do anything you want with your thoughts about love. Really! And when you embrace this, things can get fun.

By now, in the challenge, you may be starting to get a feel for managing your thought-box-deliveries, so how you feel led to arrange, curate and find loving-led thought-boxes is for you to figure out. 

Whether you decide to 

  1. dig out good thoughts from a room that has been locked up and hidden away

  2.  or hold space, be curious and have fun loving others whether they love you or not, 

you get to choose. 

You can acquire loving feelings for anyone - you don’t need their permission, you don’t need to take physical action, you may never even meet them in real life. Maybe, they aren’t physically in your life anymore (and that could be for a variety of reasons) but that doesn’t mean you need to stop the love. If the love feels good - LOVE!

What if… the love for others and love for humanity that you create in your life is your gift to You? Helping you to feel better. Choosing love a little more often may give your life a momentum that is worth exploring.  

06:37

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Your journal prompt for today is … Reflect on your thoughts and beliefs about love. How do you define love, and what does it mean to you personally? 

[exit music - upbeat]

Can you believe our next episode is our final day of the challenge and we’ll wrap-up this 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success?  If you prefer video, the entire challenge is on YouTube now.

Thanks for listening today, for thinking about the love in your life, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing!  

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Following Your Joy💚 (28/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Following Your Joy💚 (28/30)

In this podcast episode I ask you to consider following your joy.

💬 "Notice when you want to follow your joy. Notice when you decide not to."

This Episode is Brought to You By

Looking for an episode transcript? You'll find it below! 

Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 00:42 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic
  • 03:33 Journal Prompt

Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 1-920-LIFEWIN (1-920-543-3946). 📞

Legal disclaimer: Listening to this podcast doesn't make Christine your official coach, and this podcast is not meant to replace your doctor or therapist. Curious? Click here for the deets!

You may be interested in…

For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"Notice when you want to follow your joy. Notice when you decide not to."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 195

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Following Your Joy 💚 (28/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Following your joy is our topic for today (Day 28) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, follow your joy. 

Follow your joy. 

You may not have heard me: Follow your joy. 

And One more time: follow your joy! 

Notice when you want to follow your joy. Notice when you decide not to. Don't beat yourself up when you choose to ignore joyful callings but be curious about the callings and the reasons you don’t follow them. 

Consider: Is this thing a joy prompting that has tugged at your soul more than once? Pay attention to those when they appear, why they appear, and why you don’t take the steps to follow the prompting. 

Related to this, I introduced having 4 joyous things to help you to feel better in episode 19 of this 30 Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success.

Giving yourself room to follow your joy, to notice your joyous promptings, and following them when you can will provide answers for you on what is ahead for you. Whether it be clearing some space to have the ability to follow more of your joy, whether it be taking naps, or jumping on a last minute flight that had a super deal and seeing what’s on the other side. Discovering who you are and what lights you up will become clearer as you follow your joy. Learn from it. Lean into it. If you never follow your joy, learning new things about yourself may take a lot longer. 

And, that’s okay if that’s where you are. There’s enough to be learned within the promptings. 

What if  - and this is a big statement: What if you are here on this planet simply to follow your joy? 

If you dropped into your life today, and could look around with fresh eyes, is there anything you would change - that you can change? Do you love your life? What things do you love and why aren't you doing more of that? 

I do get it, though, if joy feels too unattainable for you, right now.  We’ve all been in those moments. If that’s where you are now, take a few baby steps when you can, rather than a leap. Imagine though, if you could experience joy or feeling better more often. What would that look like for you? 

If you have joyous promptings this week that feel a tad indulgent, but might bring you a little more joy, I encourage you to follow one or two of those purely as an experiment and see what happens. 

This all should be fun. If it isn’t, well, then, it isn’t really a joyous prompting, is it? 

Have a wonderful time following your joy - remember there is no right or wrong here - it’s all your adventure to plan and jump into.

03:33

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Your journal prompt for today is … Explore the activities or aspects of your life that currently bring you joy. Are there any patterns or common elements among them?

03:47

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, your joy is calling you - provide yourself with some space to hear it - and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between. 

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: The Story You Have About Your Role In Your Child’s Future 💚 (27/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: The Story You Have About Your Role In Your Child's Future💚 (27/30)

In this podcast episode we talk about future stories we tell ourselves with a focus on the parent-child relationship.

💬 "...I encourage you to pay attention to the future stories you have and the stakes you have assigned to them."

This Episode is Brought to You By

Looking for an episode transcript? You'll find it below! 

Episode Topics & Their Minute Markers

  • 00:43 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic
  • 07:27 Journal Prompt

💚 Send audio feedback to Coach Christine now: voicemail/text to 920-LIFEWIN (920-543-3946).

Legal disclaimer: Listening to this podcast doesn't make Christine your official coach, and this podcast is not meant to replace your doctor or therapist. Curious? Click here for the deets!

You may be interested in…

For those who are freaking out about the empty nest years. It is time to make the rest of your life the best of your life!

Coach Christine,

Your Empty Nest Coach

"...I encourage you to pay attention to the future stories you have and the stakes you have assigned to them."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 194

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: The Story You Have About Your Role In Your Child's Future💚 (27/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

The story you have about your role in your child's future is our topic for today (Day 27) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:43

Amazing human and beautiful soul, if you are excited to dive into more of these concepts - to ask questions, perhaps receive coaching around them and for your specific needs, I invite you to take a look at the show notes for a link leading you to the ways you may connect and work with me as your coach - or you’ll find them all  at EmptyNestSuccess.com. 

Also, a reminder that I have created a free PDF companion workbook for this challenge that includes a list of topics, information about me, worksheets and some extra bonuses.

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Onto our topic: the story about your role in your child's future. Let's take all of the concepts that we've talked about so far and put them together. High-level, this challenge has introduced and encouraged thought work - paying attention to your thought-box-deliveries; noticing and feeling your emotions; updating stories that may never come true, and learning who you are while remembering your adult child needs the space to figure out who they are. All of this while also considering transitioning into a coach role for your child.

Know that while you may have great plans for grandchildren and babysitting them or, not babysitting them or having your own life with a few yearly check-ins - and while you may have specific plans, your child a) may not be thinking that far ahead and  b) may have a different version, right now, of what they would like your future relationship to look like. 

Life is all about change. And with this, know that it is going to change for both of you as both of you grow into your next versions of who you are - or discover who you have always been under all the other duties you have been assigned in life. 

Trust that you’ll figure it out as you go. 

Embrace the coach role and remember that they have every right to the ideas, plans and feelings that they have. Your job is to create your own amazing life and you’ll figure out the relationship as you move along. 

Pressuring any other human to deliver or change to make us more comfortable is a lose lose situation - and when that someone is our child the stakes are even higher. 

[sigh] whew, yeah, I know that was a bit of an ouch, but someone listening needed to hear it. 

03:12

When you catch yourself telling future-stories about your relationship together, remember that, at best, you are guessing what the future may look like. If you were to state that future-guess as a fact and it involves another human’s life…. there’s bound to be some sort of response, to put it lightly.

In the analogy we are building on your way to becoming The Conscious Effective Olympian (C.E.O.) of your life, remember that the future is outside of your fence. It is! Someone else’s story about the future? That’s also outside of your fence. If you choose to bring it in and feel the need to manage it - that’s kind of on you. 

Let others have their stories. 

Any story that you decide to tell  (to yourself or others) about your role and your child's future, whether it's, 

  • They're not going to give me grandkids.

  • I'm going to be super involved in their life! 

  • They’ll live so far away, I'm never going to see them.

  • or whatever the thoughts you have about your role in their future…. 

For all of these, I encourage you to pay attention to the future stories you have and the stakes you have assigned to them. When you notice the stories you tell (or maybe it’s a single thought), see if it is one that feels good, and if not, update it. Sure, dream about what you would like as long as it feels good but be careful with whom you share it with and the stakes you put on it - of that future story becoming a reality. 

If you aren’t able to come up with anything for your parent-child relationship that feels better, here are some starter statements to try (they’re general): 

[upbeat music begins in background]

I'm thrilled that my child has made it to adulthood. I know in each moment in the past I did the best I could with the resources I had for me at that time, and I will continue to do so - my child will too! Over the years, we have created a relationship - one that can stay the same or change. I look for ways to show my adult child that I love and care for their uniqueness. I’m thankful when I’m included in their life. I’m learning to become a safe space for them and they - maybe, after initially doubting it - have learned to appreciate it. I’m ecstatic that I get to show up fully as myself and they get to show up fully as themself as our relationship grows in the future. 

[end music]

You certainly don’t have to say anything like this to yourself, but how would something like this feel? You can use it as a starting point, adjust it, play with it, or start from scratch. 

Absolutely, dream about all the things you’d like to see in the future but remember they are your dreams. Take stock and see what in those dreams of yours you are able to make progress toward and do so when you are inspired to take action.

As for you and your child, you can show up believing that it will be like that one day, (whatever your dream is) and in the meantime, be thankful for every moment you have with them in your life now. 

And for those of you, who maybe your child isn’t in your life - for whatever reason- give yourself hope. Work on loving them for who they are. It has the opportunity to heal and you can love them even if they aren’t in your life.

And, of course, remember that the relationship with your child is yours. It  doesn't have to look the way society has told you it should. 

Should you be interested, I speak more on topics about the future in  Day 8 of the Empty Nest Success challenge - that’s titled “ Their Future - What’s Your Story?“. You’ll also find future topics mentioned in episodes 13: Empty Nest Success: Future You Has All the Power; 17: Empty Nest Success: Green Popsicle Stick; 20: Empty Nest Success: You Found Future You! Now for the, “How?”; 71: Empty Nest Success: The Past and the Future Are Outside of Your Fence; and, finally, 138: Empty Nest Success: Shared Future Goals. Links will, as always, will be in the show notes.

07:27

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … reflect on your current ideas and expectations about your future relationship with your child. Be curious if you have any preconceived notions you might want to let go of in order to allow you to thrive while your child becomes all they are meant to be?

And here are some extra prompts: What thought-box-deliveries arrive when the idea that that story may not happen enters your mind? What is Your Protector doing the thought-box-deliveries, and what emotions show up for you?

As always, don’t forget to consider some better feeling thoughts. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, check in with your future stories - in all areas of your life - and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Sitting in the Simmer 💚 (26/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Sitting in the Simmer💚 (26/30)

In this podcast episode Coach Christine shares one of the analogies dear to her heart: sitting in the simmer.

"In the simmering moments of life, it is how you show up; how you feel about the simmering moments - that impacts one person and one person alone: You."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 193

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Sitting in the Simmer💚 (26/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Sitting in the Simmer is our topic for today (Day 26) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music] 

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul….Are you simmering? I love to say that I’m sitting in the simmer. This concept is one of my early analogies. One that - I have such good emotions around: when this one clicked for me, and I was able to form it into a proper analogy on the podcast, I found people telling me that they were “simmering.” “I’m simmering Christine.” And it was the affirmation I needed at that time to know I was on the right path sharing my content. Holy cow, that was about five years ago, so this is near and dear to my heart. 

In the last episode, we quickly noted the nonlinear journey that life gives us. Sometimes, along with the Ditch Sessions (more on that in our last episode), we may also experience really long waiting periods to get to whatever the next thing is in our life. 

Some examples: maybe you’re waiting for the next chance to visit with your adult child. Maybe you're waiting for the start date of something big in your life such as a vacation, a training program or life event. Maybe you're waiting for somebody to do something that you need them to do, or waiting to discover for yourself what you want to do next in life - and whatever it is you’re feeling it’s taking too long. 

 

I like to think of these extended waiting periods as simmering. The analogy I have for you is that these are like stew simmering moments. Imagine that your life is the stew and while you have the ingredients prepped and tossed into the pot, you still need time for the stew to simmer, allowing the ingredients to work together to co-create for a wonderful meal - a delicious meal - unless you don’t like stew. But we’ll pretend you do right now. Ha! 

Imagine you’ve tossed celery, onions, potatoes, seasoning and more into the broth. You toss the last item in and you think, “Perfect, I did it and now I can eat it.” And we can imagine diving into a super crunchy piece of celery, super strong onions and a big piece of potato that is almost impossible to bite into. 

It seems silly doesn’t it? Yet we do this all the time in life with projects we have and with our life experiences. 

Another analogy used often by others is tossing a seed into the ground and not waiting for it to grow.

When we recognize that life has simmering moments in order for the life ingredients to work their magic, and for us to be ready to enjoy them, life becomes way more fun. And sitting there focused on the simmering pot is probably not the best use of your time. Sure, check in on it, but when you find fun things to do while the needed simmer happens, that is a full life.

If we return to the stew analogy, we could spend the time cleaning up the kitchen, putting our feet up, maybe treating ourselves to something, chatting with others, playing a game - focusing on finding joy in the simmer becomes a fun experience. 

In the simmering moments of life, it is how you show up; how you feel about the simmering moments - that impacts one person and one person alone: You.  You can sit there and be mad that it takes the time for the stew to simmer. Or, you can embrace the time with fun and realize that you might need the time to be ready for whatever the next thing is. 

And whether the next thing in life is one day, one hour, one year, or one decade away, finding ways to enjoy the simmer makes a huge difference. Look for joyous moments. Look for magical moments. Look for synchronicities. Look for joy. Create joy. You’re going to sit in the simmer anyway, why not enjoy it?

Next time you feel the simmer of life, try this thought, “Oh, yeah, I'm sitting in the simmer of life, what fun can I find while I wait?”

04:48

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … Imagine yourself as a simmering pot. What qualities or transformations are occurring within you during this simmering period?

05:02

[level-up music]

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, have fun in the simmer of your life, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Progress Isn’t Linear – Ditch Sessions (25/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Progress Isn't Linear - Ditch Sessions💚 (25/30)

In this podcast episode Coach Christine reminds you that progress isn't linear and introduces Ditch Sessions.

"This is human life. You are going to have moments where your progress flies high and you are soaring. You’re also going to have moments where you're feeling kind of stuck and in a ditch covered in mud."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 192

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Progress Isn't Linear - Ditch Sessions💚 (25/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Progress isn’t Linear is our topic for today (Day 25) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, this topic is one you’ve probably heard multiple times before (from others)  but it resonates well in life and is always a great reminder: progress isn't linear. Those three words make so much sense. Do a quick Google Image search on the words: progress isn't linear  (I have it in my show notes) and your results will include some fun ways to illustrate this.

Some days you are going to feel on top of the world, you know when, you've got it all together, you can handle happenings that, and past you of five years ago would have been stopped in their tracks in awe - and you can feel that progress in your soul.

These are the moments when you are managing your thought-box-deliveries, in a, maybe, full-on household manager role (if you will). You are feeling clear, knowing Your Protector is well trained, maybe you feel you are on top of things: Your Protector is having a ball  - and overall you are loving life. 

Then, other times, you may feel derailed, or maybe your progress completely stopped. You feel as if you're almost going backwards because of something that was maybe unexpected or a thought-trigger that takes you right back to where you used to be. In our analogy, this would be a thought-box-delivery you thought you had safely stored away - and it popped up again, or it became illuminated. But, it may feel to you as if you’re stuck or in a rut. 

And since you know I love analogies, here’s one that bubbled up when I was speaking with a client: it’s that sometimes we may feel off course or as if we're going backwards. In these cases, you could imagine that you are riding a bicycle on a path. Imagine that this path is well-paved, you're enjoying life, you're feeling like you've got this, enjoying the breeze and the view… then suddenly, your bike tire pulls you off the path and into a ditch.

You find yourself laying on the ground, maybe your bike is even behind you -  you fell completely off [the] bike and in the impact of the landing, your reaction is to struggle in the ditch you are now in: imagine yourself lying down on your back, feeling pain in different spots on your body and then you decide to try and claw yourself out while continuing to lay down. 

You have thoughts like, “How did I not see where I was headed?  How did I end up here? Not again - am I always going to be in a ditch?”

You turn your body a bit, but the more you claw, and struggle the dirtier you become. Imagine a dry dirt that as you scrape the side of the ditch you are in, the dirt covers you more and more. And, yeah, you’re still lying down. Eventually, you just decide to stay there in the ditch complaining, periodically looking at the sky and wondering why you are stuck in this ditch. 

It then occurs to you that you didn’t take a moment to stand up - you take inventory (looking around) and realize this ditch isn’t deep at all, all you have to do is become vertical and take a step out of it.  

The thing is when you landed in the ditch, initially, while it wasn’t great, there was a familiarity about it that made you comfortable in some weird way. 

So, rather than immediately standing up, you went to your go-to thought-box-deliveries from prior moments.

Sometimes, the ditches of life that we fall in are well worn because they are paths we have taken time and time again. Other times, they are ditches created by others be it the media, or other humans. 

Noting that a ditch is just a ditch, sure you are in it, but that’s fine - you can learn from it, and move on. Easily stepping out of the ditch allows yourself to release the drama and quickly brush off any dirt that remains, and move on.

Stand up and brush off, is a great way to go. Or, yeah, as Taylor Swift would say, “Shake it off.” There’s no reason to beat yourself up for ending up in the ditch. Ditches will always be there. Yes, and sometimes we’ll spend time in them and sometimes we’ll glide right by. 

When you begin to navigate your ditch moments so that you spend the least amount of time possible in ditches,  your life gets interesting. 

This is human life. You are going to have moments where your progress flies high and you are soaring. You’re also going to have moments where you're feeling kind of stuck and in a ditch covered in mud. 

Try this thought: I’m stuck in a ditch and that is okay. How am I going to get out of it in a way that allows me to learn about myself, and maybe even have some fun along the way? 

Now, my listener, you may have already noticed this funny thing that occurred to me as I was reviewing the topic and script for this episode I realized I should probably clarify that I’m saying ditch that begins with a d as in dog. And then the thought of staying in the ditch creates the bitchiness in us, came to me: Stay in the ditch, create the bitch. 

And in bitch, I mean bitchy about life/complaining about life. It still makes me giggle. 

So, maybe we can call these DITCH sessions. [giggles]

ANYWAY, when we look at learning lessons about ourselves as we navigate out of our Ditch Sessions, we gain power. I do talk a bit about the leveling up in a different way in an earlier podcast episode - back in Season 1 - it’s episode 55- if you want to check it out - it’s yet another analogy for leveling up in life. As always, the link will be in the show notes.

The important thing here is that when you do catch yourself in these Ditch Sessions, be kind to yourself, because when you're in the ditch, and you say things to yourself like, “Oh man, I'm in the ditch. There's mud all over me. Why did I do this? I'm so awful. Oh, this ditch sucks. I’m stuck here forever. Will I always keep ending up here?” 

Amazing human, when we do this, we’re amplifying the power of the ditch and we keep ourselves there. If anything, we may be allowing some wounds that are just about healed or still open to become infected. 

To Recap: What if … when you notice your Ditch Sessions, you stand up, brush the dirt off and say, “Yeah, I was in that ditch. I own it. It happened. How can I maybe not get in that particular ditch again - or make my recovery when I land in that ditch again, not so bad? I wonder if there is even a way to make this fun, eventually? 

Amazing listener, you're gonna have ditch moments and days - sometimes they’ll even last even longer -  but that doesn’t mean they have to take over your life, become who you are and it certainly doesn’t mean that you’ll never again get out of the ditch. 

07:48

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … Can you think of a time where you felt as if no progress was being made in your life, but then there was a sudden breakthrough at a later date?

[exit music - upbeat] 

Thanks for listening today, notice your next Ditch Session, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Gift Yourself With…💚 (24/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Gift Yourself With…💚 (24/30)

In this podcast episode, Coach Christine reminds you to gift yourself throughout your life.

"The next time you begin to think of yourself moving forward in life, imagine someone who loves themself. Imagine someone who knows who they are, someone who willingly and maybe even a little protectively holds space for themself..."

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 191

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Gift Yourself With…💚 (24/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

Gift Yourself With… is our topic for today (Day 24) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, if you have spent decades not thinking about what might be best for yourself, I have some things to share with you. 

What if… by gifting yourself with something (be it time, energy, or an activity, etc.)... what if by knowing you're worth it, that you’ll then be able to show up in a new and exciting way for others in your life? 

It is incredibly easy to have days, weeks, months, and years go by where we put ourselves on the back burner. Life has a way of doing that to us. 

If this resonates with you, today can be a new day for you - or tomorrow. Actually, every moment you have the opportunity to treat yourself better. 

Here’s [are] some things to think about: The next time you begin to think of yourself moving forward in life, imagine someone who loves themself. Imagine someone who knows who they are, someone who willingly and maybe even a little protectively holds space for themself. Someone who loves trying new things - or maybe one new thing [giggle] - someone who isn’t afraid to be curious and explore the positive what ifs in their life. 

These gifts to yourself, also, don't all have to have a financial impact, either. 

The “gift yourself with” can certainly be things like dance classes, a vacation, (big things), but they can also be things like sleeping in one day, maybe hitting the snooze alarm because you know, you really don't have to be up that early. It could be buying yourself flowers. It could be taking an extra long walk one day. 

In the “gift yourself with” life, I encourage you to come up with a fun list of things that you find yourself thinking (even if you are half-serious), “Hey, I would really love to do that - or try that. It might be fun.” 

What if you create a list like this? What if you give it a super fun title that is all your own? 

You don't have to do them all - or any of them, really. It’s just a list. Have fun with it and don’t edit it - you can do that later.

Create the list, read the list, imagine things on the list, dream about things on the list, research things on the list and then when you are ready see what small thing (or maybe big thing) you would love to do for “realsy” - and feel free then to cross off and edit away things that when you have imagined them, maybe they don’t feel as fun as you might have originally thought. 

When you do gift yourself with it (whatever it is) provide yourself the time, the energy and the space to do it without guilt - just as you do with all of the other top of the toolbox items. That's important. Consciously choosing to do the thing… whatever it is, allows you to be in a better space for the enjoyment of the activity and when that activity wraps up. 

Consciously gift yourself with guilt free list items - Have fun!

03:58

[level-up music]

Your journal prompt for today is … Reflect on a time when you prioritized someone else's needs over your own, at a time when it wasn't even necessary. Did it have an impact on your well-being? Was it positive or negative?  

04:15

[level-up music] 

As always, I provide content to make you think. My hope is that I am able to provide you with thoughts that positively impact your life. If you enjoyed this episode, I invite you to take a moment to follow this podcast - it is free after all - AND become this podcast's hero by sharing it with others! You’ll find links to additional resources, time markers and more in the show notes. 

[exit music - upbeat]

Thanks for listening today, have fun creating your list and gifting yourself with list items, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

[end]

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: This Is Your Work To Do💚 (23/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: This Is Your Work To Do💚 (23/30)

In this podcast episode, a reminder that all of this is your work to do.

"If your choices and actions don’t impact them [others] directly, or they don’t bring you to a “hell, yes” then proceed careful - not carefully - consciously."

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  • 00:42 Skip the intro & jump into today's topic: The first meaning of "This is Your Work To Do"
  • 06:04 Adding to our analogy
  • 09:32 The second meaning of "This Is Your Work To Do" 
  • 11:30 Journal Prompt

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The Your Empty Nest Coach Podcast, Episode 190

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: This Is Your Work To Do💚 (23/30)

FULL TRANSCRIPT

[level-up music]

This is Your Work To Do is our topic for today (Day 23) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

[level-up music]

If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

[end music]

00:42

Amazing human and beautiful soul, most of how I deliver content to you online goes against what is taught in online marketing courses. I have this core belief, now, that my message will reach those who need it when they are ready. Also, the more I create in an inspired fashion, the more those who need it will find me.

While over the last five years I have had some moments where, yes, I have fallen into the “traditional” way to market, I have spent the last 18 months or so deconstructing it. Following the content topics that I share with you and applying them to everything I do as well. Which means there has been a lot of letting go for me, a fair amount of breaks to reset myself and the reminder of why I originally started this all.

The beauty in believing that those who are looking for my content will find it, means I also strongly believe that if someone isn’t aligned with what I share, that’s all good - there are so many humans in this beautifully diverse world delivering similar messages in their own unique ways. 

You may be wondering, “What does this have to do with today’s topic?”

It has everything to do with it.

When I say “This is your work to do.” I have two meanings there.

The first one is to Of COURSE, trust your gut, your instincts, your inner guidance, God, the Universe- whatever label you choose to use.

Beautiful human, whether you are starting a blog, trying a new career, or hobby, planning a dinner or a vacation, there are plenty of other humans who are happy to provide assistance to you - often with a cost -  (and sometimes, whether you ask for it or not). 

This is wonderful when you know what you are looking for and find it. But, if you haven’t yet done some mental decluttering it is easy to be led by other people’s idea of what is best for you. When you know what resonates with your soul and find those who match up with it - wow - so much fun. 

The more you are able to declutter your thought-box-deliveries, train Your Protector and live the Conscious Effective Olympian life, the easier this all becomes.  

You may be wondering why I waited until episode 23 of this challenge to share this topic.  

It’s a fair point but it was done consciously. First of all, if you’ve started from day 1 and are continuing to work through this, you more than likely feel aligned with these topics, and may have even begun trying some of them. 

Imagine if I had opened with this topic. 

Most humans aren’t even close to being ready to consider that they know what is best for themselves - that feels overwhelming - and when I tell them they might have an internal guidance system they’re just like, “yeah, right.” 

Until we, as humans, begin to realize how powerful our thoughts are and that they are optional, it is practically impossible to consider that we might have our own internal guidance system. You may have noticed that I interchange the words internal guidance system, inner guidance, inner selves and your internal GPS often - please call this whatever you like and what resonates best with you. 

You might want to call it your gut or your soul. Whatever you choose to label it, you may reach a point where you feel promptings, you begin to  “get” and feel led on what you need or want to do next. You may even be shocked to find that eventually the need to share your plans and ideas with others is diminished -  After all, itt is a rare human who will show up for you (for us, in general) without their own thought-box deliveries that come into the mix.

Over time, you’ll begin to notice where you start to detour off into other people’s ideas of what you “should do” and eventually you will learn which of these deliveries belong permanently outside of your fence.

Keep in mind that others mean no harm: They have their own inner guidance which may not be available to them - or they may have some clarity on their own internal guidance but at the end of the day it is THEIR experience and THEIR guidance, not yours.

04:57

Consciously choosing to ask someone you trust or you know has more life experience than you, for their feedback so that you can then do what you will with it is a much better place than continually allowing other people’s thought-box-deliveries to clutter your space.

If your choices and actions don’t impact them directly, or they don’t bring you to a “hell, yes” then proceed careful - not carefully - consciously. 

When you have time to review interactions, ask yourself: How does what they are sharing with you make you feel? And then tune into those things.

This isn’t supposed to be stressful either. You are where you are. Personally, I’ve found most days I get a laugh or two out of it. Not all days - I’m still human, but I don’t dwell on these interactions as much when I catch myself in the reaction mode. 

I take stock, see what I’ve learned and move on - looking for something that brings me joy, fun or laughter. 

Some days I’m better at this than others. 

06:04

Let’s return to our ever-building analogy. 

Try this one: Imagine that you install an intercom system outside of your fence. When someone arrives at your fence and immediately starts talking into the intercom, rather than immediately giving them your full attention, what if you pay attention to how what they are saying is making you feel? 

Does it resonate with you? Does it apply to you? Did you ask for it? And come up with your own questions, too. 

If you find what they’re sharing isn’t beneficial to you, it’s time to train Your Protector to say, “Thanks, but no thanks.” In real life, this can look like diverting a conversation topic, excusing yourself, or something else. 

This all may sound like a lot but when you understand that everything you choose to allow within your fence takes up your resources that could be spent on things that bring you joy, why WHY would you give it any more mental real estate than it deserves? 

The energy or vibration in your thoughts, in your body, and around you should be protected.

Every single time that you focus on yourself in the decision making; in the “what should I do next?” and you begin to learn to trust what does work / what doesn't work… you learn a bit more about yourself. Be curious about what your gut feeling is telling you - and continue to learn from it. 

Start with a few inconsequential topics and go from there. 

Have you popped over to a thought like, “so, Christine, are you telling me that I don’t have to listen to anyone ever?”. Maybe that’s what you are hearing but it is not what I’m saying. This is life.  There are loved ones, colleagues, and strangers who may share things that weren’t on our mind - and we choose to show up with the space to listen and support, because that feels good to do. 

Pay attention to your why in those moments. People can feel that. Are you doing this because of habit? People feel that. Are you doing this because you are supposed to, to be polite. Notice your emotions, and don’t be afraid to change the subject. 

Let’s think about your to-do list in life … and your “WORK.”

Really, truly, at the end of the day, there aren't many things in life that you HAVE to do. Look around and you’ll find someone who doesn’t do the thing you think you have to do and somehow they are still getting by - maybe it’s not in a way that looks good or appropriate to you - or fun- or exciting but that is where you get to design your life going forward - and when this is done consciously  - it becomes an adventure. 

Pay attention to the things that you wish you could do, but you feel like you can’t. Then search out and seek out people who are doing it. What’s their life look like? Have fun with this!

In wrapping up the first meaning of “this is your work to do”, is to say that discovering your own plan of work is powerful. Take a look at your to-do list. Clean it up. Make it smaller. Maybe pick up the book that you are drawn to but feels a bit intimidating because no one else you know is reading that. Try things, learn things about you and have so much fun! Look for the fun. 

09:32

The second meaning of “This is Your Work to do, “ is that this isn’t something that because it resonates with you, you need to relay it and force upon everyone else in your life. Yes, you may experience some super fun aha moments, some amazing changes in your own life, and that is incredible! 

Others may celebrate with you but they also may be confused as you holy cow, are you showing up differently. If they ask, sure, tell them but be considerate that most of us resonate with concepts when we are ready for them and when we are seeking them. This applies to everything really. Just because your inner self is ready doesn’t mean those around you will be too. You might  even annoy them. 

Additionally, if you’ve made changes that work for you, it doesn’t mean it will work for others. You don’t know what is in their fence and in their house. Sometimes, we as humans are in fire fighting mode and someone who is happy simply annoys us. I’m willing to bet there are points in your life where you’ve been there and can understand this. The best thing you can do is do these activities for yourself so that you can be brighter, clearer, and more effective in all that you do. And if someone does ask, share what feels right. But ultimately, have fun getting to know yourself better! That’s what this is all about.

A final note, I did use the word “work” in this episode and title and that is because it is one that resonates with most people. That being said, I actively try not to use the word “work” in my own daily life. Joyous investment in my evolution is my personal go to phrase but I’m gonna keep it simple for this challenge. If you want to learn more about why I’ve chosen not to use the word work in my life, listen to episode 157 in season 1 of my podcast

11:30

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Your journal prompt for today is … Write about a time when you trusted your intuition or inner voice despite it not being aligned with others - and it led, still, to a positive outcome.

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Thanks for listening today, remember this is your work to do, and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Future Self Has Your Back 💚 (22/30)

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Your Future Self Has Your Back 💚 (22/30)

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30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success: Know Your Badass Self Has Got This  (22/30)

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Your Future Self Has Your Back is our topic for today (Day 22) in the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success. 

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If this is your first time listening,  know we are diving into the challenge content. If you like what you hear, jump back to the episode titled “Getting Started with the 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success” and then work your way through from the beginning - or visit EmptyNestSuccess.com to sign up for daily or weekly email delivery of this challenge that will lead you to companion videos, additional journal prompts, resources and more! 

Here we go: 

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Amazing human and beautiful soul, we are piggybacking off our last episode. We've covered a lot of topics already in this challenge, and sometimes we just need to be reminded that we’ve done well. 

When you look back in your life, and consider the moments when your child was super young and you had a decision to make that in the moment felt as if nothing else mattered, and now with decade or so  of experience you know it may not have been quite the big deal you were making it out to be back then.  

Some examples might be for you … 

What preschool you send them too - or IF they attended preschool at all; breastfeeding or not breastfeeding; how about diaper brand you chose to use? And, as they got older it may have transitioned into what activities you encouraged, what opportunities they had, and so on. 

Our younger selves really managed to navigate it all. And while looking back, you might do things differently, today, past you did great with the knowledge, resources, finances and opportunities that they had then. 

But, consider if you could go back in time and lovingly tell yourself a few things, what would those things be? 

 Would it be…. 

Chill out more. Look for more fun and lean into the moments where your child is asking for your attention? 

Would it be…

Life is short, you are here and you got me where I am today. I’m so thankful for your dedication and I’m cheering you on. 

Would it be… 

Yeah, that thing sucked but those people weren’t your people anyway.

Would it be…

Wow, you were handed a ton of chaos, and yeah, you still have it now. I see you, you’ve learned a lot already and we’ll continue to learn more as we go. 

Would it be… 

Trust your gut more. You were right about more than a few things. 

Whatever you would say to your past self… make sure it is kind, loving, uplifting and encouraging. A fun thing to do is write down the things you think of. And here’s why… because here we are today, in this moment with new stressors of sorts, things that we feel are super important, that have our thoughts hostage, while there will one day be a version of us that is 10, 20, 30, 40 plus years in the future that will look back today - at us lovingly - and would want to tell us something. There’s a good chance that the primary message wouldn’t be too different from what you’d want to say to your past self. 

Things I choose to believe is that your future self is really proud of you - of all that you are doing; and they’re excited for all the things that you're going to do to get them to where they are in the future. Think about it, they wouldn’t exist if it wasn’t for you making the choices you make. Whew - it’s a bit of a mind-blowing when you think about it, isn’t it? That thought might come natural for you, or it might be a bit mind-blowing.

I love knowing that there is a future version of me cheering me on. She knows everything I’m experiencing in her soul, as she’s been me,  and knows all the energy it has taken me to do all the things. Thinking about your future self can be a fun thing to add to your life.

You don’t need to tell anyone, either. This can be your secret cheering section in your life. Enjoy this one!

04:23

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Your journal prompt for today is …What advice would you give to your younger self? Write it down and how does it feel to say to yourself  now?

 04:36

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Thanks for listening today, your future self is cheering you on and don’t you dare forget that you are amazing! 

Chat next time!

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Your Empty Nest Coach Christine has her arms out wide and looking up to the sky while in nature, text leads to the online home for the 30-Day  Challenge to Empty Nest Success

30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success

It's time to take control of your new reality and turn it into a positive experience. Do the FREE 30-Day Challenge to Empty Nest Success and get started on your amazing new chapter in life! All are welcome - whether the empty nest is ahead or you've been in it for years and anywhere between.